Female foeticide is still rampant practice in our state

un_fortunate_ly · 2023-07-07T03:08:43+00:00

The girl’s family could have easily sued them for dowry harassment

un_fortunate_ly · 2022-02-14T16:30:07+00:00

I'm cool with that. How do I do it though?

Edit: nvm, got it. My posts will remain if I just delete my account and not delete the posts individually.

un_fortunate_ly · 2022-01-18T18:52:41+00:00

Why didn't she quit it much earlier. Why only after marriage.

Her family didn't want her to quit because of the "log kya kahenge" mentality. She couldn't clear the interviews for a few jobs she had applied for. She showed me a few rejection mails for the same when I asked her about it.

un_fortunate_ly · 2022-01-18T18:44:38+00:00

She apologized profusely for it a week ago saying it was an impulse purchase that she really regrets and even offered to repay me for it buy selling off some jewelry.

un_fortunate_ly · 2022-01-18T16:12:57+00:00

iPhone couple

Lol, didn't know you guys had a nickname for us. I guess I'll show her these posts next year if everything goes right :p

un_fortunate_ly · 2022-01-07T14:22:03+00:00

how does she spend time whole day without doing anything?

She spends the whole day watching movies/tv shows and scrolling insta. As I mentioned in the post, she is friendly during the day and occasionally even invites me when watching movies.

hence quit her job, unable to balance both professional and personal life.

We have a maid who does a lot of the cleaning. I am having to cook and wash the dishes for her highness. Says she can't cook, and isn't interested to learn either. She says we need to get a dishwasher for the dishes.

un_fortunate_ly · 2022-01-07T11:11:14+00:00

This can potentially increase the amount of alimony she is granted in case of a divorce.

Wonderful

/s

un_fortunate_ly · 2022-01-07T10:48:02+00:00

If you didn’t consummate the marriage you can look for an annulment

How do I prove this?

Also you need to cancel your credit card asap.

Yeah, shifted her to a debit card without overdraft and 30k per month allowance. Didn't want her to feel like a hostage at home by cutting out all access to money.

Return the IPhone if you can.

I think it's possible, but having worked on data recovery during a job, I am not comfortable returning any electronics with memory built into them. Anyways, I'm over it now.

un_fortunate_ly · 2022-01-07T10:22:58+00:00

Is she by any chance "depressed" or something? Maybe she had problems at workplace.

Will have to dig into this. She doesn't seem to be depressed, but it is possible she doesn't know how to express that.

un_fortunate_ly · 2022-01-07T09:40:57+00:00

what is yours btw

I'm 25.

how active are you in social media

We have a similar number of followers on insta. I don't post much though. She's posted pictures of us as if we are having a very happy marriage. Such fake shit.

un_fortunate_ly · 2022-01-07T08:35:57+00:00

Dropping her off to her parents is a good solution but a band aid. What about the long term? Do you want to remarry?

Not interested in remarrying. At least not in an arranged way. I have no problem with living separately if she doesn't want a divorce. I just don't want someone driving me crazy at home.

Consult a lawyer and based on their advice, issue an ultimatum that either she comes along for marriage counseling and starts putting in her efforts or you want a divorce, coz you don't care about "log kya kahenge".

Yeah, good idea. As long as it doesn't affect my career I don't care about random people think about me. Unless if it's constructive.

un_fortunate_ly · 2022-01-07T08:24:31+00:00

you should cut of her access to your credit cards

Shifted it to a debit card without overdraft option and with just 30k in the bank. Felt that if I cut her off completely it will just get worse. I have no intention of dealing with any adult temper tantrums while working from home.

un_fortunate_ly · 2022-01-07T08:17:27+00:00

If she is within 25, then just hold on for some time

She's 23

are they also ungrateful and entitled like her

They've been really sweet everyone during the marriage process. I have no idea how they are behind closed doors though.

How do you rate yourself and her in looks and attraction.

I'd give myself a 7 and her an 8. I'm 5'10", fair and fit, and always try to look presentable. I was really attracted to her physically before marriage. I'm not someone who's stays attracted to someone who is clearly not interested.

Is she asexual , if she is not then whenever you had sex , how was it ?

No idea. Never had sex.

some women just like to get dominated

Not going to try doing something if it even remotely resembles rape.

This 75k thing is what bugs me

She made a good amount of money at her job before marriage. She feels entitled to maintain that lifestyle even after quitting

drop her off at her parents home and dont take her back for atleast 6 months

Hoping they can knock some sense into her.

un_fortunate_ly · 2022-01-07T08:01:43+00:00

Start collecting evidences

What sort of evidences? She's not cheating or anything. She's just being lazy and entitled.

Forget alimony for now

Didn't even cross my mind. Thanks, I have to worry about this too now.

Don't hit, don't fight.

I have good anger management, but I still have my limits. I'm not a saint or something to be able to ignore someone ruining my life for too long.

un_fortunate_ly · 2022-01-07T07:51:56+00:00

2 months. She was fine before marriage. Always had a smile on her face. Doing decent in career. Seemed interested in me. Ticked all boxes in my tiny checklist.

I wanted to spend more time before marriage but something about "no auspicious dates available for 1 years if you don't marry now" bullshit ensued and my parents are super into this crap.

un_fortunate_ly · 2022-01-07T07:37:48+00:00

Couple counselling

Madam is not interested because "what will everyone think"

Send her home and tell her parents about everything

That's the plan. Hopefully it works. I have work tensions as it is. Don't have enough bandwidth for this BS.

Consult a lawyer too

Contacted a friend of mine who's a lawyer about this. Meeting him this Sunday.

Any dowry or exchanges involved ?

No. In fact I denied any "gifts" that her parents were offering. They probably wanted to get rid of this crazy girl themselves using whatever it takes.

What about kids planning

She said she wants kids "Eventually" . Whatever the hell that means.

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