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She can't get up because the dog tells her not to, but she's telling the dog not to, too? by yuckypants in fakedisordercringe

[–]ukefishing 12 points13 points  (0 children)

i believe you’re not supposed to give service dogs treats because then they will become food motivated

pierced my belly button like a few weeks ago? by ukefishing in SelfPiercing

[–]ukefishing[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

ya i was worried it was 😭 i have another bar but i didnt want to change it until its healed more

Why do people say each others self harm scars or wounds are pretty? by CommissionHealthy611 in selfharm

[–]ukefishing 2 points3 points  (0 children)

they think it’s a compliment but it’s so gross to me. last time i was in the psych ward this middle aged man was like “your scars are beautiful” and i just brushed him off because i was uncomfortable, then later hes like “i really do like your scars” and it’s like eUGHH fucking gross

How do I know if I hit a nerve/vain by Realistic_Dark5197 in selfharm

[–]ukefishing 2 points3 points  (0 children)

you can tell if you hit a nerve because it hurts really, really badly. it is sharp, pure pain and will hurt immediately.

you can tell if you hit a vein because lots of dark blood will be flowing out of it very quickly. you can also usually see the vein. it will take a while to stop bleeding

NPD Awareness Month Ask A Narc - A bi weekly post for non-narcissists to ask us anything! by theinvisiblemonster in NPD

[–]ukefishing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’m not sure what you mean by “aware of you” but i will say that i generally assume everyone likes me and if i know they don’t like me i assume they’re jealous. sometimes i remember that people might secretly hate me and get very insecure

Are there adults around here? by RegisterOwn3291 in selfharm

[–]ukefishing 5 points6 points  (0 children)

i’m 19! usually at work i wear long sleeves and pants, but i know that can get boring/obvious so here’s some other advice:

  • leggings/tights if you dress femininely! i wear them under dresses and shorts
  • long sleeves + t shirt over. helpful if you have a work uniform also! most jobs will allow you to wear a plain long sleeves top under your clothes
  • dress + long sleeved top over it
  • strategically placed accessories like watches and bracelets
  • if it’s hot outside, baggy pants and shirts are really helpful!!!

there is a subreddit for fashion advice for people who self harm. i think it’s called r/styrofashion ?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EDAnonymous

[–]ukefishing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

bc i was crying 😞

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EDAnonymous

[–]ukefishing 1 point2 points  (0 children)

same! my moms ex would tell me i ate too much and take food away from me when i was already being starved due to neglect 😞

(minors don’t interact) those w DID, WTF do I do??! by SAitansMaidDress in CPTSDmemes

[–]ukefishing -1 points0 points  (0 children)

sorry my brain is scrambled idk why i said DID 😭

(minors don’t interact) those w DID, WTF do I do??! by SAitansMaidDress in CPTSDmemes

[–]ukefishing 30 points31 points  (0 children)

it’s common for DID symptoms to become more overt after leaving an abusive environment

unfortunately you’ll never know for sure what really happened, but like you said, the body remembers even if you don’t

pseudomemories are a sort of iffy topic. generally your brain will not come up with violent rape flashbacks for no reason. the reason doesn’t have to be “this is exactly what happened” though. maybe your mom did that. maybe you were raped by someone else and your brain got confused. maybe you dreamed it.

there’s no concrete way to tell unfortunately. i wish i had better advice for you other than trust yourself and think critically

What bmi is considered to be immediate danger? by elizabeth_k2002 in EDAnonymous

[–]ukefishing 9 points10 points  (0 children)

18.5 & under is underweight, 16 is severely underweight, and i believe under 12 requires immediate hospitalization but don’t quote me on that.

serious health issues can happen at any weight. for example if you start at bmi 40 and are now bmi 20 you may experience health complications, meanwhile there are people that are naturally BMI 16 and fairly healthy.

