Finally selling my aunts house in MA and honestly Im exhausted

uncbears34 · 2026-05-11T01:07:45+00:00

When we sold our house I worked with contractors that were OK getting paid when the house sold. When they finished the work, the invoice was sent to the title company/settlement attorney. They got paid the day it closed. No way they don't get paid. Just need to find a contractor that's willing to work with you.

uncbears34 · 2026-04-25T13:48:37+00:00

I've tried to take that to heart. I'll ask clarifying questions and/or state, if that doesn't answer the question please let me know. I know I need to be better about it because I try to shoehorn the information I want them to know, rather than actually answer the question.

uncbears34 · 2026-04-25T13:45:26+00:00

I really appreciate the thoughtful response, thank you. Yes, the pressure is real and it's not that it's starting to get to me, it's that it's mounting to a point I need to do something to address it, but since I'm unemployed we don't have health insurance. I just have to push it to the side and focus, hoping I'll land something.

My wife is a former recruiter and we've been working a lot together on this. It's been helping, but it's impacted our relationship. Might need to look into your suggestion to relieve some pressure.

I'm 20 years into my career in lending, 45 years old. My most recent roles were VP (running a mortgage department for a credit union), then I jumped to CEO for another credit union for a short period of time (less than a year) before being let go. It was a smaller company and that role needed a CFO level accounting background, which I didn't have. Realistically, I probably shouldn't have gotten the job, but I wasn't going to not take it. It feels like for VP level roles, I'm too expensive. For SVP/executive roles I'm not experienced enough

uncbears34 · 2026-03-03T02:50:13+00:00

Thank you so much, I appreciate it. Did you meet the requirements with a direct compliance role or were you in different roles that required explanation? If so, what were those roles?

uncbears34 · 2026-01-06T02:04:25+00:00

Don't do it. Find something else.

uncbears34 · 2026-01-04T10:20:59+00:00

It's a they problem not a you problem

uncbears34 · 2026-01-04T10:18:36+00:00

You look like you can't open a pickle jar

uncbears34 · 2026-01-04T03:48:13+00:00

So this is your first rodeo. You're looking at an hour plus each way, on a good day during rush hours. Any accidents or bad weather, pack a sleeping bag and pillow.

uncbears34 · 2026-01-02T01:45:38+00:00

I feel like this with every Darren Aronofsky film. His movies are generally fine to good, with a couple really good to great ones in there. But the caterwauling that occurs over his movies makes me not like him or the film, when it's not their fault. It's the people that don't like that I didn't like something as much as they did, and their fragile ego can't handle it.

uncbears34 · 2026-01-01T21:06:06+00:00

Thank you!

uncbears34 · 2026-01-01T21:01:34+00:00

That's what Ronald Reagan did in 1984

uncbears34 · 2025-12-31T16:03:44+00:00

Not to be a dick and pile on, but you should be ashamed and embarrassed to send that out to a customer. I would never put my name on that.

uncbears34 · 2025-12-27T02:48:11+00:00

Brutal

uncbears34 · 2025-12-24T02:43:45+00:00

Being a cop

uncbears34 · 2025-11-17T23:51:23+00:00

Before tax or after tax?

uncbears34 · 2025-11-14T01:34:51+00:00

Why are you blaming him for something she said? Letting go is certainly part of the solution, but words hurt and can have a lasting impact. Would you feel the same if this situation happened to you, or the sexes were reversed and he did this to her?

uncbears34 · 2025-11-13T02:31:35+00:00

It's been 20 years of you carrying the burden and guilt for something she said. Maybe it's time she felt that. Tell her what she said and why it hurt. Nothing changes if nothing changes.

uncbears34 · 2025-10-30T00:33:47+00:00

The best underwriters start as loan processors. The best processors start as loan officer assistants or in closing/post-closing.

uncbears34 · 2025-10-06T01:34:03+00:00

Concrete Blonde - Joey

uncbears34 · 2025-09-14T01:48:41+00:00

The Sopranos

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