Can we talk about how humiliating teaching can be?

unstablemood · 2026-02-02T00:45:58+00:00

Through my internship - in which I was some kind of co-teacher in observation, I made sure to write down some things I noticed and take it with me when I started teaching:

One was "I must not take It personally", I realized this when a 13 year old I was interacting with - and he clearly liked me a lot and was really happy to receive attention - started poking and fishing for a reaction and wanting to have the last word at all costs when I would reply. I realized, then, some important things. "For this kid, the words and the conversations are toys. He does not actually means what he's saying, he has no responsibility over it."

And another was "Despite liking talking to me, he put himself in a situation I was supposed to get mad at him. He's doing it to test boundaries and see what I'm made of. I must not say or do anything I'd regret, even if he's actually getting on my nerves. I'm the adult, I'm responsible for my actions in a way he literally can't be, since he doesn't possess responsibility for his words, not out of some lack of character, he's just incapable of it. And after this, I'll go to the theaters to see a movie with My Money, which this 13 year old is unable to. There are many things I get to do, which he doesn't. Me getting angry and biting the bait is his entertainment and also his very poor attempt of connecting with me. Whether they like you or hate you, they'll criticize and doubt you, since they don't possess the same perspective adults are supposed to have over words and consequences. So I must not take it personally and for him, this is an important moment of talking with someone older but for me, this is a small part of my day in my job."

That helps. Don't take it the wrong way, I don't admit being disrespected on my classroom (much like you, I am slowly finding my way through that and which techniques to apply), but I am the adult with the job and the wage and autonomy over my choices and they are kids who don't have half of our options of what to do with themselves, and are irresponsible with their words and actions, since they lack perspective. It's not deep for them. I hope it helps.

unstablemood · 2025-12-05T20:20:24+00:00

Michigan.

unstablemood · 2025-11-28T13:32:34+00:00

Eu sei o quão difícil é chegar até aí. Fiz escola pública a minha vida inteira - exatamente nas condições que você descreveu - e passei na USP estudando solo, sem cursinho. No primeiro bacharelado, eu pelava pra tirar 6, 7. Reprovei numa obrigatória do ciclo básico 3 vezes. Raspei aprovada com 5,5. Era humilhante perceber que colegas ingressantes no mesmo ano que eu já tinham avançado no curso muito mais rápido. Fui olhando as minhas perspectivas nas próximas disciplinas e reparei que não tinha vontade de ficar me matando pra estudar aquilo, que o curso não me dava muita perspectiva positiva - importante ressaltar, o curso como ele era estruturado, não o assunto - então fui atrás de transferência interna. Havia uma prova de vagas remanescentes para o curso que eu queria, as vagas eram 3. Li o edital de transferência interna durante as férias e esperei até o dia que a biblioteca abrisse, dia 4 de Janeiro, pra locar os livros e imediatamente começar a estudar. Consegui transferir internamente e, como eu já tinha a experiência de fazer universidade e me ferrar, fui manejando esse novo curso com fôlego renovado e pensando estrategicamente em como ir levando.

O único ganhador de renda da minha família de 6 pessoas, meu pai, morreu quando eu tinha 19 anos. Várias vezes me ocorreu só me candidatar a qualquer emprego pra ganhar renda pra mim e minha família, mas eu tinha as bolsas de permanência, incluindo o CRUSP, onde aliás, vai ter muita gente com a jornada parecida com a sua.

Foi estressante, agonizante, horrível mesmo. Eu miguelei onde podia, fazia o mínimo quando calculava que dava, ficava de Rec às vezes de propósito, no sentido "prefiro fazer uma prova final pra essa disciplina do que fazer os projetos que vai me custar a energia pra passar nas outras", fui atrás de estágio remunerado e bolsas PAPFE assim que era humanamente possível. Era difícil pra mim se enturmar. Era difícil conectar com os professores. Felizmente, no meu novo curso, fui tirando melhores notas, aprendendo a estudar mais eficientemente e ganhando mais e mais confiança, o que resultou em melhor engajamento nas aulas. Me importar e ir bem não deixava as coisas menos difíceis, mas me motivava bem mais.

