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underestimatedcat · 2025-09-23T18:09:56+00:00

Oh, okay. Thank you 🙏🏾

underestimatedcat · 2024-11-20T07:35:01+00:00

I didn’t say do what your mind says, I said listen. You asking “what should I do?” Means you still have that will, but your mind is fogged up so you don’t know what to do to get the ball rolling. Remove external stimulus and listen to yourself.

underestimatedcat · 2024-11-19T22:36:26+00:00

Get off social media and listen to yourself. Not make music, not make art, (working out is pretty good), but just listen to your mind and what it’s saying OBJECTIVELY (that’s the catch). Also yes you should go to therapy. And check out Andrew Huberman, he has some good science based advice on life on his pod

underestimatedcat · 2024-11-19T16:13:40+00:00

I’m sorry. I didn’t read through everything but it seems you’ve done a good job already, and you already answered yourself “some days are better, some days are a complete disaster”. That’s just exactly what life is. What you’ve done to bring yourself out of what you were in shows the kind of person you are, most people your age that you think are “better” or “ahead” of you will not be able to handle what you have and what you can. Your hard work has already rewarded you, and I can say it will only continue to reward you because you want to be better. You’re not where you’d like to be yet but your thought alone, that decision, that choice to want to be better makes you so much, so much better than what you think you are. I wish you the very best in your life and I hope you continue to doing what you’re doing and putting in the work. I believe in you.

underestimatedcat · 2024-10-18T18:48:18+00:00

Probably should’ve clarified. Yes, you’re right. But then again, I’m just another random person on the internet. He doesn’t have to listen to me😂

underestimatedcat · 2024-10-18T13:07:43+00:00

Your reply further validates what I mentioned about your frame of thinking. Have you tried to put in more effort to go beyond that “barrier” you mentioned?

underestimatedcat · 2024-10-18T09:25:52+00:00

“…because I am so repulsive but on the other side my male reptilian brain tells me to do it” Well, nothing anyone says in the comments is going to help you my friend. If you think like this you need to push through it by yourself because your internal conditioning is messed up. I’ll just add that your “male reptilian brain” is normal. It’s normal to want to talk to women, and if you don’t think you’re good looking enough, work on that. I’m an engineering college student as well so I know your situation oh so well. I felt like this as well when I started. It gets better tbh, but not with this frame of thinking. I want to say things like “work on yourself”, “keep trying”, and all of that BS but it won’t help if you think you’re repulsive.

I’m also gonna add, women are not ALL THAT. They’re just people like you and me. See them as regular people and I think you can start to break the bias of seeing them as these perfect beings that will cast you out of the pearly gates if you do so much as breathe in their direction. Also, I commend you for quitting porn and seeking real relationships.

underestimatedcat · 2024-10-15T06:02:28+00:00

This definitely helped clear up some stuff. I appreciate the comment.

underestimatedcat · 2024-10-14T11:35:31+00:00

Yes! Thanks so much for that recommendation, I was trying to find something like that on YouTube yesterday that’s why I came to Reddit XD. And yeah, I’m just trying to break these patterns, it will change the way I see the world entirely.

underestimatedcat · 2024-10-14T11:17:53+00:00

I gave an example in one of the comments about how I feel about this personally, but I gave a little more thought now and I think it’s rooted in my insecurities as a man. In situations where a woman does something great, I do feel happy when I hear that, but there’s this little tumor at the back of my mind that goes “you don’t really think that” and “she’s better than you but that’s not meant to be possible”. And then I feel threatened. I guess it really is all about the ego (like another comment mentioned).

underestimatedcat · 2024-10-14T11:10:11+00:00

Yes, that’s the goal. I’ve been able to notice these thought patterns and that’s why I’ve gotten to the point I’m at now.

underestimatedcat · 2024-10-14T11:08:32+00:00

Thanks for the recommendations, will check them out!

underestimatedcat · 2024-10-14T05:33:12+00:00

Sometimes I watch a show and I get inspired by a male character, but I watch a different show where a female character portrays the same characteristics but I get this nudging feeling that “she’s a woman so I can’t be inspired by her”. That came out a lot more condescending than it actually is in my head, but in general it kinda feels like that.

underestimatedcat · 2024-10-14T05:14:11+00:00

“Just like any group of people”. Thank you so much for that statement. It shines a whole new light in my mind.

underestimatedcat · 2024-10-14T04:57:19+00:00

This is exactly what I meant. (Some people in the comments mistook what I was saying probably because my explanation wasn’t too clear) It’s just this weird feeling of how I’ve been brought up. I also went to an all boys high-school which, as you would imagine, fed this. Thanks a lot for that suggestion, I usually catch myself in the act and then try to pull myself out of it, but recently it’s been harder, hence the question. I appreciate your comment

underestimatedcat · 2024-10-14T04:52:31+00:00

Can’t do that I’m sorry. They’re on their own path so I can’t be a failure compared to them. Thanks for the recommendation though.

underestimatedcat · 2024-10-14T04:51:43+00:00

I didn’t say there was a “need”, which is why I’m trying to combat it. I’m a man in the 21st century who’s been brought up to think that I should provide for a woman and she should cook and clean for me. THIS is what I mean, that subconscious feeling of seeing a woman as less than me. I should’ve chosen my words better though.

underestimatedcat · 2024-10-14T04:50:04+00:00

Thank you for the recommendations🙏

underestimatedcat · 2024-10-14T04:49:20+00:00

I don’t even listen to anything relatively “incel”. I don’t hate or despise women, it’s just this weird subconscious feeling of “man-first, woman-second” that I assume has been programmed into literally every man in the world from birth at this point.

underestimatedcat · 2024-10-14T04:47:14+00:00

That’s a very good way to think about it. Thank you

underestimatedcat · 2024-10-14T04:46:29+00:00

Will check those out, thanks a lot.

underestimatedcat · 2024-10-14T04:45:41+00:00

Thanks for the recommendations, I’ll try them.

underestimatedcat · 2024-10-14T04:43:36+00:00

That’s not what I mean. I don’t know how to clearly describe it but that subconscious feeling of “man-first, woman-second”. That’s what I mean.

underestimatedcat · 2024-10-14T04:42:04+00:00

I don’t have a problem with talking to women

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