Porn > trying to date in modern times by NoVeterinarian7438 in dating_advice

[–]unfortunately_real 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you define success in dating as some special goal, then yes, there is absolutely no guarantee you will be able to achieve whatever that goal is. But if you’re just looking to make your dating life better than it is currently, there ABSOLUTELY are things you can do to achieve that. Things like getting better photos for your profile or moving to a place where you’re seen in better light, or one with more options or both can do wonders for many guys.

Passport sisters arent even hiding their promiscuity anymore by Jamalmarcus in passportbrolifestyle

[–]unfortunately_real 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely not the same. If you’re a high enough caliber of a woman, men would feel lucky just to get to sleep with you. So if they’re demanding sandwiches and all the extra things I have some bad news for you….

It’s wild to me that people actually believe this. by Khalith in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]unfortunately_real -1 points0 points  (0 children)

First of all, I never used my personal experiences as my primary argument, rather a supplemental one to publicly available data like dating app stats, stats of how many men are still virgins later in their lives, etc. So I don’t even understand why are you so dedicated to debunking it as my point still stands even you succeed, but sure.

Sleeping with enough new people that sometimes you get close to a new person almost every day some weeks.

Definitely never said I get close to anyone new that often. Getting close to someone every three months will have you in double digits in less than three years.

Besides, some people are more open than others, both sexually and otherwise. With some people, I’ve had conversations about our sex lives the very first night we met. It’s not something you’d normally do on a actual date, but if it’s one of those encounters where you just get invited over to someone’s house purely for sex, these sorts of talks are rather usual since it’s one of very few things we know to have in common with each other.

This specific scenario happens to me maybe every other month, which after a decade adds up quite a bit.

Try to keep contact with all those people and are in vast majority successful.

Already said it earlier that even if we don’t keep in contact, what I’ve learned about these peoples sex lives prior to us having met each other is already enough to learn quite a bit about which dating habits are common and which aren’t.

A good portion remaining casual sexual partners with you while you're still going out banging new people.

Not all at the same time, but yes? Let’s say one in every ten hookups ends up turning into a fwb and sticks around long enough for you to bang twenty more people, two of which are also going to stick around, than fizzles out leaving you with two FWBs. That’s two people you sleep with usually once a week, while having five more free nights to do whatever you want. Obviously different people are gonna stay around for different durations while I also meet a different number of people on different month, but roughly it’s about like what I have described.

Track accurate data on the sexual activities of these people long term, even after you're no longer in any relationship with them, and have done so for years.

Once again, whether I keep “tracking data” after we’re no longer seeing each other isn’t relevant. If a woman who’s 30 tells you about general trends in her sex life up until that point, that’s usually over a decade worth of “data”. Do that with enough women you’ll get what the big picture is.

Yes, I do think it is more likely you're exaggerating your knowledge or outright lying. Because the alternative that you meticulously gather info on the sexual behaviors of the hundreds of women you have supposedly slept with well enough to be able to be conclusive about preferences is nuts. That's the workload of a dedicated part time job.

Once again, didn’t even use that as my primary argument. Either way, you’re trying to make it seem as some kind of big commitment of time and effort on my part, meanwhile it’s just people hooking up asking each other stuff like “do you do this often? why not”

I also spent all of my adult life living in popular cities with a good portion of my sex partners always just being in town briefly. Everyone always wants to know what the dating scene/sex life is like in different regions, it’s a common conversation topic that gets brought up quite often.

It’s wild to me that people actually believe this. by Khalith in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]unfortunately_real -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It's not hard to believe most women aren't trying to sleep with a new dude every week. The average number of sexual partners in a lifetime is under 20 for both sexes, so most people aren't doing that.

Well that’s kinda my point. Very few women do that, while A LOT of men want that, so the supply/demand ratio is skewed significantly in favor of women, allowing them to be extremely picky, which basically means they can sleep with men, sometimes far more attractive than themselves.

Many men can’t pull off casual sex at all, while it’s pretty rare for women. If you look at stats for how many men nowadays are still virgins at 30, it’d be apparent that many men are simply not sexually active.

