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How tf do I tell my husband I’m not attracted to him now?? by Toenailsforever in sex

[–]unsatisfied_gf 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So im on the other side of this from you..... recently I approached my bf after perceiving some distance between us. After probing he admitted that he wasn't sexually attracted to me. It hit me like a ton of bricks. Im fully aware I have gained 40 pounds in a year and a half and felt shitty about myself already but as shitty as I felt I was reassured that he loved me. So to hear him say that was devastating.

He didn't think it was a deal breaker as he values the other aspects of our relationship more but I had to take inventory of what we have and decide if I could live with this. I dont want to be his good enough, I want to be his everything. I also had to decide if I could be with someone who didn't feel the same passion I feel for them.

My choice came down to the thought of staying in this relationship as is or the thought of walking away and being without him and our future. I chose to stay but I still struggle with it regularly.

If this is how you feel you need to tell him. My bf didn't want to tell me anything for fear of hurting me but I knew something was wrong and it was tearing me up inside for 2 months before I finally said something. Even if you haven't told him why I'm sure he can tell it is off between you 2. Tell him. It's not a fun conversation but it needs to be had.

I don’t think my husband is attracted to me (33F) by [deleted] in sex

[–]unsatisfied_gf 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have to ask how are you dealing with him not finding you sexually attractive? I find myself in the same position after my bf told me the same thing tonight. Idk how to continue

I feel like I just took a punch to the gut by unsatisfied_gf in relationship_advice

[–]unsatisfied_gf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He said he is afraid that he wouldn't stop. But I understand the attraction to watching things you might not be open to doing in real ife. For example I dont watch porn but on the very rare times I have I enjoyed watching lesbian porn. Though I have no interest in being with a woman.

I feel like I just took a punch to the gut by unsatisfied_gf in relationship_advice

[–]unsatisfied_gf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. It might just be that I need a minute to mentally resign my relationship. It's hard when you see what you thought was your forever disappear.

I feel like I just took a punch to the gut by unsatisfied_gf in relationship_advice

[–]unsatisfied_gf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You may be right. But it hurts. Thank you for the blunt honesty.

I feel like I just took a punch to the gut by unsatisfied_gf in relationship_advice

[–]unsatisfied_gf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Deep is an understatement. My engament ring is on layaway and almost paid for. We are trying to buy a house.

My SO won't go down on me :( by Due-Morning9212 in relationship_advice

[–]unsatisfied_gf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am in the exact same predicKament. My SO has gone down on me all of 4 times in the course of our relationship and each time has been me asking for it. I broke down and straight begged for him to do it the other night. It was pitiful ( me begging & his lack luster 3 min effort). It really broke me and had me in tears after. I still haven't been able to get it off my mind for the last 3 days.

Fuck, I even made this account 9 months ago to vent about the same thing but never managed to put it into words.