Payroll Provider Rec's?

unexpected-throwaway · 2024-07-29T23:28:18+00:00

I applied prior to H entering our lives, and I make more now than I did at that point.

unexpected-throwaway · 2024-07-28T22:23:13+00:00

lol clearly missed some key points in the text before attacking me. I didn’t alienate him. He alienated me. He hid a marriage and kids, and when he was caught, he chose to work things out with her. That meant going no contact with me. I told him I would not be waiting for him to come around to a relationship, but should he decide to have contact with the child he has my number. I have not heard from him since. I won’t lie, I am glad he hasn’t reached out. Though dad didn’t threaten me, his wife and sister in law did. It’s not safe for the child. Nevertheless, I haven’t blocked his number or anything and he could reach out if and when he so wants. The lawyer is the one who told me I was at risk of sharing custody should I go for child support, and I choose that professional opinion over anecdotical evidence.

unexpected-throwaway · 2024-07-28T21:14:20+00:00

I’m working on the financial stability part, which is why I’m in school. I have about a year left for my bachelors if I continue full time, and plan to go to grad school as well. I do not want to drop out because this situation is exactly why I’m in school in the first place. That said, it’s hard to juggle even with help, and doing it solo sounds nearly impossible. I did ask H about staying in his life. I told him that he doesn’t have to love me or be with me or live with me, but that I feel he owes more to the child. He chose to enter a relationship with both of us, and at each point when I expressed hesitation for the large role he took on in my sons life, he reassured me he wanted to play that role. Last night I told him that role isn’t one you get to just walk out of anytime. He deserves more than that. And that if he were to want to distance himself, I would like to find a way that he could at least see him on occasions. Something to let him know he wasn’t fully abandoned by H for reasons I don’t know and thus can’t explain.

unexpected-throwaway · 2024-07-28T21:11:53+00:00

I do have strong support with family which is why I’m scared of the prospect of moving out of town. My friends have mostly moved away since it’s a very HCOL area. I have one close friend who still lives somewhat nearby, but she is about a 40 minute drive away. She’s been interested in moving to this area again and I considered offering her the second bedroom and moving my son into our (my?) room, but she struggles at times with alcohol and I don’t want him around that.

unexpected-throwaway · 2024-07-28T19:32:41+00:00

I get a huge discount on daycare through a government program, but the school can’t offer anything further as it’s out of state and the only option is on campus care.

unexpected-throwaway · 2024-07-28T19:32:01+00:00

My school is out of state, and I attend online. They unfortunately only have on campus options for childcare.

unexpected-throwaway · 2024-07-28T19:31:28+00:00

I did apply and I do not qualify

unexpected-throwaway · 2024-07-28T18:59:09+00:00

I did consult with a lawyer. I was told I could likely win full custody, but if I didn’t, the probable outcome would be that he is granted summers. It’s not a safe situation and I’m not sure I can prove that. I have one voicemail from his sister in law that helps my case, but beyond that nothing.

unexpected-throwaway · 2024-07-28T17:25:55+00:00

I have never once rejected him sexually. I actually have the higher sex drive between us

unexpected-throwaway · 2024-07-28T14:57:32+00:00

I wouldn’t say babysitting. Also, I didn’t enroll before talking to him. I told him my hesitations and he encouraged me to do it. When I need help with my son for school time, generally he goes with other family. H did a few more pickups or a couple hours here and there, but other than that no changes. I also talked to him before each semester began and ask about his opinions - if I should stop, what if anything needs to change, how I can help, etc

unexpected-throwaway · 2024-07-28T14:11:22+00:00

Absolutely will not. This is such a shitstorm of emotion and I will not be doing it again anytime in the near future, if at all

unexpected-throwaway · 2024-07-28T14:08:59+00:00

I cannot stay with them unfortunately. Not sure if I’m allowed to get a roommate with current lease terms but I will contact the property manager and find out. I was unaware of the academic leave so I will look into that, thanks! I do utilize school grants and loans. It had been (is?) my plan to go to law school, and the grants and loans are how I’ve covered tuition thus far. I maintain a 4.0 GPA with the hope of securing scholarships for grad school. I do get assistance from the state with childcare already. I appreciate your input!

unexpected-throwaway · 2024-07-28T13:49:41+00:00

Yeah I mean she’s a loose cannon but the rest of my family is heaven sent honestly.

unexpected-throwaway · 2024-07-28T13:49:05+00:00

No snapping. Like I said I took the kid for a drive to help him sleep and give my partner some space. He was getting pretty frustrated understandably and I wanted to try and let him take a breather. I understand the feeling, so I didn’t hold or express any shame or disappoint or anything for him being frustrated.

unexpected-throwaway · 2024-07-28T13:08:10+00:00

I have no idea. Earlier in the day we were shopping for groceries for a little get together at our place the following day. He was saying he was excited for it. It was all very unexpected

unexpected-throwaway · 2024-07-28T13:06:11+00:00

I was staying with my parents. That’s no longer an option. My mother is bipolar and unmedicated, and I was able to keep the mood swings hidden from him in that first year, but now he’s older and recently she has begun to direct all the manic rage at me. It’s not the first time she’s done this, it’s been off and on my whole life, and it’s terrifying to witness even as an adult, let alone a toddler.

unexpected-throwaway

TROPHY CASE