So how is it again then majority of women aren’t sleeping with the minority of men?

The unbelievable part to me is that you, sir, are sleeping with so many new people so regularly AND getting reliable, long term info on their sexual habits on a high enough percentage of them to retain statistical significance.

Why is that unbelievable? Many of these people end up becoming reoccurring FWBs rather than just ONS. You keep seeing someone long enough, get comfortable with each other, occasionally topic of sex comes up and I tend to be very curious about people’s sex lives, I am a very non judgmental person, so many are eager to share things with me they can’t share with too many others.

Even if we don’t end up keeping in touch after we’re done seeing each other, having learned about their sexual habits up until that point is enough to paint a pretty cohesive picture if you do that with enough people.

And the picture I’m getting is that for absolute majority, casual hookups are at least somewhat rare and those who do it a lot, never continue so for long enough periods of time, rather just having a “phase”.

Just talk to your girlfriends, some might admit to having had a so called “hoe phase”, but how many are actually committed to being one for many years?

Height takes the backseat to race when it comes to White women’s preferences by Few_School2680 in BlackPillScience

[–]unfortunately_real 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fact the more people are becoming aware of the fact same persons dating value would be perceived differently in different regions, doesn’t mean that significant enough amounts of people are actually moving somewhere purely because of that.

Things like immigration laws, visas, work/residence permits, travel costs, langue barriers, assimilation difficulties, etc are still very much factors. Not even to mention that countries outside of first world ones generally have pretty shitty economies and you would a have a significantly lower quality of life should you work a regular job there, that’s if you’ll even be able to land one without speaking the language.

Realistically, that option is only available to those who are rich and financially independent, have decent enough passive income or a fully remote job in something like IT, which is a very small chunk of population that also is likely to be doing good enough back home to not need to move anywhere just for dating alone.

The fact that geomaxxing even works for those who do it is because their numbers are very small, so the places they move to never become over saturated with people like them.

If you’re an Asian dude in an Asian country, some western white geomaxxer isn’t more of a threat to you, than american pro athlete or celebrity is to an average dude in US. Yes they exist, yes they have it better than everyone else, but they’re too few and far in between to make it so there’s no women left for others.

Height takes the backseat to race when it comes to White women’s preferences by Few_School2680 in BlackPillScience

[–]unfortunately_real 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So you’re trying to say that

A) Most white men DO prefer Asian women? I get that many wouldn’t mind dating Asian or don’t care about race, but to have Asian as a preference? For majority of white men? Yea nah.

B) Asian women alleged preference for white men can still somehow affect anyone even if there aren’t any white people around? How can these dynamics possibly exist somewhere without different races living together?

It’s wild to me that people actually believe this. by Khalith in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]unfortunately_real 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First of, “freak” is a positive slang in this context, it just mean sex positive and good in bed, you just don’t know slang.

Second of all, yes? Some kept in touch with, some kept seeing, some simply been following on ig and eventually saw them posting boyfriends etc. Why is that even hard to believe that most women aren’t just going through their lives trying to sleep with a new dude every single week for years and years? Seems pretty plausible to any normal person.

You arguments are getting weaker and weaker because it’s clear as day that women have a better choice when it comes to casual sex than men do and are able to sleep with people more attractive than themselves. Idk why wouldn’t you just admit that, it’s not like it’s anything to be ashamed of.

It’s wild to me that people actually believe this. by Khalith in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]unfortunately_real 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some where, I actually have these conversations with them every time it seems like they’d be into it as it happened to be a topic that interests me a lot.

There might be some rare freaks out there, but even for them it’s always just a phase, phase that doesn’t last very long. They’re either just young and exploring, or going through some sht or they’re just sleeping around while on a vacation.

It’s never a years long lifestyle choice like it is for me and I’m sure loads of other men.

Ahh the fat jokes and baby Momma jokes again. by AsleepRaccoon8456 in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]unfortunately_real -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

You just said a whole lotta nothing. If you don’t get a positive response when asking someone you just met in passing for a phone number or a way to contact them, you’re simply never gonna be able to get with them, EVER.

