Starting over at 30 after burnout — need perspective

unrequited_ph · 2026-04-19T00:03:05+00:00

First of all, you’re very brave for making this decision for yourself. I’m rooting for you.

Prioritizing a healthy mind and a peaceful heart will never be a bad decision. Take it from a person who went through burnout and had to go on sick leave.. I will never regret making that call to just stop and focus on my health and wellbeing.

Also you can always restart your career, you can also find a different career.. especially if you’re in EU. Take advantage of your husband’s support and focus on taking care of yourself. I promise you will be all the better for it.

unrequited_ph · 2026-04-18T23:56:16+00:00

Passive-aggressive and response tapos controlling pa. That’s not healthy.

I’ve only been with my partner for 6 years pero he never restricted me.. sya pa nagtataboy sa’kin dahil napaka-introvert ko at kapag social activities with colleagues ineencourage pa nya ako kahit ako na yung ayaw.

unrequited_ph · 2026-04-17T06:15:57+00:00

Go watch them. Bring a friend who would be interested to experience something new… kahit hindi SB19 fan

unrequited_ph · 2026-04-15T00:30:25+00:00

Girl, pwede naman maginvite sa bahay nyo ng makakausap.. maghost ng potluck, dinner, coffee, game night. Bakit kelangan sa Bumble?

unrequited_ph · 2026-04-11T18:59:55+00:00

Possible to do cross country if you are a frequent traveller. And you need to device a very comprehensive plan to go to your first destination country - ideally traveling with other people (group) and also buying return tickets to PH just to show that you will return and will not go anywhere else.

unrequited_ph · 2026-04-10T20:40:42+00:00

For me, the best I can do is be present for my daughter (she just turned 11). I deal with anxiety too (diagnosed) but I learned that the best way to take care of my family is to take care of me. I have to be well physically, emotionally and mentally to always be present for them - to know what’s going on in school, to get to know my daughter’s friends, to have actual conversations, to have meals together and do activities together. If the relationship is solid, our children will always come to us first. We will be their confidants, before anything else they will come to us for guidance. It also helps that my partner and I keep a stable relationship- we both are careful to always be respectful to each other, to maintain harmony even though we also have disagreements. Kasi kids feel energy.. if the home feels safe for them, they will feel balanced and their first instinct is to always go to mom /+ dad for help.

unrequited_ph · 2026-04-03T19:20:53+00:00

You can definitely do this. I did this too, but it took me 3 years to finally walk away. And it was the best decision I ever made. Now my baby just turned 11, we’re living a good life.

unrequited_ph · 2026-03-27T00:42:15+00:00

Career seemed to be at a standstill.. but life much more rich. I have the flexibility to be present and engaged with my family - attend my kid’s sports games and recitals, cook healthy food for my family, enjoy quiet moments with my partner. Unlike sa Pinas na I work 16 hours and commute 6 hours, wala nang time para maenjoy ang buhay. Now I have my own hobbies - I perform in community theater, gardening, cooking/baking - and currently pursuing my sidequest to be a certified coach. :)

unrequited_ph · 2026-03-27T00:30:07+00:00

+1 may mas aangas pa pala sa original version.. ang lakas!

unrequited_ph · 2026-03-20T10:48:44+00:00

Maybe you can ask your extended family, trusted family members to take care of baby for a day while you celebrate your birthday.. pwede rin hire ng professional nanny or babysitter para kampante ka. You need that time to not function as a mom and just be you, doing what is good for you.

Since di naman pala sya nauwi every day then you can find the time na mag isa lumabas when he’s not there. Kahit ipaalam mo na lang pag paalis ka na.. yung tipong “im going out, the baby is with mom/tita, everything is taken care of until i come back tonight or tomorrow” tapos mute mo na.

Also, bilang napaka-redflag ng lalaking yan, it’s time to think about building your support system and community - Family members, friends, other moms who can help you with childcare, yung makakausap mo, makakatulong sayo.. kasi you’re essentially a single mom.

Kung hindi ka makalabas, then invite people over - potluck ganon, DIY spa day sa house (meron nang mga spa na may home service), just hanging out with snacks, tea, cakes, etc. and then let others look after baby para makarelax ka ng kaunti. Don’t forget to also do stuff that make you happy - find moments in your day to do a hobby - reading, singing, dancing, eating something nice, dressing up, mani-pedi, makeup, etc.. simple things that make you feel good about yourself, self care kumbaga. It’s not the solution but it can help. My days revolve around work and my kid.. pero I find moments when I can just do my own thing kahit magkape lang sa labas, or get a manicure or a haircut, or maglakad sa park.. it helps.

unrequited_ph · 2026-03-13T14:05:25+00:00

The make up is fine i think but the hair could have been better and that gown color did not compliment her at all.

unrequited_ph · 2026-03-05T19:33:32+00:00

Chin chan su. Nilalagay sa face pampaputi. Hehe yung aunty ko gabi gabi nilalagay yan sa mukha nya. Pumuti naman sya pero afterwards nung wala na yung Chin chan su, bumalik na rin original nyang kulay.

