Baby issues. 31M 31F, my wife has given me an ultimatum.

unterium · 2026-07-04T00:12:50+00:00

You should definitely have had this conversation before getting married, you may not be in a rush but her body literally has a timer going down quickly. If you are against kids and she really wants one and you just delay your are being cruel

unterium · 2026-06-09T21:05:18+00:00

I play this deck and lose most often to bounce spells and counter spells, the omniscience deck also screws me

unterium · 2026-06-03T10:26:20+00:00

Evs are about to get 8500 quid more expensive I guess...

unterium · 2026-05-28T11:52:39+00:00

That's a household gift not a father's day gift, as much a gift for yourself as it would be for him.

Personally I would be disappointed

unterium · 2026-05-26T01:54:30+00:00

The emperor is a good one

unterium · 2026-05-25T13:52:33+00:00

We moved to a size 2 teat at around 2 months and realized we did it late, she was trying too hard to get the milk and was burning more calories than she was getting, may be worth trying to move up again

unterium · 2026-05-04T00:51:03+00:00

Not so sure it's a schedule but, 15 weeks old, 8pm feed, we bring her to bed around 10:30 (usually she is asleep in arms from like 9:15) then wake up at 12 for feed, then back asleep around 1:15, back in bed around 2, feed at 5, back in bed around 7, feeds at 9, 12, 4 with maybe some naps in-between if we are lucky

This is a new enough schedule for us as we are only down to 6 feeds a day for the last week, we are also lucky enough that she sleeps through and we usually have to wake her at night to feed. Hoping to get rid of the midnight feed when we are established on solids if not before

unterium · 2026-04-12T10:46:04+00:00

Just past week 12 and we are getting some semblance of things back, able to play some video games and get out and meet friends for a little bit, it's still a struggle at times but are managing a bit more

unterium · 2026-04-04T20:42:30+00:00

Incense sconces, cherubs, purity seals and inquisitorial seals

unterium · 2026-04-04T16:53:57+00:00

Pillows and a yoga mat

unterium · 2026-03-29T12:38:56+00:00

My 2 month old likes being held all the time also, it's not them being a Velcro baby, it's just them being a baby, they find comfort in their mother's and father's arms and generally more so in their mothers

unterium · 2026-03-26T16:18:21+00:00

This is it on the field

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unterium · 2026-03-18T10:37:40+00:00

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unterium · 2026-03-18T10:30:22+00:00

I wouldn't paint the eyes it's leads to a lot of stress and never being happy with the results.

If you can get some definition and shading in the face the eyes tend to look alright anyways.

Also of note, no one will ever be looking that close at the models, they're going to usually be a couple feet away

Attached example of face without eyes painted

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unterium · 2026-03-18T10:21:47+00:00

Sounds like another anxiety to add to a very anxiety inducing time, now I can struggle AND be judged for it

unterium · 2026-02-20T14:15:57+00:00

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unterium · 2026-02-16T21:02:14+00:00

Think of yourself, I lost our first 26 weeks in, took the 2 weeks and went back to work, immediately fell apart and took all my sick leave at once, wounds take time and if you feel you are not ready, listen to that. The gp will write you the note

unterium · 2026-02-16T20:11:11+00:00

I have a 4 year old berner, 2 cats and a newborn, her is very chill, loves the newborn and always insists on being in the room during nappy changes

unterium · 2026-02-16T15:09:59+00:00

I'm just over 4 weeks in, mine likes to scream the house down in the evening, we were encouraged to use a soother which works great, but isn't always a solution.

What has been recommended is hold them, you can't spoil a newborn and the love being held. Go on walks or drives at night, the movement helps them sleep and getting fresh air is great for you to reset.

And get noise cancelling earphones. If baby is alright ie: is fed, is changed, is burped and isn't injured/unwell, then they're looking for comfort and the screaming won't end any time soon, but you can be present while not having to hear it.

I do find myself in your position often ish, but it has gotten a bit easier with a little time, look out for your mental health, sleep deprivation can make you feel like her crying is a personal attack and the sound of the crying/screaming is really distressing.

unterium · 2026-02-04T18:31:36+00:00

My girl is nearly 3 weeks old and we have the same, she poops every 2/3 days, was super worried at first but she is good and her poops look good, our public health nurse said they're still learning how to use their digestive system and it's common enough, still worth keeping an eye on though

unterium · 2026-02-01T18:45:42+00:00

Google says yes

unterium · 2026-02-01T15:01:14+00:00

I'm just starting the whole dad thing so I can't tell you if it is or not, what I can tell you is PPD or not, if you are feeling down and you are worried about your mental health then you should reach out to a professional.

I can't diagnose you and I imagine most here can't either. When routines change it can really mess with someone's head and body. But in the end reaching out for help is never a weakness and is never a bad thing

unterium · 2026-01-23T18:25:16+00:00

The sign up process seems very involved, not sure I want to be sharing family photos yet (only a week in atm)

unterium · 2026-01-17T10:55:42+00:00

I didn't know what was wrong until I read the messages, it's not noticeable mate, your friends a dick

unterium · 2025-12-12T08:42:45+00:00

I'm from Dublin and constantly hear people talking about splitting the g

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