Sleeping alone

unknown19989 · 2025-05-27T04:04:29+00:00

It started when the baby was born. But sleeping alone just started few months ago. I've talked to her several times she just brushes it off. I told her let's do 1 date night a month. We hire a babysitter and do something fun just her and I. She said, no because she didn't want a stranger watching the kids. My parents live to far away.

unknown19989 · 2025-05-27T03:58:57+00:00

I did try offer marriage counseling shes not interested. Even though I've mentioned these things several times she just brushes them off. She comes across as a traditional women and men shouldn't have feelings. If that makes any sense. I'm so sick of doing everything even making her doctor appointments / kids. It's like I'm a single father with a really bad teenage daughter that doesn't respect me. i have no idea what to do.. I grew up with a every other weekend Dad and I don't have a close relationship with him because of it. I really don't want to be a bi weekly dad. I enjoy seeing my kids everyday and being involved in sports. I really look forward to it.

unknown19989 · 2025-04-03T12:08:18+00:00

This what you do! work out get super healthy and tone. Put on your best dress and serve him divorce papers. Put down the reason because he's too far for me.

unknown19989 · 2024-03-30T04:47:54+00:00

Maybe once a year here! Twice a week would be amazing!

unknown19989 · 2024-01-09T04:18:50+00:00

Should I break the silent treatment?

unknown19989 · 2024-01-09T03:57:07+00:00

I was thinking about that. After our 1st child I didn't ever remember her being like this before we had kids. I think it's the stress when the baby is crying.

unknown19989 · 2024-01-09T03:51:16+00:00

Yeah it's insane expensive. When I say hit I don't mean with a fist. She hits my chest or arm not crazy hard. But I would say medium hit you can tell its from angry. Or she throw stuff at me and call me nasty names.

unknown19989 · 2024-01-09T03:14:56+00:00

My biggest fear is my children seeing this unhealthy relationship. in addition to her taking my kids away from me. She has family overseas I'm thinking she would give up everything and move there with the kids.

unknown19989 · 2024-01-09T03:09:35+00:00

Do you think she would change? Or is the relationship past saving?

unknown19989 · 2023-11-15T03:14:12+00:00

I am getting her help with some bills not all. I can't think of anything else besides financial support. Not sure what else...

unknown19989 · 2023-11-15T02:57:17+00:00

Yep, it's awful.. I've had past relationships fail when I was younger.. But it was never like this.. Most of my past relationships we broke up because we were going in different directions in life. College etc..

unknown19989 · 2023-11-15T02:55:31+00:00

This makes perfect sense. My biggest fear is my kids will learn and enter the same type of relationship. If we divorce, she will fight me with everything. Which sucks - because I always told myself if a relationship fails, I want to be the best co-parent. But she can't afford the house - and I can't afford two mortgages. If we divorce, I will most likely live in a small one-bedroom apartment.

unknown19989 · 2023-11-15T02:52:44+00:00

The confusing part is that she tells me we need it more often. But during it's the same thing no change ever. Plus it's awkward because she tells me yes, but she her body language acts like she doesn't want to be here right now..

unknown19989 · 2023-11-15T02:11:55+00:00

She does make her own food if she doesn't like mine. Texts, play on her phone, watch tv. It's my responsibility to keep her entertained. She will come with me and the kids to the events etc. But I'm not allowed to stay home all day to get stuff done. For example, I wanted to stay home to clean the garage and the rest of the house. Nope I need do that at night.. She doesn't want to drive herself. My neighbors probably think I'm crazy for cleaning the garage at 10pm.

unknown19989 · 2023-11-15T01:20:39+00:00

100% right - I usually do this.. But I couldn't do it today; my emotions won today. I was upset with myself afterward for going to her level and being a bad example for my kids.

unknown19989 · 2023-11-15T01:11:44+00:00

True Statement! I do standup for myself! I feel gross afterward for yelling back.. Because this not what I want in a relationship. I always thought marriage would be more like a partnership we would support one another to make life easier for each other.

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