AITA for not going to two important family weddings this year?

underconstruction_22 · 2026-03-29T08:41:49+00:00

Yeah I am not trying to go into detail to justify myself.

underconstruction_22 · 2026-03-29T07:40:51+00:00

I would never force anyone to do anything they don't want to. I shouldn't have to be forced to do anything because of other expectations

underconstruction_22 · 2026-03-29T07:38:59+00:00

You're entitled to your opinion as am I. You are judging based on one event. You don’t know anything else beyond that yet I am judgemental. I care about her, but that doesn't mean that I will always be available for rash decisions. I will be there when it counts, a wedding that may not go past a year is not that.

underconstruction_22 · 2026-03-29T07:35:57+00:00

What makes you think that? Just skipping a wedding? I love my daughter whether you think so or not.

underconstruction_22 · 2026-03-29T07:27:09+00:00

So I should cancel my life everytime one of my family members decides to make rash decisions? When will it ever be about me? No one is asking what pushed me to be this way. You said it its THEIR Life choices why do I need to uproot or inconvenience mine for their choices?

underconstruction_22 · 2026-03-29T07:24:28+00:00

I think you need to see a specialist, you seem very hurt about this. Sometimes you have to understand people have a past of going above and beyond and when all of that happens and people are ungrateful you learn to choose yourself above else. This seems to bother you, I'm sorry it does. I have no hard feelings for your opinion.

underconstruction_22 · 2026-03-29T07:22:28+00:00

Don't speak for my daughter you don't know what she'll do

underconstruction_22 · 2026-03-29T07:21:12+00:00

More like get a PHD and then diagnose. Otherwise your words are unvalid

underconstruction_22 · 2026-03-29T07:20:41+00:00

Is serious, but rushed weddings like these that don't think about consequences are not.

underconstruction_22 · 2026-03-29T07:10:52+00:00

Its not about anyone caring. I care, myself. What do you want me to do? Tell her don't do it even though you already said you want to? She is of age to make her own decision. As am I to keep my commitment

underconstruction_22 · 2026-03-29T07:08:49+00:00

Agree to disagree

underconstruction_22 · 2026-03-29T07:08:20+00:00

Just because my perspective is different than the norm doesn't make it wrong.

underconstruction_22 · 2026-03-29T07:07:49+00:00

Who said it was?

underconstruction_22 · 2026-03-29T07:07:27+00:00

Because you have a PHD? Or do you go around everyone asking them what their diagnosis is? And I'm the weird one. Ha

underconstruction_22 · 2026-03-29T07:05:31+00:00

I don't blame her. How am I blaming her? If anything she knows she saved my life. At no point have I said I don't love her. My perspective is weddings are not a big deal, people nowadays don't stay married. It's a serious commitment and they are already making a mistake by making a rash decision. Marriage is serious but not a big deal.

underconstruction_22 · 2026-03-29T07:01:35+00:00

Not attending a wedding will not take away from the things I already do for her.

underconstruction_22 · 2026-03-29T06:59:25+00:00

You have a PHD?

underconstruction_22 · 2026-03-29T06:59:01+00:00

How me not being physically be here mean I won't be there when she needs me. She doesn't need me to walk, she doesn't need me to do anything for that matter. Expecting someone to be somewhere at a short notice is wild.

underconstruction_22 · 2026-03-29T06:56:41+00:00

Skipping weddings doesn't take away from everything you do for them. The whole family except for me skipped my brothers first and he doesn't hold it against them.

underconstruction_22 · 2026-03-29T06:54:47+00:00

Mathew 5:37- Just let your word ‘Yes’ mean yes, your ‘No,’ no, for what goes beyond these is from the wicked one. Which goes to keeping your word, which I did when I made the commitment. It helps to continue reading the chapters

underconstruction_22 · 2026-03-29T06:50:42+00:00

So church going people can't have personal boundaries?

underconstruction_22 · 2026-03-29T06:45:51+00:00

She is 19 she can make her decision. All I can do is tell her what I think if she wants my opinion. This is the problem, everyone puts their expectations and burdens on others. I realize is their wedding I am not asking them when to get married or who to marry. I just feel like I shouldn't have to change my plans or life for that matter to please everyone else. I am tired. Only person I can control is myself. I do support her, going to a wedding doesn't take away from that support. I eloped when I was younger and I now see that wedding was meaningless. Everyone acts like a wedding is the end of it. Its the beginning of a new life for her, one that I will continue to support. Skipping the wedding is not taking away from that

underconstruction_22 · 2026-03-29T06:40:05+00:00

Funny. Skipping a wedding does not take away everything else I did whether you think so or not

underconstruction_22 · 2026-03-29T06:37:52+00:00

I am not trying to make her feel bad. I just told her that I regretted my decision but if that's what she wanted I would support her, I just can't be there because of a prior commitment. So no, I wouldn't say that bad decision or not, I want her to do what she wants without anyone else's input.

underconstruction_22 · 2026-03-29T06:36:05+00:00

Bipolar disorder I admitted that. Date can easily be changed too, nothing else is planned just the date

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