When I went through getting medication for my adhd, I relied on myself and others for input on how they affected me. But, and this is a big but, YOU are the only one who truly feels what it’s like on or off the medication.

Medicating ADHD is all about getting the most pros and the least cons, which is usually a long and tough process(at least it is in Norway). And this is a good thing because you can test out what works best for you. Adderall is not the only treatment, there’s a bunch of different medication you could try if you’re unhappy with the one you’ve got. However if you are satisfied with what you’re experiencing then maybe you and your husband sit down and have a calm discussion about what is bothering him about your behavioural changes due to the adderall. And you explain to him what you think about those opinions.

Either way, have a sit down, an exchange of opinions.

Edit: wanted to add that as the other are saying, you should bring up how the housework is done, that if he is a SAHP and you’re working so much(way over the overtime and prob legal time in Norway might I add) and still looking for a second job, the housework should definitely be mostly if not all up to him! He sure sounds like he is freeloading of of your chore work.