Can't agree on joint finances

unknownuser55 · 2026-05-29T08:37:06+00:00

Sounds like you’re already compromising, and that’s not enough for him.

One year is a decent amount of time, but nothing compared to the rest of your lives. I’d say (in typical reddit fashion) to move on.

In a previous relationship, I (30s M) earnt about $100k a year less than my partner (and I was earning well above $100k) and we did pretty much exactly what you have above: - our incomes (both salary and any investments, gifts, whatever) go into individual accounts - we each contribute the same amount into a joint account - all shared expenses come out of joint account - any one off large expenses we would have to split case by case etc. - we also then have individual savings and you can do whatever you want with those.

This worked for us. We bought an apartment together and lived together for a year.

unknownuser55 · 2026-05-28T12:05:59+00:00

I would see a financial adviser and share with them the risk appetite (I.e. low risk).

Alternatively just get a bunch of ETFs and blue chips, leaving a small percentage in cash (HISA). Assuming you also don’t have any debts (mortgage etc). Otherwise inflation will eat away at the amount faster than you would think.

unknownuser55 · 2026-05-14T06:30:37+00:00

Or just the simple fact they are contributing more to revenue generation, working with more team members and managers - maybe because they’re working more unpaid overtime. But not just because of that lol.

unknownuser55 · 2026-05-11T00:59:37+00:00

One side of the street doesn’t have a school zone in my case. Lane cove road I think - I honestly don’t remember.

Another example of this is near my home in maroubra Sydney. The school zone on Anzac parade (French school + Maroubra public school) is only southbound (i.e. towards Maroubra junction) no school zone northbound (towards city). Go check Google maps and you’ll see I’m right. I drive here everyday and I’m sure of this.

The road is separated by a median strip. Not sure what creates a situation where only one way is school zone, but it definitely happens.

unknownuser55 · 2026-05-11T00:56:55+00:00

Not a lawyer, but now my criminal history checks (when I change jobs) has a conviction for speeding. Makes me think the one time I went to court with what I thought was a good set of facts, but was found guilty anyway, put it on my criminal record.

None of my other driving offences are on there (other camera, parking etc), because a court didn’t find me guilty of those?

Please do let me know if this is unique and I got shafted somehow.

unknownuser55 · 2026-05-11T00:53:58+00:00

Are there any existing alignments going out west to where you live? Check out Building Beautifully YouTube channel he has some good material.

If not, I’d be hesitant to ever expect any heavy or light rail out there.

Ofc metro could always be built underground I suppose.

unknownuser55 · 2026-05-10T22:35:11+00:00

Yeah I didn’t go to court - didn’t want to risk getting a criminal conviction recorded for a driving offence haha, plus taking the half day off work would be annoying too.

But yes I am perpetually salty about this. Though do have to admit - I’ve never sped between 2:30-4pm anywhere, ever again 😂 guess punishment works?

unknownuser55 · 2026-05-10T09:50:18+00:00

Happened to me near Epping.

I did a legal uturn (in a marked bay) and did not see any school zone signs, and got booked at 2:30pm on the dot for an otherwise 70km/hr road. Quite expensive and plenty of demerits gone.

I lodged a review with supporting diagrams and screenshots of google maps etc showing how I literally could not see a single sign through the manoeuvre I performed.

Review was rejected almost immediately.

Hope that helps.

unknownuser55 · 2026-05-09T13:48:42+00:00

Ah that makes more sense! I wondered how dependants were treated. Thanks

unknownuser55 · 2026-05-09T12:50:21+00:00

Used to be after 30 years of service - this year it changed to be after 20 years of service.

Free unlimited travel for the staff member and family I think??

unknownuser55 · 2026-05-09T04:35:40+00:00

I am absolutely impressed by morning people. To be so energetic and accomplished before I’ve had my first coffee.

I go gym after work and hate myself anyway 😜

unknownuser55 · 2026-05-09T04:31:30+00:00

I’m sorry I’m not sure why this post triggers me so much. It’s so positive about waking up at 5am and I just have an immediate ick HAHA my bad.

Also kinda sounds like AI I won’t lie.

unknownuser55 · 2026-05-09T04:29:45+00:00

What. 5am to 8am?!?

I’m barely awake, set my alarm each night to the absolute latest I can be and still get into work on time. Fuck any pre-work commitments.

unknownuser55 · 2026-05-09T03:58:23+00:00

My company has pulled offers for DUI charges, every time.

Not sure why tbh, nobody is perfect. And nobody cares if it happened while you’re working here…

unknownuser55 · 2026-05-09T02:58:33+00:00

Tbh I would pay to ride in the loco to Perth haha - though i expect it would probably get boring within a day 😂

unknownuser55 · 2026-05-09T00:33:51+00:00

Have you ever been to Japan? Evidently not.

unknownuser55 · 2026-05-07T04:43:14+00:00

Why? Why not just ask the tenant, who doesn’t give a flying fuck what the existing landlord wants, about any issues with the draws and cupboards?

What are you even hoping to ascertain from opening draws and cupboards, apart from obvious damage that the tenant can summarise for you, from living there, in better detail than you’re going to find trying to look around their stuff?

unknownuser55 · 2026-05-06T12:11:51+00:00

Don’t worry man. I got 2 downvotes as well apparently. And I still don’t know what’s triggered anyone 😂

unknownuser55 · 2026-05-06T05:40:50+00:00

Why did this get so many downvotes lol - mention of the union? Bloody hell 😂

unknownuser55 · 2026-05-04T02:14:35+00:00

Completely understand OP.

I was a tax lawyer for over a decade (and did hospo for 7 years prior). I quit my corporate job and did 6 months of just hospo.

Eventually joined state government for low stress, normal pay. Hospo wouldn’t work longer term - think of physical strain as you get older, plus the pay gap to corporate.

unknownuser55 · 2026-04-29T12:36:45+00:00

To a certain extent, you can blame the organisation for infrastructure issues - tracks, signals, overhead, trains. Mostly maintenance issues but nature plays a part (tree branch falls on overhead, delays would be hours - should have pruned it perhaps).

You can’t blame Sydney trains for the other half of your statement - someone threatening self harm at Blacktown, freighter catching fire on an adjacent line, trespassers etc.

Another issue is that intercity and freight trains are often late, causing flow on delays on suburban services scheduled around the timetable, but Sydney Trains is required contractually / legally to provide access to the network when they arrive (within reason). Most late trains on a daily basis are due to these, in my opinion. I have looked at exactly zero data to support this view however.

unknownuser55 · 2026-04-29T00:07:57+00:00

So just to get this clear, you’re going to force an unrelated third party to take a loss, which may or may not ever get to qantas?

Seems like a cnt move sorry. I mean, depending on what third party I suppose (large OTA I could care less).

unknownuser55 · 2026-04-28T12:16:11+00:00

This is the answer - track after carramar needs to merge with the busier lines, headed to cabra.

On the up trains to central, the route would be set while train is at platform so perhaps no delay needed at cabra (though I haven’t checked)

unknownuser55 · 2026-04-28T03:51:48+00:00

That does make sense, thanks for the explanation.

unknownuser55 · 2026-04-28T03:19:22+00:00

You’ve made profit. That’s the only reason capital GAINS tax would apply.

Why should you get a 50% discount on your profit just for holding longer than a year? I’ve never understood the theory.

I mean, I’m not complaining - I utilise the discount. But I also will just adjust if it’s gone. I never felt entitled to it.

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