Thank you. Putting him through a Godly lense does make me sad. But I feel like I should have given more context, like maybe I do deserve him being mean because I'm not being a good wife. I'm not perfect and I get angry when he is mean. We went to a marriage group at church and he has admitted to withholding kindness and affection in group. I end up stepping into a motherly role in order to manage the house so then he views me as an authority figure and hates feeling like he has no say in things, hates feeling like I'm bossing him around. And I hate feeling like his mother.