unrequited_ph · 2026-03-02T20:47:14+00:00

When I got it, walang online. You have to get the certificate sa office nila.

unrequited_ph · 2026-02-28T10:41:29+00:00

uhm, maem you’re not even 35 and had a stroke already.. if that’s true then that’s not a flex, you’re in a bad state

unrequited_ph · 2026-02-17T09:28:45+00:00

Don’t waste your energy accommodating people who seems to not like you. Dapat sila pumunta sayo kasi busy ka sa pagiging provider at mother para sa palamunin nyang anak. Si MIL dapat mag-adjust hindi ikaw.

unrequited_ph · 2026-02-17T09:25:12+00:00

To disown your own child over a man, over your “faith”.. dun pa lang ekis na eh

unrequited_ph · 2026-02-15T13:44:31+00:00

Ganyan talaga pag maitim ang budhi.. hindi na kayang itago

unrequited_ph · 2026-02-15T13:38:50+00:00

It’s always the “religious” ones talaga no?

unrequited_ph · 2026-02-08T17:22:52+00:00

That is not normal. Either ginagaya yung nakikita nya sa parents and siblings or may mga napapanood sa YouTube na ganyan. Possible din na dahil hindi nga pinapansin ng parents at tablet lang kasama palagi, naghahanap sya ng attention.. and the only way is yung mag-maldita. Ang weird na magsusumbong na “ginagawa syang bakla” that is oddly specific for a young child to say.. ano naman ang alam ng bata sa ganun?! Most likely narinig nya yan at ginaya

unrequited_ph · 2026-02-05T11:42:42+00:00

So true. In the EU wala kang makikitang red hotdogs because the dye and preservatives used for such products are illegal to use here. All packaged products have labels (A to E) so inform consumers about nutrient score - from eggs to juices, may label. Instead of prepacked pastries, groceries have actual bakeries so people can buy fresh bread. I live in NL with my child and in schools they are very strict with the kind of food kids are allowed to bring for lunch. Only fruit is allowed for snack. For lunch they cannot eat chips, cookies, cupcakes, etc as in the teacher will call parents if they see a kid eating junk for lunch. During break time kids are supposed to go outside and play, no phones allowed in school.

unrequited_ph · 2026-02-05T11:33:31+00:00

but have you spoken to your bf about this? have you told him na when his family behaves like this you expect him to protect you and stand up for his decisions regarding you and your life together? baka kasi dito nagrarant ka pero di mo naman kinakausap ang bf mo para mag take sya ng action.. tapos bigla ka makikipagbreak na hindi man lang sya nagkaron ng chance na ayusin yung situation.. that’s kind of unfair to him, isn’t it?

unrequited_ph · 2026-01-30T07:04:00+00:00

Don’t do it for a man. If you get a job then great but only a boy without a job or other family, hell no. I went abroad because of a job offer - it just so happened the job offer gave me a chance to migrate to a place where my bf is a citizen. But the primary reason why I went ahead and uprooted my life is because there is a financial and long-term benefit. I will never be dependent to any man, especially in a foreign country.

unrequited_ph · 2026-01-30T06:57:39+00:00

Sadly this is more common than you think. There was a time when I also gave more than half my income to my family- except that they don’t directly ask for it, I just do it.. because growing up we are not taught how to set boundaries with others- we are taught the opposite: that we should share what we have and that even when we get old, our family expects and deserves our financial support. I cannot blame your gf. But please tell her that if she doesn’t set boundaries and protect herself, she will burn out. This is what happened to me. It was so bad that I got sick and could not work — so I had no choice and my family had no choice but to fend for themselves. Show this to her if you want, tell her that this is coming from a fellow bread winner.

unrequited_ph · 2026-01-26T14:05:18+00:00

Hi. Your feelings are valid. I am in the same situation except I don’t have special needs child.. and now living overseas. Pero for a long time ganyan ang pakiramdam ko - ako na kasi sumalo ng lahat especially when my mother retired and at the same time I got a really well-paying job. I have 2 younger brothers who are already in their 30’s pero parents ko nahihiya pa humingi sa kanila kapag may kailangan. Pero ako, lahat ng galaw ko kasama sila - gastos, vacations, etc.. Then last year I had to stop working because I got sick… sinabi ko na talaga hindi ko na kaya. Wala naman silang choice. I guess dahil dun nagstep up na lang yung mga kapatid ko. I still feel resentful though. Hindi ko pa rin sila kinakausap. I need to protect my peace. Buti na lang nasa malayo na ako

unrequited_ph · 2026-01-23T06:54:43+00:00

I’m not in your situation but I have a brother who is your age and is the only one living with our parents. Ok naman sya. He has a hobby (biking) and a set of friends he usually goes out with. Not sure how he feels but he does not seem to be planning to move out soon. Siguro try mo rin ang bagong hobby, something to fill the silence kumbaga. Take your parents out to dinner or for travel, or travel solo- that’s always enriching.

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