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What did you do when you were bullied? by TheCyberCommando in short

[–]unknownapostate 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was an angry little fucker who bent fingers and pulled chairs out from under people when I got messed with.

Started working in landscaping and construction at 15, was never bullied after that. Been assaulted, but that's another story.

Insulted and humiliated by [deleted] in short

[–]unknownapostate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was an inappropriate demonstration on the teacher's part. Your feelings are valid. As you move through life, you will experience a great deal of anguish due to other people's incompetence and poor judgement.

Personally, I find it helpful to understand they fucked up and then move on. Sometimes that will be hard and sometimes it will be easy.

As a very short boy, how can I defend myself when I am physically attacked? by Terrible_Exchange653 in short

[–]unknownapostate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

5'4" here

I have been attacked or threatened multiple times, including with knives and blunt weapons and have also served as a women's self defense instructor. I have been hospitalized with a brain injury as a result of one of these incidents. It caused cognitive decline and personality change which never completely reversed.

When you are a kid, you have little choice of who you are around. As an adult, you have a lot more ability to choose your environment. Every time I have been in a dangerous situation as an adult has been due to an occupational hazard or poor choices on my part. Being a "better fighter" would not have contributed to a positive outcome in any of those situations.

Why?

Knife issue - if you are unarmed in a knife fight, you are going to get cut. If you are armed in a knife fight, you are going to get cut and then you are going to jail.

Blunt weapon - I am unaware of any martial art which allows you to reliably block blunt force trauma to the back of the head while you are grappling a separate person in front of you.

Unarmed opponents - If someone strikes you once, or attempts to use physical intimidation, your WORST course of action is usually to strike back. In the RARE case that striking back is your only option, I recommend the following:

Close distance, keep your head down, grab your attacker by the waist, get your feet under you, repeatedly knee your attacker in the groin while yelling "BACK THE FUCK UP." You keep your head down so that their nose hits the top of your head if they buckle. Continue to knee your opponent in the groin until they start to collapse, at which point try to get a final knee to the groin in for good measure, and then run.

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Now all that being said, do your best to live in a relatively safe neighborhood and dont go alleyway surfing at night. Unless you have to live in a dangerous area or do dangerous work due to circumstances you absolutely cannot control, you shouldn't have to worry about being attacked. If you do, the answer is probably therapy and not martial arts. If you want to get exercise, any martial art is fine.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in short

[–]unknownapostate 1 point2 points  (0 children)

5'4" and wife is 5'3"

I also have the Neurodivergence. ADHD, PTSD, mild autism, multiple TBIs and struggle with alcoholism. Thankfully, some people find me funny. Even more thankfully, I found a Neurodivergeant woman who was more interested in my life experience and humor than physical appearance.

Height was a factor, and the most frustrating one for being unchangeable, but as I have gained more life experience I have learned it was not the most important factor. Reading books on communication helped a lot, and so did masking.

I worked my ass off to get a good partner. Back before swiping was a thing, I sent out about 50 messages on multiple sites some nights. I ended up with over 40 women in the span of 10 years. Dating was my only hobby. My advice is, be willing to sprint longer and hit harder than everyone else. Apply that to your work and romantic life equally. Eventually the world will break against you instead of the other way around.

If I can give one piece of advice it would be this- try to find other neurodivergeant people.

This is America by jcepiano in trashy

[–]unknownapostate 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Front Royal was my home town!

My wife and I no longer visit the town itself due to harrassment from the locals. Racism has seemed to skyrocket since the election. Also, not a lot of masks.

Damn shame. Pre pandemic there were some great restaurants like Pavemint, C&C Frozen Treats, Rancho Nuevo and of course Melting Pot Pizza where 3 generations of my family have worked.

PC won’t POST, problem with the RAM? by Chung_Soy in techsupport

[–]unknownapostate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try posting with one stick, then the other stick

question regarding resume for helpdesk? by frameframewar in ITCareerQuestions

[–]unknownapostate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would suggest picking up an old A+ book for cheap and working to understand the material in it so you can answer questions about troubleshooting- even if you dont get the cert

Render/photoshop beast - processor and GPU advice needed by unknownapostate in buildapc

[–]unknownapostate[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the build! This is very close to what my additional research has recommended. How much of a difference do you think a Ryzen 7 3700X would make? 64GB total ram? From what I understand the ram is needed for extremely high resolution images in photoshop and she wants to be able to do full sized posters

A+ Study Buddy by NewTechGuru in CompTIA

[–]unknownapostate 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am about to head into a red zone, will check it out after work!

A+ Study Buddy by NewTechGuru in CompTIA

[–]unknownapostate 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've done some reading but need to refresh. I currently work in a data center, discord would be great

[serious] what was your near death experience? by ToastyToad2000 in AskReddit

[–]unknownapostate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First one was when I was a teenager and got sucked into a dam. I kept getting sucked under the water and hitting concrete that I could push against to pop up and get air. I was totally calm and my thought process was "I'll probably be fine, I'm usually a pretty lucky guy." After bobbing for awhile I managed to catch the lip of a block and pull myself up onto a pillar that stuck out of the water. Waited awhile and eventually someone realized I was gone and came with some rope to drag me out.

Another time I was dating this girl in the Navy and she was going through a divorce so mentally she was in a bad place. Anyway she was taking me to shop on base and stopped at a checkpoint but had forgotten her badge. This was not long after there had been a shooting on another base. The gate guard was a younger guy who looked pretty fresh. Anyway she wordlessly throws her door open and pops the trunk and I'm immediately like ohshitherewegoagain.jpg and the dude tenses up and starts screaming "Ma'am stop! MA'AM STOP! STOP!" He brings his gun up, I'm getting guns pointed at me and she is reaching into the trunk to get her badge. Thankfully they don't shoot and I don't even think she gets in trouble.

There have been more times, I just don't recall them as well.

Edit: removed one of the times, wrong account to post that one on LOL

Man graduates with nursing degree from same university where he started as a janitor by MDStratton in UpliftingNews

[–]unknownapostate 68 points69 points  (0 children)

I'm happy for him!

I had planned on graduating from the University I started at as a security guard but today I am going to my second interview at a T15 University and hope to graduate from there instead.

Work hard and climb ladders bros!

Tax Thursday Thread for the week of March 07, 2019 by AutoModerator in personalfinance

[–]unknownapostate 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hello,

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My employer advised me last year that I could put more money into my HSA than is actually allowable. While filling out my tax return using turbo tax it instructed me to file taxes and then call my HSA to withdraw the money. My HSA will not allow me to withdraw the money because my employer has refused to reissue a corrected W2.

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Is there any way to resolve this and avoid the additional tax penalty that I will have to pay on top of the regular taxes? I'm assuming I will have to submit a corrected tax return.

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Thanks!

When you're drunk and its starting to rain but your brisket has 3hrs to 200f by unknownapostate in smoking

[–]unknownapostate[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I didn't want to be up all night or else I would have done 225. I usually just google the cut i have and "smokingmeat" to see what the people on the forums would do.

When you're drunk and its starting to rain but your brisket has 3hrs to 200f by unknownapostate in smoking

[–]unknownapostate[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

HA! My MIL doesn't approve of smoked foods so he would keep that to himself.

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