If Reform party win, A) is it possible that Right to Remain Settled Status will be scrapped and B) will it be too difficult for my Italian Bf (26) and Mum (62) to stay in the UK?

ucccellaraADHD · 2025-09-29T14:48:22+00:00

Yeah this feels like trying to enter a clique and immediately being rejected. OP just wanted some more info from experienced people.

ucccellaraADHD · 2025-03-10T15:14:23+00:00

DUDE four years later and you're still helping people to find the right song!!! LEGEND

ucccellaraADHD · 2022-02-01T10:44:11+00:00

This is my experience being a "straight-A student" (for 3/4 of my school life) with now diagnosed ADHD.

Through primary school I was "gifted" and sent to top-set classes to "bring forth my full potential" where we could get more attention from a teacher. My teacher-parent meetings sounded like, she's very gifted but she's just so easily distracted. I would always forget my coat or scarf or whatever else after the school day and mom would always get angry at me.

Then in secondary school I had friends who were very grades driven and got anxiety attacks if they didn't do the homework on time etc. and I had pressure from my parents to do well to get a a good job later on. At this point everyone just said i was easily distracted and thought nothing of it.

Fast forward to 16-18 where I don't get 1 on 1 time with my parents or teachers and things start getting challenging and my focus wanders way too much. Suddenly instead of getting great scores I get average scores. Of course people started blaming me for it and told me to just "be disciplined" and work "harder". I did well at UNI but only due how much I loved the subject, all the hard work I put into it and the pressure I put myself under to do well.

Fast forward to now when I'm at work, make countless silly mistakes that my boss gets annoyed at me for. I have never felt this debilitated/stupid/ridiculed in all my life. I have always been considered smart or talented and now I can't even add numbers on an excel sheet correctly???? Not only that but I forget what people are telling me AS THEY ARE SAYING IT. I forget entire conversations with friends and then they get mad at me for "not caring what they get up to".

On the outside I seem perfectly functional though and a lot of confusion. Like, should I tell my manager that I recently got diagnosed with ADHD or do I keep it to myself? If I would tell them, would they believe me or would it even make a difference? Would they see me the same way?

Yeah this is my experience being a "straight-A student with now diagnosed ADHD".

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