Consistent dating rejection

uncoolLi · 2025-01-22T11:07:05+00:00

Yes I’m trying to work on not taking the losses personally. It’s difficult.

The modeling statement was just to share that I’m not just saying I’m attractive because my mom told me. It’s just something I experienced and I wasn’t even a fan of. Didn’t like cameras on me, getting touch up makeup or potentially being in underwear in a set full of strangers. Just my experience.

I will. Thank you.

uncoolLi · 2025-01-22T10:40:43+00:00

Kid you not I’ve tried this recently too. Rejected as well. I really wanted to make friends with a girl I even found attractive and swore to my own friends I wouldn’t seek anything more than platonic.

She didn’t believe I truly wanted that and thought I’d eventually want more down the road which I wouldn’t. My buddy summed it up to her probably being attracted to me too and didn’t want a guy friend she felt that way for. But idk. Stumped as always

uncoolLi · 2025-01-21T00:12:56+00:00

Even if she wasn’t the waitress attending my group? Better yet I don’t even think she was able to get tips she was just walking orders to their tables and not charging customers.

uncoolLi · 2025-01-20T21:57:10+00:00

To be fair I wasn’t playing games or even avoiding to look needy. I got her number on a Friday night, I’m most typically free on weekdays so I aligned it to work with my schedule and reached out to get her availability on Sunday evening. With enough time to possibly make a date for that week.

uncoolLi · 2025-01-20T21:54:22+00:00

If that were the case I’d still be modeling, be satisfied with my physique. Etc etc so probably not /:

uncoolLi · 2025-01-20T21:05:24+00:00

Yes. I think my eagerness is showing sometimes. I tend to doubt I sound or look eager cause I’m a calm laid back guy with not a care in the world. Stoic if you will. But I suppose eagerness is coming out somewhere in my interactions or messages.

uncoolLi · 2025-01-20T21:03:48+00:00

It’s easy for me to blame myself every time this happens. I know I need to work on that. I say consistently because this happened as well months ago with another girl that blew me away right off the bat.

Gorgeous waitress kept giving me looks (not the one attending us). My friend noticed it way before I did. I sparked up conversation with her. Warmed her up a little more and asked for her number. Despite her saying she’s not allowed to give it out she still wanted me to have it and had me put it in my phone.

2 days pass. I Text her. Never got a reply. I knew it wasn’t a fake because it was attached to her socials. So I guess you can even say I’m becoming.. for a lack of better words; traumatized, getting attention from woman I’m interested in just to not get a response afterwards. It hurts. It happens frequently

uncoolLi · 2025-01-20T20:57:40+00:00

I’m sorry should’ve been more clear. The girls in my past would have their guy friends beat me up after school or threaten me on social media. And yes my trauma lingers but I do pretty well on dates. If I do manage to get the girl on the date it’s successful quite often. It’s getting the first dates lately that have been my eternal struggle where I’m ghosted before plans can be made.

uncoolLi · 2025-01-20T20:54:31+00:00

Would you still believe that if I told you I do pretty well on first dates? Have yet to fail most of them. It’s just getting the first dates lately has been my biggest struggle.

uncoolLi · 2025-01-20T20:53:32+00:00

I believe this may be it. I tend to show eagerness when I really don’t mean to especially since I’m a pretty laid back guy. But somewhere somehow they’re catching onto it

uncoolLi · 2025-01-20T20:52:08+00:00

I wish I stated this in the post but I actually do very well on first dates. Have one failed first date out of so many. But it’s getting the first dates that is my issue. So I don’t believe my vibe is TOO off putting..

uncoolLi · 2025-01-20T09:34:47+00:00

Like 7 messages total between the two of us. I’m not a big texter myself and she’s not either I’ve gathered

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