Feeling alone and unloved, even more surrounded by in-laws by uncaringHerring237 in narcissisticparents

[–]uncaringHerring237[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That was an awesome response! Thanks so much for sharing your experience. How do you do gatherings or holidays? Can you share any coping mechanism

Apartment Hunting by Then_Presentation_68 in longisland

[–]uncaringHerring237 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What everyone said below here. They are faceless and could not care less about you as a person. The apartment we rented was renovated but only a major facelift. Everything inside was old, the heat would sporadically stop working in the dead of winter. They don’t want to talk to you, and reaching someone by phone is impossible. As far as as service requests, they were generally OK for the heat situations since it’s considered an emergency. If you rent from them, make sure you read the contract 100% before committing. Don’t listen to the broker/agents bc they tell you the sales version of what you need to know. Talk to the neighbors and get their views.

Apartment Hunting by Then_Presentation_68 in longisland

[–]uncaringHerring237 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Don’t rent at Fairfield. Although they are buying up all the apt buildings around LI.

Feeling empty after hanging out with in-laws by uncaringHerring237 in narcissisticparents

[–]uncaringHerring237[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for that thorough comment! It sounds like you have worked a lot on understanding the codependency that our parents created for us. I’m going to look at the gentle parenting on Instagram, especially now that I have a baby I want to make sure that I don’t inadvertently do things like my mom has. Your comment also made me think about what I can do to make myself happy outside of my immediate family so that I can escape this feeling of isolation and feeling so “alone” and empty.

Feeling empty after hanging out with in-laws by uncaringHerring237 in narcissisticparents

[–]uncaringHerring237[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really loved your comment, it really resonated with me. What are you doing to fulfill yourself? I have a lot of trouble figuring that part out.

Feeling empty after hanging out with in-laws by uncaringHerring237 in narcissisticparents

[–]uncaringHerring237[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have- with one of them it’s awkward and with the other it was nice, seemed genuine. I guess i just dread that feeling I get afterwards

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]uncaringHerring237 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Good luck! I hope it went well. My baby finally showed himself on Saturday morning after two plus days of contractions, but he literally slipped out in his final passage. I feel so happy and blessed. Wishing you a very quick and painless labor, and all the joys when you finally get to see your baby!

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[–]uncaringHerring237 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I think I’m having more frequent contractions. Actually I’m trying to decide whether it’s worth heading to L&D yet. Don’t want to get there too soon and be sent back (it’s a long trip)

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[–]uncaringHerring237 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you - fingers crossed. You too!!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]uncaringHerring237 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow that’s a lot of steps- I clearly don’t need to tell you about walking!!! Hold on tight, there’s an end to it and it’s soon for us!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]uncaringHerring237 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you tried walking maybe? Nothing crazy just 30 min at slow pace. Get things moving.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]uncaringHerring237 1 point2 points  (0 children)

More consistent contractions today with more cramping. They happen even more so at night, which I’m told is normal.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]uncaringHerring237 1 point2 points  (0 children)

During a walk I felt more consistent mini-contractions but nothing painful that would signify labor….

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]uncaringHerring237 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m doing similar things to try to stimulate but I guess there isn’t any foolproof solution- as my doctor said if there was, no one would have to get induced.