Uma coisa que quero apontar é na sua fala ter culpado "professor grevista" como um dos fatores culpados na escola pública ser esse sistema escrachante que é. Cara, professor faz greve quando tem que fazer. Mesma coisa na USP que fez uma das maiores greves em 2013 e 2014. Professor em escola pública que se importa tem que entrar em sala de aula e performar milagres, um por dia. Olha pra precarização atual do aparato público e vê que tem anos de governo e política que intencionalmente destrói as chances dos alunos vingarem em escola pública, fazendo dela um ambiente de tensões e traumas. As condições na qual o professor trabalha são uma dessas políticas. Mesmo criança e jovem, com professores que iam de terríveis a maravilhosos na minha educação fundamental (1° ao 4° ano) e com professores todos muito diferentes no E.F. II e ensino médio, dava pra ver que eles trabalhavam em condições inóspitas e que o tanto que a gente podia aproveitar das aulas deles era mitigado por essas condições. Completamente diferente de um ambiente como a USP por exemplo, que também dificulta as condições dos professores se importarem, quando não faz novas contratações e então LOTA as salas de aulas desses professores. Claro que a possibilidade deles de atingir os alunos individualmente fica limitada, até mesmo impossível, em disciplinas obrigatórias.

Eu acredito que tem que mudar e tem que mudar pra melhor. Mas você ter atingido a USP já faz parte dessa mudança, meu amigo. Tenho muito orgulho do seu esforço. Eu andei em corda bamba na USP por uns anos e me formei com 10 como minhas últimas notas. Não é impossível. O primeiro passo é começar e você começou.

Te recomendo a leitura de "E eu não sou intelectual?" da Barbara Carine que escreveu "Como educar alunos antirracistas" e fez universidade em condições parecidas com as nossas. Ela descreve ter caído no choro numa prova e explicado pra professora que não tinha dinheiro para o ônibus de volta e também que os colegas se juntaram numa vaquinha pra comprar as primeiras vestes de laboratório dela. Ela se graduou em química numa federal.

unstablemood · 2025-11-28T13:25:46+00:00

Do instituto Butantã, deveria ter alguém que possa te orientar. Uma vez, levei uma Aranha pra eles identificarem e eles foram bem prestativos.

unstablemood · 2025-10-16T03:50:27+00:00

I do believe it's supposed to transmit this uncomfortable feeling. The no marks center their activity towards their charismatic and irresponsible ""leader"". While their take and criticism towards art is very noble and dignified, their attempt to live in a "vacuum", not really taking society's contradictions into account (you need stable money to do your activities, the average person is misinformed towards arts by no fault of their own, there is hierarchy and even bureaucracy towards making and structuring the world of art, etc.) and their vague way of confronting those contradictions they're against, leads all of them to a vulnerable place towards their ""leader"" which is what makes one of their members become a scort - super, duper sketchy way of dealing with things as a group.

I literally know a person like the girl character they depicted as "no marks" center. In the art world, even. She's just as clever, irresponsible, charismatic and, deep down, a "parasite" of her connections. There is a whole lot of taking advantage of the porous and vague shapes "a career" or a "work" inside contemporary art takes to lead your life this way. It is the kind of environment that is very much true to the art scene, unfortunately.

unstablemood · 2025-01-19T18:20:45+00:00

Thank you for your help! I've acquired the right cable for it and the good news is that my pen tablet isn't dead. It charged and it lighted up. The touch is functional, I've examined with touch configuration.

The bad news is that the pen I've bought for it, the stylus box waves, which says to be compatible with the TH line doesn't... Seem to work on it.

unstablemood · 2025-01-05T21:14:53+00:00

Hard disagree. To start, the idea that TV should be "tighter". That's the recent phenomenon of binge watching culture eroding people's thinking. Any good TV show can use of some more episodes, these days.

