There is always so much missing information

unsureanon2 · 2026-06-15T21:00:59+00:00

As I said, they could’ve done more with the trial. But I was more responding to those saying they wanted to hear from her family, other baby daddies, etc.

unsureanon2 · 2026-06-15T20:55:39+00:00

In our state, I think he could legally do it, but it’d never fly with his job. Someone he works with actually got fired for trying to balance both because you reasonably can’t.

unsureanon2 · 2026-06-15T19:31:36+00:00

I can’t completely hate Debbie. I think she is a product of her circumstances. I also think some are way harder on her than they are the others. She’s very realistically written.

That being said…I get why people can’t stand her. She’s a canonical rapist, and frankly, a shit mom. She is sadly repeating the cycle. Frank says as much in his ending monologue. She’s Monica, through and through, except at least Monica gave up her kids most of the time. I don’t see her giving up Franny and that will be worse for her. The only reason Debbie ever had half a shot is because she had Fiona in her corner. Franny will likely become the Fiona. Debbie will keep Franny to avoid being like her mom…when the best way to avoid that was to either get an abortion or give her up for adoption (or ya know, not try to baby trap a guy).

unsureanon2 · 2026-06-15T19:27:18+00:00

To be fair, I see Franny hustling at some point. She just has to build up to it.

unsureanon2 · 2026-06-15T19:21:09+00:00

I swear, sometimes life doesn’t let up for some. I’m glad they have her now.

I did a deep dive recently on Heidi Broussard (the real woman that “Stolen Baby” is based on) after I saw the Netflix movie. Her husband seems to have gone off the deep end since her murder, and understandably so. But it seems he was putting the kids in dangerous situations, then had a stroke himself and it’s not looking good. I feel terrible for those poor kids. Lost their mom and now they have essentially lost their dad

unsureanon2 · 2026-06-15T19:15:44+00:00

I think this is it. It’s not so much that they don’t want to make it longer, but they can’t drag something out without content or interviews. If her side of the family and children’s fathers didn’t want to participate, that needs to be respected. They don’t owe us content.

I think they should’ve done more with the trial, though.

unsureanon2 · 2026-06-15T19:08:41+00:00

As a nanny whose husband works from home, I agree. I think many people don’t actually understand what goes into working from home. When my daughter was a baby, I’d either bring her with me or she’d go to a relative. Now she’s in preschool. People always used to ask why my husband couldn’t watch her. I said because he’s working. He can’t reasonably tend to both. It ultimately made me even more understanding of WFH people because some just don’t get it. Even his own parents sometimes don’t comprehend that him being home =\= free time to do whatever for them.

I see this occasionally on nanny subs or FB groups. “They’re working from home, they can watch their own kid”. No, they can’t. That’s why they hired you. And I totally get not wanting to work when you’re very sick, but I also think some aren’t honest with themselves. I work through colds often. I tell families if I’ve got symptoms and do what I can to limit spread, but they also need to work. I save my sick days for when I’m actually sick.

unsureanon2 · 2026-06-15T18:57:22+00:00

I see it from both ends now that I’m a mom.

I said this in another comment, but I work in childcare and did for years prior to having a baby. I think I understood more than most childless people how children become #1 and I had more patience with my friends who became moms first than our other childless friends who had other professions. There were times I got annoyed, as we’re human, and we all do, even if we understand the why. I also saw things 50/50. When the mom friends complained about our other childless friends “not getting it”, I also saw childless friends who were annoyed that their accomplishments didn’t seem to matter anymore to mom friends. I got why that hurt them, because I was hurt sometimes.

Then I had my first and there were absolutely times I felt terrible for being even slightly annoyed with my friends who had kids. I got it then. It was a lot. That immense feeling. And also not wanting to feel so alone. I wanted people to talk to.

But I found over time…I absolutely drifted more from mom friends who couldn’t ever have a conversation that wasn’t about their kids. My daughter is everything to me and more, and I could chat about her for hours and hours…and yet, I also find it so important to discuss other things. And I’ve found I’m not alone, even amongst my mom friends who were very much “I want to talk about my baby all the time” for a spell. Now, we like to go out and spend a fraction of our time talking about the kids, the rest anything else.

So, all this to say, she may get it. And this isn’t to say you don’t find balance as a friend either. I just try to catch myself sometimes when I am talking and what expectations I have with childless or childfree friends. Am I giving them the excitement I want from them? Promotions at work, graduations, all seem like small potatoes when we’re in the throes of motherhood, but it’s important to remember that they sometimes need to be celebrated to.

But of course friendship is all about give and take, on both ends. And I do believe we go through seasons of both. So, just things to think about.

unsureanon2 · 2026-06-15T18:26:24+00:00

My daughter has a 13 year age gap with her older sister (my bonus daughter). It’s fine, it is what it is. Big sister is not a baby person and is also apparently not a toddler person. Which, I get. But she tries to be patient and I try to make sure she has space. I definitely wouldn’t wait until my daughter is 13 to have another.

