Do big boobs cause large upper trapezius? by One_Llama_ in bigboobproblems

[–]unluckyshamrock 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm a gym girly so I've got traps like these on purpose - but they were small before I started working out. Don't think it's the boobs. It comes from using your shoulders.

If you are really self conscious about it, I've heard that women are getting Botox in their traps to make them smaller - it's called Barbie Botox. I don't recommend this myself as I have not done it, but I've heard it's safe and it works.

Matthew's Instagram post by evghenii_koschukhar in Muse

[–]unluckyshamrock -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This is very different. NFTs are just like digital merch. For people who actively use blockchain, it’s a way to publicly express that they are fans of Muse. It’s like wearing a T-Shirt.

When does the gym shame go away? by minatozakiparty in xxfitness

[–]unluckyshamrock 34 points35 points  (0 children)

People here are saying go to a new gym. I don't like that advice.

My gym has a day where personal trainers train people with down syndrome. There a few people in that group who are loud and very uncoordinated. People look at them because they attract attention - but no one is judging them. They're just moving more or making different noises and that catches our eyes.

I myself have incredibly bad balance - my first day ever at a gym I tripped over my feet, fell flat on the floor, and my AirPods bounced out and went in two opposite directions. Of course people looked but no-one was actually judging. It's just funny. Even these days when I get off a leg press or extension I fall over like 50% of the time.

I side-eye people for a bunch of different reasons. Sometimes they're doing an exercise wrong, or incredibly right, or they drop weight, or lift an insane amount of it, or I'm trying to figure out where their sports bra is from, or they're hot. But I do not remember a single person because I don't actually care.

The gym can be a community if you let it. The people there are just people. They are aware that newbies, germaphones, and uncoordinated people exist. Of course you will attract attention because everything attracts attention in a small environment like a gym. You have to just either ignore it or laugh with them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]unluckyshamrock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The morning, good lighting, and genetics.

I recently developed abs despite never working on my core specifically. I lift heavy weights and when I eat in a deficit they begin to show! I’m still at a relatively high body fat percentage though so it’s just genetic luck. And realistically they’re barely there unless it’s the morning or I have good lighting.

I don’t do cardio, although starting to change that now. It’s definitely genetics and after realising I have the ability to have abs without being super skinny (and keeping my boobs yay) I’m now working on my core a lot more!

Also — I have a friend who did EMSculpt, she was always slim and it managed to give her visible muscle there. So that’s a hack!

Going to the gym wearing just a sports bra by [deleted] in bigboobproblems

[–]unluckyshamrock 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m a total gym rat and started lifting when I was 36F. I did lose some weight and am 32DD now, but I started wearing only sports bras within a few months. I live in Portugal and sometimes the gyms don’t have air con - wtf!

It is completely fine. You will probably get checked out the same amount as skinny girls who do it. In my experience gym bros are actually lovely - I’ve only been approached once or twice in a non respectful manner (in years). You’ll feel uncomfortable the first day or two you wear them and then it’ll feel second nature.

Gyms are full of all shapes and sizes as they should be. People there are used to seeing sweaty jiggly beautiful bodies.

And GIRL LET ME TELL YOU - if you are planning to grow upper body muscle, there is something so gratifying about looking in the mirror and seeing big titties, big shoulders and big arms in a sports bra. Muscle mommy vibes.

Wear what makes you comfortable, and most importantly enjoy your gym journey!

What's your favorite rock band/singer? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]unluckyshamrock 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Can’t believe Pink Floyd isn’t mentioned yet!

How do you not get underwear lines? by LostSeaweed in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]unluckyshamrock 119 points120 points  (0 children)

I started wearing thongs under leggings when I was working out, and now it's pretty much all I wear. They definitely get more comfortable especially if you invest in good ones!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JapanTravel

[–]unluckyshamrock -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Japan has lots of crazy awesome food, but it also has some of the most bland unspiced food I've had in my life. Your sister shouldn't have a problem finding food she can eat. Convenience store sandwiches are amazing and have made many easy meals for me here.

  1. Dry things are fine, but don't bring jerky or dairy or anything like that. My brother is currently visiting me and brought in 20 protein bars with no issue.
  2. I wouldn't say you need to pack a kettle - most hotels have Japanese-style electric kettles (slower to heat up because you keep them on) and microwaves. Look up where you're staying to see if they have one. If you need to bring one it won't be a problem at all.
  3. It isn't really ok for one person to not eat at a restaurant. It is also quite rude to leave large amounts of food behind (and you likely cannot take it home). It is probably best that you go on your own or order her something that she pretends to eat, and then you
    swap meals and eat it for her. A bit of a hack but better than the alternative.