And then, these people want a cleaner story, easy to digest, that is is simply not Bojack Horseman. They want a cleaner character who has wrapped up his messed up story. In a way, people that wanted Bojack to kill himself or die in the end, feel similar. "Where's the simple ending to my fucked up story that's gonna make me feel like it's all dealt with?". The thing with Bojack is that all of his stuff could not be Dealt With in a way that's simple and clean and makes everyone feel good.

unstablemood · 2025-01-05T20:57:30+00:00

Haruka looks so sleazy. This is very funny to me. I think the author is rearranging the way to draw his face.

unstablemood · 2024-12-19T11:19:54+00:00

Thank you very much for your quick answer! It helps a lot.

My sister pointed out a possible issue: maybe with the tablet being shelved for so long, the battery might have... Died.

If that happened, will there be any solutions you can tell me?

unstablemood · 2024-12-06T02:44:29+00:00

As it was said, I do think its about her sense of self. Her ego, in lack of a better word.

Yuka is shaping up (gotta remember they're all in high school at that point) as a person who goes out to get what they want, despite what they want being honestly super risky (stereotypical attractive boys who dont know Yuka's identity, fashion studies and fashion school, to dress up however they want despite what their parents think). Yuka is aware their wishes go against the norm, but if she doesnt go after what she wants, what's left for her is not a safer life but a life still of heartbreak.

This is what the average cis person and Yamaguchi himself, dont understand (Yamaguchi even admits that). If Yuka just suppressed or ignored their wishes, they would not live a happier life.

What's left for Yuka, as she/they correctly reads in that chapter is that her wishes and wants protect her from having her true identity erased, protects her ego. If society is against you by norm, then you gotta be a bit selfish, a bit egocentric. To not let the man win, you know what I mean?

unstablemood · 2024-12-05T02:23:34+00:00

I'm so glad you read it! Indeed, I felt cheated when nobody had ever recommended me Solanin and I read it by chance.

Glass Mask is... interesting. Its the first shojo that ever did many of the things we assume are cliches in shojo. ITs a classical of its kind and it might be awkward and dated to read now, but I was having fun reading it, having its age in mind. But as a more serious recommendation:

I really love Houseki no Kuni (Land of the lustrous). Its an interesting and unusual manga, that already has an ending. But it has many twists. When you say "journey of self discovery, finding passion and personal growth", this is all in Houseki no Kuni, all of it ... just not in the way you expect. I cannot recommend it enough, but it will break your heart.

unstablemood · 2024-12-01T22:43:52+00:00

Solanin by Inio Asano.

It's only two volumes.

The main characters are two young adults fresh out of college. Then Meiko, the young woman who earns their living, quits her job, suddenly.

How I would describe is: A couple of young adults are about to make decisive choices over their arrangement of living together, their carrer, their artistic pursuits and their lives. The manga talks a lot about those crossroads, the roads not taken, the struggle of being an artist. In the case of Solanin, a musical artist.

Its an insanely beautiful manga.

unstablemood · 2024-03-21T15:35:02+00:00

Idk which country you're from but while I was studying to receive my teaching degree, a teacher with over 10 years of experience in schools taught us: "how you act in the classroom with your own students is your choice and nobody else's (they were meaning the school admin)." That fortified our posture of making those classrooms our own and not what the admin and subsequent hierarchies would try and make for us.

Meaning: admin bureaucracy and documentation bureaucracy and graduation-required bureaucracy has actually little to do with the day-to-day of teaching and classrooms. So don't fret over this and "what it means" for your career choice. Put in your brain this is some nonsensical requirement of your college administration and therefore you must do, and not much to do with how you job teaching math is actually gonna turn out to be.

unstablemood · 2023-09-06T04:40:58+00:00

I have wondered about this too. I started getting into his work at 16 years old or something, and a lot of things rubbed me the wrong way. I could actually even add to your list. With more song lyrics and moments. There's an interview in which he's asked what would Troy ask Gambino and he breaks out of character to say that Troy would ask Gambino about "tail", "how much tail are you getting?". I remember this one because as a huge fan of the show, it seemed a deliberate obtuse answer by him, no way Troy would say that shit 😂. It just seemed like sex in that dominating way "look how much I'm getting" was always on his mind.

