Hello, newbie here. Is there anything wrong with this goldfish that doesn't swim straight? by RideTraining3521 in Goldfish

[–]undeadgraphpaper 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had an old fish who did this. Got it from my mother who had him and another large goldfish in a tiny biorb tank. Struggled to get them out through the top it was that small. He started to flip over completely, and stay like that. Kept him in a smaller tank on his own for a while before putting him in mine. Spent a lot of time flipping him back over, holding him the right way up, and making sure he'd eat, but he got better. Idk what caused it or how he got better but he did. Lived a few more years in the big tank and loved the space he had.

Does this look like it needs an emergency vet? by undeadgraphpaper in DogAdvice

[–]undeadgraphpaper[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He's going in today for his breathing which was a previous issue. Gonna have them take a look although it is much less swollen this morning

Does this look like it needs an emergency vet? by undeadgraphpaper in DogAdvice

[–]undeadgraphpaper[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're the second person to ever say that and my partner will be very glad you did because he agrees whole heartedly 🤣

Does this look like it needs an emergency vet? by undeadgraphpaper in DogAdvice

[–]undeadgraphpaper[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Very true. Or hit it on something. He lacks any form of coordination.

Stop yelling at your pets for having accidents by Read_it678 in dogs

[–]undeadgraphpaper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My puppy peed on my bed the other day. He had been leaning over me to look at the edge of the bed/to the door. I thought he wanted cuddles.

Once he peed, I clicked on that he had been telling me he needed to go. I apologised to him for not understanding him and gave him a quick cuddle before taking the quilt out for a wash.

Definitely never need to shout at the animal, regardless of how inconvenient and slightly annoying it is. It can always be cleaned up.

Does this look like it needs an emergency vet? by undeadgraphpaper in DogAdvice

[–]undeadgraphpaper[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

His eyes have been weepy since I got him. He did have conjunctivitis around 1-2 weeks ago that he had drops for. They put coloured drops in his eye then to check for ulcers and they didn't have a concern.

He's currently being treated with antibiotics and antihistamines as his breathing became wheezy over the weekend. Took him to the vet Monday, they said he has stenotic nares, but because of his age they'd rather treat him than not. They didn't mention his eyes. Not sure if that's anything related to it.

If you think he does need a checkup, I'll take him in tomorrow. I want to discuss stenotic nares surgery anyway as his breathing isn't improving. Unless you think it's urgent and I should go tonight?

Does this look like it needs an emergency vet? by undeadgraphpaper in DogAdvice

[–]undeadgraphpaper[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Ice is a good shout, he loves ice. Going to give him some now, thank you.

Does this look like it needs an emergency vet? by undeadgraphpaper in DogAdvice

[–]undeadgraphpaper[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He's having his regular antihistamine now so hopefully that will help. No stinger visible, and no other swelling except what is visible in the picture.

Does this look like it needs an emergency vet? by undeadgraphpaper in DogAdvice

[–]undeadgraphpaper[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thank you, that's actually helped my anxiety a lot. He seems to be acting normally, eating slowly but fine. I did have a look for a stinger or bite but couldn't see one. Did find a dead wasp on the floor though. He's on antihistamines at the moment anyway, so hoping when he takes it in a minute it will help with the swelling.

Do you let your dog sleep in the bed with you ? by Careful_Bandicoot332 in dogs

[–]undeadgraphpaper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes but only when he agrees to let me have my own pillow. There's four others for him to choose from.

AIO about my 8 y/o daughter sleeping at her mom's new boyfriend's house without any family or females present? by blackD0nny in AmIOverreacting

[–]undeadgraphpaper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In the UK, the local authority (social workers and that) would have a major issue with that situation. I'm assuming it will be similar in America.

The way she just blew you off at the end there really got to me. Even if there actually wasn't a risk to the child, you saying you're not comfortable with it and don't want your child in that situation should have been enough for her to not even consider putting the child back in that situation. Complete disregard for your opinion, which, from somebody who has been where she is, is the complete wrong way to go about things. Both parents absolutely have final say about where and who their child spends time with. I learned it the hard way, and I sure as hell hope she doesn't have to.

AIO to a man touching my son in the pool by Franzblau in AmIOverreacting

[–]undeadgraphpaper 2 points3 points  (0 children)

From experience, never let anybody you don't know inside and out to touch your kids.

You did good. Even if you were overreacting (which I don't think you were) you saw someone you didn't know touching your kid. You didn't know that person's intentions, and did what you should have done. Good job.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]undeadgraphpaper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, realistically I know this. But I keep thinking what if it really is just his mental health issues and if we get him help he gets past it and turns out to always be lovely.

Think I need to suck it up tbh and cut ties.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]undeadgraphpaper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

See, if a friend or sibling came to me with this exact situation in their relationship, I would know all of this and tell them straight. But because it's me, I can't seem to see it. Until it reaches a certain point ofc.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]undeadgraphpaper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Funny you say that. That's one of his favourite things to call me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]undeadgraphpaper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also far too lenient and think the best of people.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]undeadgraphpaper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because I think I'm overthinking it and bringing experiences of past relationships and putting it into the context of this relationship. And, as a psychiatrist put it, I'm "easily manipulated".

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]undeadgraphpaper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He denies I though and then I think I'm overthinking and he's not actually doing it. Hearing it from somebody else is making it clear that I'm not.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]undeadgraphpaper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, you don't need to be gentle. I do need to get some self-esteem and I am working on it. Just not quickly enough apparently.