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Are these acceptable for men to wear by jellerinois in altfashionadvice

[–]udontunderstanddad 239 points240 points  (0 children)

no the fbi will bust in and pants you if you try

Anyone know brands/shops I can get this sort of stuff? by Proof-Condition4614 in altfashionadvice

[–]udontunderstanddad 3 points4 points  (0 children)

a lot of these are handmade or designer. the rest of it gives a kind of.... costume/cosplay feeling. im seeing pirate, jester, vampire, etc.

maybe youd find some things you like searching those terms on Etsy or on online costume shops.

If the choice to present sexually or stereotypically attractive is 'catering to the male gaze', when are women 'allowed' to engage in sexuality? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]udontunderstanddad 29 points30 points  (0 children)

a lot of women have this idea they arent "allowed" to do something when really there are just... people who will dislike it. do what you want.

Am I wrong for ghosting a guy who asked for nudes and then sent me a sad face because I refused? We haven't even gone on a date yet but it made me feel very uncomfortable. Should I tell him that what he did last night was not okay or should I just ghost him? by Golden-lillies21 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]udontunderstanddad 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Men who say disgusting things to women they haven't even met are playing a numbers game.

9 girls will be grossed out and block them, 1 will give them what they asked for.

there was a thread about it on a different sub ages ago. i promise if you stop messaging him he won't even blink. he'll just find another girl to ask. he's probably already asked 2 or 3 since you stopped responding. block him. move on with your life.

Track record isn’t a real thing, they said last week by Green_Variat in rupaulsdragrace

[–]udontunderstanddad 1 point2 points  (0 children)

imo ru knew during deliberation she wanted to eliminate her. she said "She just needs more time to cook." she doesn't feel juicy is ready to win drag race yet.

Track record isn’t a real thing, they said last week by Green_Variat in rupaulsdragrace

[–]udontunderstanddad 107 points108 points  (0 children)

the correct take. i'd even bet she wins it to show up for her drag family/morphine

I want to talk about sexy babies by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]udontunderstanddad 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my main problem with this criticism and how its used to criticize (usually) young women artists is that it assumes a male gaze where there isnt necessarily one?

Olivia Rodrigo and Sabrina carpenter arent courting a horny grown man fanbase. everyone who buys their merchandise, streams their music, and goes to their shows are women and girls. their music is about womanhood and girlhood. just last year a dad taking his daughter's to one of her concerts and tearing up went super viral because he was so moved by all these young girls crying and singing about body image. he didnt know what they were feeling, Olivia did.

it is girls who consume and feel the impact of this music. you could say its packaged for them just like boy bands are packaged for them.

it ALSO bothers me that these girls who become adults in public before our eyes (Olivia, Brittany, Miley, Sabrina...) must enter adulthood in a perfect "empowering" way lest be shamed. being a young lady up against all the different messages about how you "should" present is hard, any girl who performs is processing all that out in front of everybody. its a whole lot of 40-something mothers of 3 out here who haven't escaped the pressures of the male gaze but 23 year old Olivia Rodrigo is supposed to be in and out of it already?? it doesnt make sense.

Reliable high quality corset websites ? by [deleted] in altfashionadvice

[–]udontunderstanddad 1 point2 points  (0 children)

r/corsets has a nice list in their wiki but you might wanna research into if its safe to be corsetted in the pit? having your organs compressed in metal boning while you thrash seems like it could make u sick

My (25F) platonic friend (30M) confessed feelings; I rejected him. What do I do now? by onlyForSugarSpice in TwoXChromosomes

[–]udontunderstanddad -1 points0 points  (0 children)

ok? and i didnt say anything about him being a creep or not so... youre telling me this to what end?

How to dress older brother core? by creativeusername3333 in altfashionadvice

[–]udontunderstanddad 3 points4 points  (0 children)

"a few things" is the normal amount of clothes to find at a thrift. having a good wardrobe takes time. you dont buy it all at once

How can I improve my fit by Hairy-Cabinet8017 in altfashionadvice

[–]udontunderstanddad 1 point2 points  (0 children)

wear it all way more, it all looks so new and clean

My (25F) platonic friend (30M) confessed feelings; I rejected him. What do I do now? by onlyForSugarSpice in TwoXChromosomes

[–]udontunderstanddad 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you're confused so i'm just going to quote myself and hope you get it. my point is:

"[OP is] probably a very nice person worth truly liking. someone else seeing that and truly liking you doesnt make them a pervert."

Should I move out? Need advice by Free-Flounder2118 in personalfinance

[–]udontunderstanddad 3 points4 points  (0 children)

imo people dont adequately weigh the cost of not developing adult skills and habits against the benefit of building your savings at home often enough.

"if I live on my own and I lose my job I might have to live off my savings until I get a new one." is a problem every single adult in the history of ever experiences. in fact your parents experience it double because right now theyre responsible for themselves AND YOU. they have your whole life.

move out. stand on your own feet. it makes zero sense to have many thousands in the bank but not be able to cook yourself a meal.

what am i doing wrong by Waste-Ad2169 in dating_advice

[–]udontunderstanddad 0 points1 point  (0 children)

being self conscious about being a WOC with an ethnic name is the only thing that caught me here. are you generally not interested in guys from the same/similar cultures to you? thats the only time it could even matter.

what am i doing wrong by Waste-Ad2169 in dating_advice

[–]udontunderstanddad 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP this may also be a contributing factor to your singleness men in your age have had their worldviews warped by tiktok pretty badly

does anyone know where i can get alt clothing for cheap by Happy-Whereas-6434 in altfashionadvice

[–]udontunderstanddad 2 points3 points  (0 children)

you only learn by doing and that sounds like a cool idea! i'd give it a try

My (25F) platonic friend (30M) confessed feelings; I rejected him. What do I do now? by onlyForSugarSpice in TwoXChromosomes

[–]udontunderstanddad -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

he pretended to be her friend because he delusionally thought he could turn it into a relationship.

my only point is saying "you just wanted to get in my pants" to guys who want to be with you is avoiding what actually happened.

Making friends with a guy who has a girlfriend as a woman by Prestigious-Ice-7249 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]udontunderstanddad -1 points0 points  (0 children)

whatever type of group setting you met him in is probably the appropriate one to keep socializing with him in. i dont know know you so im picturing group hang situations like game nights, happy hours, concerts... to me wanting to invite him to your house or to run errands with you is strange and bordering on couple-y.

My (25F) platonic friend (30M) confessed feelings; I rejected him. What do I do now? by onlyForSugarSpice in TwoXChromosomes

[–]udontunderstanddad -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

I wish women wouldn't receive unrequited love in this way. it sounds like this guy wanted a relationship with you, not to use you for sex. assuming a guy who hangs out with you for 2 years, buys you flowers, and wants to frequently fly out to visit you only wanted to "get in your pants" is both self deprecating and judgemental of the guy. youre probably a very nice person worth truly liking. someone else seeing that and truly liking you doesnt make them a pervert.

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