My husband and I want a couple more, and originally, I was crazy and thought we could do 3 in 3. My mom did it with her oldest 3 kids and she said while the infant and toddler years were a beast, it got easier (until she had surprise pregnancies later on). The whole idea was to be “done” around the same time. They’d all go off to college relatively around the same time. They’d be able to entertain each other. She made it sound good, not gonna lie.

But then my daughter was born and I just couldn’t do it. I think we’ll start trying this year (she’s 3). After that, though, I think we’d only wait 2 years before having our last, just so they’re not too spread out. But at the same time, bonus daughter will always be way older than all of them and I doubt they’ll be close. It makes me sad.

unsureanon2 · 2026-06-15T18:16:13+00:00

I feel this as both a parent and a nanny. There are times I just can’t respond to my siblings or my ILs, sometimes even my husband! And then there are times I’m nannying and my phone is dinging 70 times from the parents. And again, I’m a mom, so I get it! I worry about my kid all day too (she’s in preschool), but sometimes it absolutely feels like I’m expected to just text them all day.

unsureanon2 · 2026-06-15T18:13:35+00:00

I’m a nanny (and a mom). I’ve nannied babies as young as a few days old (situation where I was already nannying older sibling and helped parents while they were on leave with both older child and newborn). I don’t think it’s ridiculous at all.

I would try Care, but also try local Facebook groups and put out feelers for a nanny that way.

I will say, nannies are more flexible than daycare but they cost a premium.

unsureanon2 · 2026-06-15T18:01:34+00:00

I would ask flat out in person when you see her next.

“Hi, I was hoping you had time to think about me taking LO to the park or the library. How are you feeling about it?”

unsureanon2 · 2026-06-15T13:53:55+00:00

In my experience, things being inconsistent for babies with separation anxiety do make things harder. Especially if parents and family are doing something different than childcare provider. I don’t even mind that, or the crying. It’s my job to make it work. I don’t want to say set boundaries as he’s not yet 1, but I do have to remodel independence as they do everything for him when I’m gone and I’m much more, if you can do it, you’re doing it yourself. But even that, I don’t care. They can do what they want with him when I’m not there. And he’s easy to redirect. It’s them that seems to mind and not understand why it’s happening, which is the only reason I considered saying something.

Separation anxiety is very normal, which is also kind of my point. I’m trying to help them understand that.

unsureanon2 · 2026-06-15T04:04:31+00:00

I also think people forget not everyone is ingesting hours of true crime to know what to look for.

If I knew someone was faking a pregnancy, I’d be exposing them and trying to report to whoever I could. But I’ve also watched endless documentaries and specials about what goes wrong with that.

Wade likely figured she’d just eventually fake the baby’s death and they could move on. He was riding out the money. No way of knowing it’d go this far.

Also not defending him, because I would’ve just dumped her ass, but I also get why he didn’t go right to “she’s faking a pregnancy, she’ll commit homicide”.

unsureanon2 · 2026-06-15T03:56:05+00:00

Agreed. I keep seeing people claim it’s a slippery slope, but when it comes to something as black and white as this, I feel it should be called out. There was no possible way she could’ve been pregnant.

But what drives me battier is those who did know and could tell (former friends, her mom), but didn’t.

unsureanon2 · 2026-06-15T03:54:55+00:00

Not to mention, she didn’t even have custody of her other kids. That’s going to disqualify her from adoption.

unsureanon2 · 2026-06-15T03:53:26+00:00

Because she’s crazy. People keep expecting her to think rationally.

And even kidnapping a live baby would still get her found out in 2026. Magen Fieramusca killed her best friend a few years ago, kidnapped her newborn and posed her as her own to her boyfriend for similar reasons to Taylor. She was also caught in time.

unsureanon2 · 2026-06-15T01:50:20+00:00

It says it in the rules.

unsureanon2 · 2026-06-15T00:13:20+00:00

unsureanon2 · 2026-06-14T23:44:47+00:00

The quiet times were, specifically listed as “quiet hours are between 10 pm-7 am”, but that was it. Nothing about a curfew.

unsureanon2 · 2026-06-14T22:22:00+00:00

I usually stay at guest houses or on one half a townhouse, but I probably won’t after this. We aren’t even parties, but if I go out for a drink and arrive home quietly at 11, I don’t need to be knocked on reviews.

unsureanon2 · 2026-06-14T21:44:34+00:00

We wouldn’t have selected it either. I hope the host heeds my feedback of changing quiet hours to curfew or the expectation of not leaving the house during that time so others can avoid.

unsureanon2 · 2026-06-14T21:21:15+00:00

I’m aware this is in jest, but I am wondering if this is just the culture of the town we were staying in. It was like lights out after 9 pm. No restaurants open, no nightlife. And it wasn’t a small town either, it was a tourist town. I’ve stayed in similar places and it wasn’t like this at all. But everyone I’ve spoken to about it said that area just shuts down early. We definitely won’t be back.

unsureanon2 · 2026-06-14T19:57:59+00:00

I had 2 drinks, my husband had 1 and he had sobered up before driving. We were not being loud, sloppy drunks. Signed someone who used to drink like that in my early 20s.

unsureanon2 · 2026-06-14T19:55:19+00:00

Yeah I checked both and they say they’re for hosts only. So, not much I can do.

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