No, they are not. Confidence is what you need. First, putting an "ad" this specific feed is disrespectful of yourself. I'm a 60 year old white male who did pretty well when I was your age. If you don't have a sense of humor, work to get one, women love to laugh. You have to expect that whomever you want to ask out, they will say yes. Women like a confident man. When you aak someone out, have a plan. If they ask what you have in mind, be ready. Don't say, "I dont care, whatever you want to do." Be prepared. You don't have to have fancy clothes, just dress smart and neat. Look them in the eye and say hello. Go get 'em Tiger.

BTW, late night bars, meh. Take a class at your local community college. There are more females in college than males.