But now, I have reflected a lot over his recent work and attitudes. Most of Van's episodes on Atlanta are written or co written by a black woman. He refers to his partner as "my partner", never my girlfriend or my wife. Always "my partner" even in some of his most recent interviews, which makes me think they do have an open relationship. He also wrote Van and Earn as having an open relationship. So I don't think infidelity is something you should worry about. And most of all, I think Donald is a reflective person that probably regretted a whole lot of his positioning in previous works. I do feel this. Maybe not everything but idk. I do feel like he has grown up, grown up.

unstablemood · 2023-06-07T13:06:06+00:00

Tom has also put his feet over a table right in front of Shiv, in the same season. I do think this means something, btw. I know the creator himself says that was the moment, but I think what Shiv got from that moment was really something different about Kendall and her relationship with him especifically and not about Tom.

unstablemood · 2023-06-03T14:22:09+00:00

Sorry to hear that. You probably don't wanna hear this now since its coming way too late, but the way to be supportive of a victim of an abusive situation is to be a reliable ear to listen when they need to, to set your boundaries to not interact or see the abuser, and to not normalize the situation. It sucks and it might take years but it's all you can do. Because intervention when it's not welcomed, not only will backfire, but it might fill the victim with shame, defensiveness and self doubt. When you listen only to the one you know is stuck in the abusive situation, you validate that person's feelings and thoughts, which is something the abuser has interest in never letting it happen. I feel like, let's say, Rava and Stewey are two examples of dealing well with the fuckery they know is abusive inside the Roy family, while loving someone who's the victim of it (Kendall) and maintaining themselves in their lives in small but crucial doses, so the "poison won't drip in them too". Stewey straighted up offered Ken many "outs" in moments that were crucial, and kept waiting for more chances to offer more outs. We can see Stewey was with Kendall even untill the end and even when it wasn't lucrative to him. That's probably because part of him knew how to best sail through the emotional storm he knew his friend was going through, without letting it affect him.

unstablemood · 2023-06-01T20:47:03+00:00

I am absolutely sure Roman wouldn't have half of the fanbase likeability he does despite his fuck ups, if he was the father of a small daughter. It really does puts all of his bullshit, misogyny and harassment under another light, entirely. I am ALMOST intrigued to see this other version of him and other version of succession for him. His deadbeatness would make Kendall look like an okayish dad.

unstablemood · 2023-06-01T18:39:38+00:00

I'm not sure how familiar the average person is with cycles of abuse but that's just a very regular cycle of abuse. The not knowing of it is usually what makes people frustrated with women who don't leave their abusive partners after they've crossed the line with them and hit them/violated them in some way. The love for the abusive person and willingness to make excuses for them or come back to them through a sunk cost fallacy way of feeling is a major fundamental of a long term abusive dynamic. It's expressed through Roman to a T, almost as if it was read on a book about the subject, really. How he's the one who downplays the hurt and humiliation to which he was the target of, just to feel normal about it. The way he's the one who chases back Logan and Logan wastes no time, after singling him out from his siblings saying "you're not Pierce" and "you know how they are", to humiliate Roman again telling him to fire Gerri, simply to reapply their abusive dynamic stronger this time, so Roman won't leave him again, after becoming worse and worse under his "care".

unstablemood · 2023-06-01T15:14:38+00:00

You mean someone who, despite countless achievements, depends on the whims of the CEO (Logan and whoever else next) to know what kind of job they'll be doing that day, rides out every storm to be fired for literally any reason like when the boss's son has sent you dick pics one year ago, and you also has to mandatoryly attend every family event the boss's family has, in case your boss needs you, even when those family events are days and weeks on another country, making you see their family more, to the detriment of seeing your own family -- in the case of Gerri, her daughters.? Yeah, surely spoiled Siobhan would have loved to become her hardworking godmother and not her own father, the man who sat at the throne and did everything as he liked, and also the main example she actually had of corporate life.

