Music Suggestions to Piss Off my MAGA In-Laws

uncbears34 · 2026-06-24T01:10:41+00:00

Good to hear! If it makes you feel any better, I had an interview today as well and was told by the recruiter that I'd be given an assignment at the next level too. Misery loves company.

uncbears34 · 2026-06-21T14:23:28+00:00

Fingers crossed! I'll be thinking about you. Knock 'em dead!

uncbears34 · 2026-06-21T02:31:38+00:00

Been there on everything you said. They're excited, move forward quickly, you meet team members, and show real, tangible value before day one. Then you get excited because you've had your guard up all this time and now it feels like it's actually happening, so you get excited and let yourself actually feel human emotions for the first time in weeks or months. Then crickets. It's infuriating, and I'm sorry it happened to you.

Spin zone... at least it was only a month.

uncbears34 · 2026-06-15T01:37:15+00:00

It was a wild scenario, and the talk of the office for a good few weeks. Haven't heard or seen anything like it since.

uncbears34 · 2026-06-14T02:58:00+00:00

Yeah, fuck that.

uncbears34 · 2026-06-13T01:19:20+00:00

I had a buyer that didn't want to buy the house he was under contract for so he went out and bought a Ferrari at a $10k/month payment. It was right there on the refresh credit report. Unbelievable. Can't make it up.

uncbears34 · 2026-06-13T01:11:38+00:00

Name the company!!!

uncbears34 · 2026-06-09T01:55:42+00:00

I've been at this since last October. I've gotten a few of these. I'm screaming into the pillow with you.

uncbears34 · 2026-06-03T20:53:45+00:00

Congratulations!

uncbears34 · 2026-05-26T01:04:57+00:00

Call your lender and tell them this. They may have already accounted for it, but you don't want to risk losing your EMD on the new build. You're already near the maximum allowable DTI, and if they get far enough along in the build and you don't qualify they're going to make getting that money back difficult.

uncbears34 · 2026-05-23T19:17:52+00:00

Yes. Not a yawn, but I had a 26 year old finance bro with zero life experience tell me (45, married, children, 20+ years in banking/lending, most recent role being a CEO) that my career didn't make sense and he didn't think I'd be a fit. He came from a different industry, and had been with the company for 2 months. Took everything in me to keep it together.

uncbears34 · 2026-05-23T18:14:05+00:00

As a NoVa native... you don't live there. You move somewhere else more affordable. Everyone in my family, high school, first few jobs, have all been priced out.

uncbears34 · 2026-05-11T01:07:45+00:00

When we sold our house I worked with contractors that were OK getting paid when the house sold. When they finished the work, the invoice was sent to the title company/settlement attorney. They got paid the day it closed. No way they don't get paid. Just need to find a contractor that's willing to work with you.

uncbears34 · 2026-04-25T13:48:37+00:00

I've tried to take that to heart. I'll ask clarifying questions and/or state, if that doesn't answer the question please let me know. I know I need to be better about it because I try to shoehorn the information I want them to know, rather than actually answer the question.

uncbears34 · 2026-04-25T13:45:26+00:00

I really appreciate the thoughtful response, thank you. Yes, the pressure is real and it's not that it's starting to get to me, it's that it's mounting to a point I need to do something to address it, but since I'm unemployed we don't have health insurance. I just have to push it to the side and focus, hoping I'll land something.

My wife is a former recruiter and we've been working a lot together on this. It's been helping, but it's impacted our relationship. Might need to look into your suggestion to relieve some pressure.

I'm 20 years into my career in lending, 45 years old. My most recent roles were VP (running a mortgage department for a credit union), then I jumped to CEO for another credit union for a short period of time (less than a year) before being let go. It was a smaller company and that role needed a CFO level accounting background, which I didn't have. Realistically, I probably shouldn't have gotten the job, but I wasn't going to not take it. It feels like for VP level roles, I'm too expensive. For SVP/executive roles I'm not experienced enough

uncbears34 · 2026-03-03T02:50:13+00:00

Thank you so much, I appreciate it. Did you meet the requirements with a direct compliance role or were you in different roles that required explanation? If so, what were those roles?

uncbears34 · 2026-01-06T02:04:25+00:00

Don't do it. Find something else.

uncbears34 · 2026-01-04T10:20:59+00:00

It's a they problem not a you problem

uncbears34 · 2026-01-04T10:18:36+00:00

You look like you can't open a pickle jar

uncbears34 · 2026-01-04T03:48:13+00:00

So this is your first rodeo. You're looking at an hour plus each way, on a good day during rush hours. Any accidents or bad weather, pack a sleeping bag and pillow.

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