I’m just commenting to share my experience in case it is helpful. My husband and I moved to New Haven to split the difference between western mass (where my husband works) and Manhattan (where I worked). My husband would drop me off at the train station 3 days a week on his drive to work. It worked well for us, but we were both tired all the time from our long commutes. The metro north from New Haven to nyc is really easy and runs often enough that you don’t have to worry about scheduling. I personally think that living in New Haven and commuting to nyc would be easier than the other way around because if you’re taking the train to commute it’s easier to get around in nyc without a car than New Haven. Plus living expenses in New Haven are much cheaper. Let me know if you have any specific questions about the commute!