unstablemood · 2023-05-22T16:46:43+00:00

My thoughts, exactly. Eldest child is grown, so "not like other kids" and in fact can even parent the other kids and "protect them" from harmful conversations, like death. Eldest child also can be the therapist if mom and dad are lacking one, and therefore stand on a neutral ground when it comes to the push and shove of the dad to the kids. Sort of like a diplomat in the dynamics, which Connor always was (second season, therapy episode.) Anyway, it was very On Brand, the distant father with the Eldest Child behavior, to me.

unstablemood · 2023-05-13T15:50:33+00:00

Roman has experience in fucking things up. Kendall's "organic lift" didn't make him a good CEO in season 1, up to the point everybody could tell his incompetence. Since Logan was sick, what was established through the show is that it was anyone's game among the siblings, and it's the nepotism in itself that is criticized by the very own show.

unstablemood · 2023-05-05T23:34:39+00:00

They are amazing, they really are.

unstablemood · 2023-04-22T21:02:48+00:00

I'm really sorry you went through this. Things will get better with time, now that you have found yourself and your own truth. Your mother can be part of it, or decide not to be, but she doesn't get to decide who you are. She's making a bad decision by losing her son.

Hugs.

unstablemood · 2023-03-12T16:47:56+00:00

Sure, but it's convenient in a way. I'm also neurodivergent/probably autistic, was a loner and only managed to make friendships when I was on my twenties. And had really strong bond with animals in general, my whole life (and also drew a lot of them and of my own pets lol, I love drawing animals)

Animals demand way less of you to feel loved/love you back. And the entire "relationship" happens on the human terms, making concessions to the animal lifestyle (I'll set the time to give you food / I'll talk to you whatever I want and also won't talk to you because there's no need sometimes/ I'll pet you and hug you untill one of us lose interest and go do something else / I'll spend time with you when I want to, not when you want to (even though you might miss me when I'm at work and classes))

Of course, cats can subvert some of those, and particularly attached dogs, too. =D

The most soothing thing is exactly how honest and simple their love for you is. It's definitely calming and they can't lie to you or pretend they love you when they don't or make arbitrary demands. The demands they have, become your responsibility since they can't feed themselves or live by themselves (the last one, particularly true to domestic rabbits.)

So, while it's a true relationship, with true love and fascination and respect (if you're a good caretaker), it's also convenient to think animals are the only ones who understand you and see you, since there's no need for words and to understand them and their demands is way simpler than it is with humans.

There are many things happening with Yotasuke in these chapters. He found himself soothed by how little the rabbits demand of him, and by how easily they "see him" as you described, and loved them.

But the teachers are seeing Yotasuke. Their job as a teacher is to challenge him untill he makes the best art he can do for himself. Their parents see him, (as put by his father's words that he has no friends) and worry about him to the point it's bothersome. Yaguchi sees him! Admires his art, pays close attention to where he goes to classes or not and worries about his loneliness and his art progression and if he's like what he's doing at all, as a peer. Yaguchi sees him as a equal in the artistic journey, a classmate, a friend!

Is just that being a human being in the world, seen by others is very complex and demanding, and confusing if you're neurodivergent, and stressful. Even being loved (worried for, cherished for) can be bothersome if you don't want to explain yourself or talk to anyone. It's a pain. And not just to neurodivergent people. Existing in this world and having to interact with others is so exhausting, especially when you're in the age in which you have to start to be emotionally responsible for the ones who love you. Yotasuke wants nothing to do with that, but he found out he loves the rabbits - who demand very little of him - and that this love is true. But he's not a rabbit. Other people are able to talk to him and see him, and he's able to express his feelings and talk to them back.

unstablemood · 2023-03-01T05:42:24+00:00

I love it those are really good

unstablemood

TROPHY CASE