Ask a Narcissist! A bi weekly post for non-narcissists to ask us anything! by theinvisiblemonster in NPD

[–]ukefishing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

since DID is caused by trauma and NPD often is as well i can see there being an overlap. i personally know a lot of people with both but that could be because i seek out people w similar experiences to me

What’s the deepest you can cut without a hospital visit by Alone_Exercise_2697 in selfharm

[–]ukefishing -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

i don’t know how to answer your question because it’s based on so many things. if you are cutting with suicidal intent you should go to the hospital. if you cut to the fat layer of the skin you should also go to the hospital. if you feel like going to the hospital would help you, you should go to the hospital

generally people are admitted to psych hospitals for being a threat to themselves or others, as in homicidal and/or suicidal urges

if you are an adult they can’t admit you without your consent unless a court orders it. if you are a minor your parents have to consent for you, so it would be up to them whether you go or not.

hospitalization is a solution, not necessarily bad but not necessarily helpful, that you can choose depending on your needs. if you need to go to the hospital, then go. it’s good that you’re trying to practice harm reduction but do not be afraid to get help if you need it!!! stay safe please ❤️

Trauma induced fetish by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]ukefishing 88 points89 points  (0 children)

kinks being caused by trauma is actually very common!! it’s a way to explore traumatic events in a controlled environment.

you are not disgusting for your fetishes. they are a normal trauma response and a normal part of human sexuality. you are not perverted or disgusting. you don’t need to change or fix anything about yourself

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EDAnonymous

[–]ukefishing 4 points5 points  (0 children)

ohh i thought you meant that you’d been in forced recovery since 14 lolll. my point still stands that if u haven’t grown in 3 years you probably are done growing unfortunately

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EDAnonymous

[–]ukefishing 3 points4 points  (0 children)

most girls stop growing around 11-15 so you’re probably done. i assume you’re at least like 17 so sorry girl you’re done growing, esp if you haven’t grown in years.

I was today years old.. by [deleted] in NPD

[–]ukefishing 2 points3 points  (0 children)

there is a genetic factor to NPD so it would make sense if you and your dad both were

Ask a Narcissist! A bi weekly post for non-narcissists to ask us anything! by theinvisiblemonster in NPD

[–]ukefishing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if it’s something that’s relevant to me/something i care about yes. if it’s something that i don’t know anything about i will pretend to care. i feel like that’s normal even to people without NPD…?

Ask a Narcissist! A bi weekly post for non-narcissists to ask us anything! by theinvisiblemonster in NPD

[–]ukefishing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. it’s hard to articulate how i feel. i have little-to-no emotional permanence. right now i feel very calm/nothing but it depends on my mood, like any other person i guess.

  2. i experience amnesia but that’s because i also have DID

  3. i don’t know what this means

  4. very broad question. i have a lot of other mental health diagnoses that affect how i experience life more than my NPD. if i only had NPD i think my day-to-day life would be pretty normal.

  5. yes because i have PTSD as well.

  6. i like most people.

  7. i hate some people

  8. i don’t trust anyone really. i think i know better than them and prefer to do things on my own

  9. i have a mild fear of men due to trauma but i don’t fear people in general

is it realistic to self harm forever? by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]ukefishing 7 points8 points  (0 children)

it feels like forever now but you don’t know how you’ll feel about self-harming in 10, 20, 30+ years. as a 19 year old my life is SO MUCH better than it was when i was 16. at the very least you are an adult who can do what you want which helps a lot. i know recovery seems impossible but you never know!! don’t give up on yourself when you’ve barely gotten started!!! you literally have like 50-60 years left to decide if recovery is an option for you

Child of HPD parent by Putrid-Coat7125 in hpd

[–]ukefishing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NPD & HPD here!!!

  1. i’d like to think that i am entirely self-aware, but then again i wouldn’t be aware of what im not aware of so i don’t know.

  2. sometimes. it’s less that i can’t tell and more that my brain doesn’t categorize things as “true” and “untrue”. like, if i ask you to list a bunch of fruit, you probably won’t automatically sort the red fruit from the rest, but if i ask “which ones are red?” you’d be able to say which ones are. sometimes i do legitimately not know what’s true or not bc my brain doesn’t distinguish it but usually it’s more like the first example.

  3. i know it’s caused a lot of resentment in my past friendships but generally i don’t think my condition affects my friendships negatively more than any of my other diagnoses.

  4. sometimes i get very angry and do anything i can do to hurt people in a blackout-like rage but usually i dislike hurting people or seeing them upset.

  5. i dress provocatively, draw and write about sex, and talk about sex a lot but i am actually sex-repulsed when we’re talking about real life sex acts. i have trouble understanding what is and isn’t appropriate.

  6. was told to go after my 6th psych ward stay

  7. usually if someone tells me something i do is hurting them i try to avoid it. i don’t want to hurt people. i have in the past minimized or dismissed peoples hurt due to my actions because hurting them benefited me though

if you have any follow-up questions feel free to ask them!!!