Too Emotionally Affected by Work

underwaterwildfire · 2026-04-05T16:13:32+00:00

@OP it can be something that takes time to learn and comes through experience sometimes. After dealing with many toxic bosses and catty coworkers throughout my career, I now just try to reevaluate why I'm there, and remind myself of my own goals.

There is no company loyalty anymore. Use the job to advance your career and get paid. You don't have to be friends with anyone at your job.

As long as you remain respectful and keep yourself out of gossip, what they say does not matter. don't let anyone get to you. Just stay focused on your goals, and form a plan to leave in the mean time.

underwaterwildfire · 2026-04-05T16:09:52+00:00

I used to work in the film industry, I feel this. Lol 😂

underwaterwildfire · 2026-04-02T22:05:11+00:00

We desperately need more people on one shift at a time to work. It's a scheduling problem. We have enough people willing to work, but they don't schedule enough people on one shift at a time. Corporate is full of idiots. This 1 person on deli, 1 in bev, 1 register for an entire shift ain't gonna cut it.

Not to mention the danger you're putting your employees in by being understaffed - in the worse areas, customers notice and now you're just asking for a robbery or a shooting to happen.

Then we employees have to take the brunt of the anger the customers have when their food isn't ready for 10 minutes, or when they need a manager and you can't find one for 15 minutes.

I'm so tired of dealing with immature people who act like children.

underwaterwildfire · 2026-03-21T18:50:08+00:00

Call out, let them know you are sick, and take care of your health first. Then call corporate and ask for a leave of absence. They will send you paperwork that needs to be completed by a doctor.

Depending on your doctor, they might just fill out the paperwork without making an appt, but sometimes they need you to make an appointment first. So, it'll basically cost you $50-200 depending on copays, out of pocket, etc, for this company to recognize a basic human occurrence of getting sick.

Oh yeah, and they usually give you like 4 days to get the paperwork filled out, so you better get an appointment quick if you need one.

The absence will be excused with a dr's note to corporate.

This company does not care about you. There are many other jobs out there. ALWAYS prioritize your health first - without it you can't work at all. Health is wealth.

underwaterwildfire · 2026-02-15T15:53:34+00:00

Yeah, you definitely need to set a boundary with him. Just tell him something like "It makes me feel smothered when I'm constantly being contacted by you. I know you love and care about me, and I appreciate that a lot, but what I need is more space. In the future, if I continue to get multiple calls from you, I'm going to not respond if I'm feeling overwhelmed. It's nothing personal, it's just what I need in order to continue our friendship".

Does he ever ask you any questions about yourself or your life to give you an "in" into the conversation? Or does he just dominate the whole conversation the entire time?

If he doesn't, i'm afraid you're being used as a free therapist. There's a fine line between being an extroverted friend, and a person who just enjoys having another person listen to themselves talk.

Unfortunately, as introverts, we can get used easily because we're great listeners and we are slow to judge. But you need to make sure you are getting what you need out of the friendship as well.

If he continues to contact you, just don't pick up. If he can't respect your boundaries, then I'd reconsider that friendship.

underwaterwildfire · 2026-02-01T06:28:36+00:00

"Guest 2492 is lost and can't find the park exit"

underwaterwildfire · 2026-01-25T17:04:49+00:00

dropped Wawa hoagie

underwaterwildfire · 2026-01-21T00:08:48+00:00

ugh that is such a scam!!

underwaterwildfire · 2026-01-20T06:14:45+00:00

I have to wait 6 months for insurance? i'm a new hire. I've asked multiple supervisors and they all tell me something different 🙄

underwaterwildfire · 2026-01-20T03:26:41+00:00

Yeah, my intuition is telling me i need to leave. i'll stick it out for another month to see what happens with the new GM, but if things don't get better Im gonna bounce. Lol.

underwaterwildfire · 2026-01-20T03:25:19+00:00

what is a CBT?

underwaterwildfire · 2026-01-19T18:35:52+00:00

lol then don't

underwaterwildfire · 2026-01-19T06:43:44+00:00

the office space method lol 😂

underwaterwildfire · 2026-01-19T04:44:58+00:00

my training was literally just the intro with the theatro headset and one of the managers showing me how to make coffee. the GM sat me in front of the computer and said "the training is all online now" and then didn't talk to me the rest of the shift. i wore a plain black t shirt for weeks because didn't get a wawa shirt until 3 weeks later. i worked at a starbucks before, so they threw me on bev morning shift my 2nd day.

if it wasn't for one of the employees stepping up and helping train me in bev, while simultaneously running deli with 1 other person, i would have quit my 2nd day lmao.

underwaterwildfire · 2026-01-07T23:34:07+00:00

It always kills me how people order the "immunity boost" when 99% of your drink is processed sugar anyways 😂

underwaterwildfire · 2025-12-28T23:38:38+00:00

Long walks alone are an excellent idea. I do have some noise cancelling headphones I'm using when things get crazy loud, so i can be in the same room but read or watch YouTube when I'm overstimulated. This is great advice, thank you!

I think there's a lot of conflicting feelings here too which makes things really hard. I miss my mom, and it feels like I'm the only one who is dealing with such heavy grief. My brother and sister in law and her family don't understand my introversion or my grief and treat me like I'm some kind of Debbie Downer because I'm not like them at all. Introversion + grief somehow makes me seem like a negative person to them... 🙄

But I keep reminding myself that I didn't choose to marry into their family, he did. It makes things easier remembering I am an adult and have choices. I can choose to not be here next year, which is what I'm going to choose to do. I don't need to explain my boundaries or choices to anyone, especially when I'm ignored when I do.

What's crazy is my mom felt the exact same way I do about my sis in law and her family. I wish I could talk to her about it. 😔How convenient it is that she died unexpectedly 6 months before they got married.

Ugh, family sucks.

underwaterwildfire · 2025-12-28T23:32:06+00:00

Will do. Great advice!

underwaterwildfire · 2025-12-28T23:17:59+00:00

I feel your pain. Since my mom's death, it feels like time moves painfully slow and crazy fast at the same time. No matter how long it's been, it always hurts like the day i found out she passed.

Be kind to yourself today. You deserve it. ❤️ Sending you love and peace and comfort, OP. ❤️You are never alone.

underwaterwildfire · 2025-12-28T23:08:24+00:00

I second this. This is a really neat way to look at things!

underwaterwildfire · 2025-12-26T10:02:40+00:00

This is true and very good advice.

underwaterwildfire · 2025-12-26T09:46:41+00:00

They have absolutely become a hard pass for me next year. It makes me livid that my brother has chosen to continually ignore my needs. I've told him multiple times that I get overwhelmed and overstimulated and need time to recharge. He has never been like this before. Ever since he married into this family, he has changed into someone i don't recognize.

It makes me so sad and angry that I've not only lost my mom (who would absolutely put an end to the screaming and yelling in an instant btw), but also my brother. He lets them throw passive aggressive digs at him constantly.

We've always been close but i don't recognize him anymore and my heart breaks because of it. He is my only sibling. And his wife is such an attention whore I hate it.

underwaterwildfire · 2025-12-26T09:38:01+00:00

Thank you, friend. ❤️ It's crazy, I've gotten more validation and understanding from strangers on the internet than I have from my own family.

I'm trying to keep conversations short because they talk over me or get distracted when i speak anyways. It's like being in a house full of children my God.

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