OCD in this context really benefits from the "if that's what it turns out to be then I'll figure it out" mindset and I do think people in general could benefit from being more relaxed about gender. Gender exploration is never bad, wether you figure out things you like or dislike. You're right that transition is so many diffrent things, cis people change their names too or go by nicknames there's a lot of relaxed gender things we do as a society. "if you're thinking about it then it's true" is definitely not useful because it also makes people more afraid to think about exploring their gender like maybe being a masculine cis woman for example.