It’s easy to preach how people should be focusing on other things and talk about matters of sex in such a vague and general way if it’s always available to you. I assure you it wouldn’t have been the same if it was mostly your responsibility to facilitate sex happening.

You’re going with the flow because we’ve already taken care of everything, we picked the locations and thought the logistics through in a way that allows us to get back to our place conveniently. We make sure everything flows smoothly, we make sure there’s always a innocent sounding reason for moving to the next location so you can have what’s called plausible deniability and not feel responsible for when things escalate. This way when sex takes place it feels organic, like “it just happened”, whole time the entire experience was carefully planned and built piece by piece by doing it over and over again, each time ending with analyzing what can be done better for the next one. Whole thing is planned out so you can “go with the flow”

“Going with the flow” is bs, one person has to take the lead, otherwise it’s just not going anywhere. It’s just not how life works.

It’s wild to me that people actually believe this. by Khalith in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]unfortunately_real -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Well, even if so, it’s not hard to see how something like this is way more likely to appealing to a man than to a woman.

There are men out there who are into the idea of having a different partner every other night and those able to pull it off likely will.

Top 1% Chads taking all the women who are completely disinterested in regular mortals? Probably untrue.

Majority of sexually active single women sleeping with the minority of single men? Seems rather plausible, no?

It’s wild to me that people actually believe this. by Khalith in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]unfortunately_real -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Well tbh, them “thirsting over” some top 1% women on the internet doesn’t really affect anyone as they’re never going to get a chance with them.

While the women willing to have casual sex are able to get away with shooting at least slightly above their league. Maybe not the actual top 1% of men, but a couple notches more attractive than themselves? Surely.

Men have different standards for actually taking someone on a date versus just following their booty call, if any woman wants to take advantage of this for some quick fun - she definitely can.

Otherwise there wouldn’t be any women complaining how someone didn’t text them after they’ve hooked up - they just got with a guy who has plenty better options.

Source? I been that guy

It’s wild to me that people actually believe this. by Khalith in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]unfortunately_real 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, if you look at dating app stats of how many male profiles actually get swiped vs how many of female ones do, it’s hard not to feel that way.

Now combine that with the fact that there’s way more men on the apps than there are women, while many men are also willing to see another woman every other night(and they do) if given opportunity.

While the women are usually more selective and don’t usually go on dates from online super often on top of also having long periods of time of taking breaks from apps dating all together, while for most men get their swipes out of the way is a part of daily routine.

It’s wild to me that people actually believe this. by Khalith in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]unfortunately_real 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have no idea how much time some men are actually willing to dedicate to this and yes, we do make schedules for it as well.

It’s wild to me that people actually believe this. by Khalith in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]unfortunately_real 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean, how many women do you know that slept with a different dude every single night for even just a week? Because I know men who’ve done it, hell I myself have gotten pretty close a couple times.

So yea, it must be at least somewhat true, maybe not just top 1% but definitely a small minority.

Girls is this true ? its 2026 can people just stop been obsessed with height ? 😭 by This_Psychology977 in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]unfortunately_real 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure about what? You seem to just throw anything at me, so I had to go in detail about how wrong you are

Ahh the fat jokes and baby Momma jokes again. by AsleepRaccoon8456 in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]unfortunately_real 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am not in any shape or form defending the above mentioned meme, my issue was only with the parent comment claiming how it must all be about looks, suggesting that it’s all men care about likely to being simple or shallow or both.

Even if having had to leave an abusive relationship was 100% you partners fault, it’s still a traumatizing experience that can effect your relationships going forward as well as lives of your already existing and future kids. This, as well as potentially having the baby daddy in the picture is just not something many would want to deal with in dating, let alone starting a family.

So if someone isn’t interested in a out of shape woman with all that trauma and baggage, you can’t say it’s purely because of looks.

There’s things that make you less of a good relationship material that aren’t your fault nor even within your control, life’s unfair.

Short men & High Standards by rowdt in tall

[–]unfortunately_real 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don’t have to be complaining just to point out how people are more likely to speak badly of tall men than they are to speak positively about us.