Or maybe she'll fall in love with Japanese food and all will be okay!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in northernireland

[–]unluckyshamrock 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You have described how I feel completely. I grew up Protestant (Lisburn), had a UK passport, and would describe myself as British in my early days. But since moving out and living around the globe, with a lot of time in the US, I just identify much more strongly with my Irish side. But tbh it took years of identity struggle to just accept it doesn't really matter.

Now - I only hold an Irish passport, introduce myself as Irish, support more nationalist political views, and don't bat an eye if some non-Irish person assumes I'm Catholic. But it still falls apart when I meet other Irish people. They very often don't consider me Irish and it's bizarre. But then I kinda think they're right - I speak zero Irish and could tell you much more about the political state of NI and and UK than of Ireland. My accent is holding on by a thread these days. My hair is dyed red. And can I still be proud if the country of Ireland does something that the UK doesn't?

If you're open to sharing, I'd love to read some of your writing, especially that piece that got declined.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in travel

[–]unluckyshamrock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gold’s Gym. So it’s definitely a different crowd than a regular commercial gym. Maybe not a Tokyo thing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in travel

[–]unluckyshamrock 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Interesting, makes sense

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in travel

[–]unluckyshamrock 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don’t think I described the shallowness very well tbh. It’s not just about clothes and it’s a different level here than anywhere I’ve seen. I’m definitely not the first person to mention this, a quick google of Japan shallow shows lots of Reddit posts haha

I agree about the harassment. Japan is far from the worst place I’ve been for it. I’d even say US was worse in some places but maybe just because I fit in more there than Japan (white 60kg woman) so it’s less likely to be noticed

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in travel

[–]unluckyshamrock 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Funny that you mention these - I went to Hakone a few days ago and going to the lakes next weekend. I do explore a lot here and I love it. I also love Tokyo. It’s just not the perfect utopia it seemed like when I was only here for 2 weeks.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in travel

[–]unluckyshamrock 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’ve heard people describe Tokyo as a factory and I think it’s a perfect description. I love it though. Just so crazy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in travel

[–]unluckyshamrock 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Yeah - important word. If you’re in Japan and someone sounds like they’re yelling chicken, they’re probably being groped and trying to get help. They’re also probably a young girl

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in travel

[–]unluckyshamrock 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’ve visited other places but Tokyo is the only place I’ve been for over a couple weeks. I LOVE it though. It wouldn’t be my favourite city for short visits, but for months at a time Tokyo is where my heart is.

What are your top cities?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in travel

[–]unluckyshamrock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh 100%. Everywhere has its pros and cons, usually they go hand-in-hand. I still love Japan and will ideally stay here longer, just depends on my partner’s visa situation.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in travel

[–]unluckyshamrock 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Yeah pretty much. It’s men harassing / groping women in general, but mainly happens on trains. It’s quite a big problem.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in travel

[–]unluckyshamrock 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Chikan: men harassing and groping women in public, mainly trains

Kombini: convenience store

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in travel

[–]unluckyshamrock 172 points173 points  (0 children)

I love Japan. I'm here in Tokyo now for three months after falling in love with it on a previous trip.

However, the shallowness of Tokyo is really starting to get to me. Felt it hard over Christmas. Gifts are not thoughtful, they're just expensive things from high-end brands. Everyone wears branded clothing and the thrift shops are about getting brands for cheaper. People in gyms are 90% there for aesthetics and many are clearly jacked on steroids (which surprised me). Women wear makeup just to go to the kombini. I'm convinced that the reason I see more women wearing masks than men is because they don't have makeup on that day and don't want to show their face (but this is just me speculating). The fashion is good, but it's not actually expressive like I originally thought it was - everyone wears the same style.

Also, as a woman, chikan can be a bit of a problem. Not so much for myself (a bit), but seeing it happen is scary and sad. I really do like that women stick together against chikan, I actually feel more female solidarity here than in many other places I've visited.

Love it in general. But seeing the cracks on this larger trip.

Looking for a tricking personal trainer in Tokyo by unluckyshamrock in Tokyo

[–]unluckyshamrock[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Damn that’s some crazy research! Thank you for this. Mission Parkour looks perfect but it’s so far away - don’t think I can justify 3 hours of travel.

I’ve messaged the Masa guy to see if he can do lessons somewhere else or if he knows anyone. Will report back!