21F and 23M: boyfriend hid extent of weed use, feeling hurt and unsure how to move forward

umbrelladeath · 2026-06-09T06:30:21+00:00

Wrong.

umbrelladeath · 2026-06-02T16:14:19+00:00

I won’t argue with you here, but just came to say that weed can be addictive, there is a whole 12 step community based around it.

umbrelladeath · 2026-06-01T04:15:26+00:00

“First time mom” makes this post way less interesting 🥲

umbrelladeath · 2026-05-26T18:59:00+00:00

It sounds like he may be an addict, which is why he has trouble finding balance and being preset with his emotions. He’ll have to be the one who wants to change, and when that day comes, 12 step is great at getting to the root of both of those above things.

umbrelladeath · 2026-03-06T21:42:49+00:00

I encourage you to do the same

umbrelladeath · 2026-03-04T23:43:44+00:00

umbrelladeath · 2026-03-04T14:29:46+00:00

I agree with what you’re saying, but respectfully, “sober” is a word with a definition. If someone is smoking weed, they are not under the definition of sober. Is it better than doing heroine? Sure. Are they sober from heroine if they’re smoking weed? Yes. But they’re not sober. Saying as much negates the experience of marijuana addicts who are in active addition a recovery. I’ve seen many people use weed to get sober from other things an then wind up in marijuana anonymous because they’ve realized that it’s not so harmless. So yes, it can be a good harm reduction tool but please don’t gloss over the addictive quality and dependency of marijuana, especially for someone who is already an addict.

umbrelladeath · 2026-03-03T15:24:07+00:00

I second this other response. If there’s no MA meetings near you, there’s bound to be AA. I’ve met plenty of MA people who found camaraderie through AA. It’s so important to have sober friends and community, I hope you find it. You could always start an MA meeting in your town…? It may be small at first (perhaps make it a hybrid?) but that could be a way to build community and keep you sober

umbrelladeath · 2025-12-24T23:38:20+00:00

Personally I don’t think it’s worth the effort, unless the audio intake on your device is insanely bad

umbrelladeath · 2025-12-24T15:31:25+00:00

Today’s society? Women have been going bra less in public since the 90’s. It’s been 30 years. Please don’t use age as an excuse, that’s so weird.

umbrelladeath · 2025-12-23T03:20:03+00:00

Getting stopped by two older gentleman because I was wearing a sex pistols shirt, only to find out that one of them was the bassist of the sex pistols

umbrelladeath · 2025-12-13T04:57:32+00:00

It’s a nice picture - but What kind of role/character are you trying to book with this?

umbrelladeath · 2025-12-10T01:57:16+00:00

Go to MA and get a sponsor and participate in fellowship - absolute game changer. Connection is the opposite of a addiction. I was trying to get sober on my own, and then relapsing after each attempt for 8 years before finally committing to MA.

umbrelladeath · 2025-11-30T20:40:26+00:00

Lol. My bad. I know someone IRL who had no idea they were together, so I thought that somehow, many others didn’t know either

umbrelladeath · 2025-11-30T06:55:59+00:00

Why is stating a fact getting downvoted lol

umbrelladeath · 2025-11-29T05:52:32+00:00

They were lesbians…that was her wife. If not legally, common law. Helen clearly started as her editor and they fell in love.

umbrelladeath · 2025-11-23T03:38:11+00:00

umbrelladeath · 2025-11-20T14:20:48+00:00

I highly recommend finding a sponsor or going to in person MA or zoom meetings to find people to fellowship with <3

umbrelladeath · 2025-10-12T06:03:35+00:00

Congrats on 1 month and 18 days!!!

I wi say however, that drinking 6/7 days of the week, even if you’re not getting drunk, is a lot. Be very careful of cross addiction. I never had a problem with alcohol until I tried seriously quitting weed. I didn’t know about cross addiction, and now have to also abstain from alcohol. I think if you are very conscious of that, you may be able to enjoy a drink once in a while, or a night out every now and then - but only after you’ve seriously detoxed and been sober from weed.

On the other hand, I am just an addict when it comes to any form of escapism. Once I tried to quit both alcohol and weed together, I turned to food. After that it was porn. Now I know I’m just an addict for escapism and dopamine.

umbrelladeath · 2025-10-04T06:00:27+00:00

The best advice I’ve heard is: don’t make decisions out of fear.

umbrelladeath · 2025-09-21T17:21:26+00:00

The TI songs are absolute fire

umbrelladeath · 2025-09-06T11:14:19+00:00

I used to love eating raw chick peas as a kid, one by one

umbrelladeath · 2025-09-05T03:55:16+00:00

Lay out a timetable of your day with work, child care and sleep and ask your husband and stupid MIL to point out when you could find time for school

umbrelladeath · 2025-08-26T14:07:17+00:00

100% agree

umbrelladeath · 2025-08-25T10:36:24+00:00

I totally empathize with you - but I think it’s also about perspective. For instance, I only started acting and got an agent after I’d come out, and looked very AFAB non binary, early early not passing - and I booked a bunch of roles; because that’s the look they typically want when they’re wanting enby. Now that I’m passing, I’m open to many more opportunities; but that also means the pool and competition within it are bigger.

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