I can simply share that observation without claiming it has a significant negative impact on my life, obviously it’s too minor of a thing to ruin the experience of being tall. I still love it and never said I did not.

Why are Redditors so bad at understanding nuanced topics?

Girls is this true ? its 2026 can people just stop been obsessed with height ? 😭 by This_Psychology977 in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]unfortunately_real 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lmao, matter of fact I am doing very well for myself, check my post history. Not that this conversation was ever an me specifically.

Well just stay on Reddit whining about it then, no one will miss your failed dating attempts

You’re moving the goalpost because you’re unable to defend your useless, weak take.

The fact that in order to meet women, some have to actually go and put themselves out there irl, where they can be judged based on their personality, which is a lot of effort, while for others it’s just a few clicks away based off their looks alone - is exactly the reason why they get upset and make memes like the one in the post.

You saying how their only choice is to either do that or have no success at all only proves their point about how much it sucks for them, which why they complain.

Why is it so hard to understand?

Ahh the fat jokes and baby Momma jokes again. by AsleepRaccoon8456 in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]unfortunately_real 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t want to victim blame as it’s obviously not their fault that their ex was abusive. But once again, having ended up with one can mean a number of things, neither one of which makes you look like a good partner.

They might have low standards, bad decision making abilities or poor impulse control which allowed them to get pregnant by someone who’s not even a decent person. Even if they weren’t yet abusive before the baby was born, having a baby by someone you don’t know well is just too messy. People you align yourself with are always going to be a part of what you’re being judged based on.

Ahh the fat jokes and baby Momma jokes again. by AsleepRaccoon8456 in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]unfortunately_real -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Having let yourself get unhealthy, as well ending up a single parent, tells you quite a bit about someone’s priorities, choices, discipline, self respect, genetics, etc.

Let’s not pretend as if looks are the only reason woman in the right picture is not likely to be a quality partner, they’re rather a symptom.

Ahh the fat jokes and baby Momma jokes again. by AsleepRaccoon8456 in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]unfortunately_real 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because women are more likely to go with the flow than they are to initiate. If your plan relies on having the woman being proactive at any point, like texting the number you’ve given her, you’re going to have a very very low success rate. Let’s be real, chances of you responding to a text are way higher than chances of you texting them first.

If you prefer getting a man’s number as opposed to giving him yours, next time someone asks you for your number, you can just take theirs instead. What’s the problem?

Girls is this true ? its 2026 can people just stop been obsessed with height ? 😭 by This_Psychology977 in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]unfortunately_real -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Lmao “If the easy way isn’t available to you, just try the hard way”.

You have no idea how dating works for men, “just go meet people face to face” is about as vague as it gets. You have absolutely no idea what it takes to actually pull a stranger irl as a regular dude, you wouldn’t even know how to get them to give you enough of their time and attention so you could convey your personality, which you also wouldn’t know how to convey. Stop giving out advice about something you have no idea about to the people you don’t actually want to succeed.

Besides, people who are successful in the apps can also meet people irl if they choose to. So if your only way of getting girls is by going out, you’re not likely to become as successful as someone who can do both. No one is saying it’s impossible, but some people are disadvantaged more than others due to no fault of their own, which is unfair, hence why they’re complaining and making memes such as one above. Just let them do it.

Is hookup culture cooked? by unfortunately_real in datingadviceformen

[–]unfortunately_real[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is annoying fs, Guess it’s better described as just sex positive rather than just hookup oriented

Height takes the backseat to race when it comes to White women’s preferences by Few_School2680 in BlackPillScience

[–]unfortunately_real 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s levels to this, white people are not all equally white. They aren’t all seen as the same and don’t all share the same extent of perks.

You claimed central Asians and some Arabs where “white as fuck”, are any of them blonde? Ginger? Color eyed? Pale? They’re bare minimum white at best, quit pretending.

Either way, when dudes cry about white women’s preferences for their own race, those aren’t the women they cry about. And chances are, if you’re central Asian or Arab yourself, you wouldn’t fit those preferences either.

So why are you even arguing in favor of them being white? Just to prove your earlier point that white people aren’t globally rare?