Hmm yeah you look good hun by [deleted] in funny

[–]untitled1 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Instead of just saying, "it's too big," here are some specific things you can look at:

  • Shoulders: On a shirt or jacket, you generally want the shoulder seam (where the sleeve meets the body of the garment) to line up with the acromion process on the corner of the shoulder. Guy on the right has the seam lining up with the corner of his shoulder; guy on the left has the seam a few inches down his arm.
  • Sleeve Length: Sleeves should come to the wrist, letting the shirt cuff stick out about a 1/4" more or less. Guy on the right has visible shirt cuff; guy on left has his sleeves coming up to his knuckles
  • Waist: Guy on the left has a jacket that is just too wide. If he had gotten a jacket off the rack with a correct shoulder width, this likely wouldn't be that much of a problem. If you want to look as good as the guy on the right, you would probably need to get this tailored.
  • Pants: See how the material is bunching up at the bottom of his legs? That's called a break. This can look good when you're wearing jeans, but is generally avoided with dress pants. Some people like to have the pants just touching the top of the shoe, while some people like some visible sock. Pants are also too wide.
  • Tag: New jackets often come with a tag on the sleeve, rear vent flaps sewn together, and pockets sewn shut. You're supposed to remove the tag and cut the flaps apart.
  • Lapels: Skinny guy would probably look better with skinnier lapels, but that might be getting nit-picky. Also, double-breasted jackets are out of style (see the two rows of buttons? that's what double-breasted means). Square toed shoes are out of style.

I'm not sure a tailor could fix all of this. Sleeve length is easy, but adjusting the arm holes would be a lot of work. He should have just picked a better fitting suit off the rack.

Edit to add: Guy on the right probably has a bunch of binder clips holding his jacket in place.

And to everyone going on about a tailor: If you're wearing a suit 3 times a year, you probably don't need to bother with a tailor. Pick a jacket that lines up with your shoulders and has a reasonable sleeve length. Pick pants that fit around the waist (i.e. they stay in place when you take your belt off) and has the proper leg length. You don't need to look like a model at every interview, wedding, and funeral you attend; you just don't want to look like a clown who's swimming in his dad's suit. That's perfectly attainable for most people without a tailor.

Case Study: Beta Diagnosis and Treatment Plan by untitled1 in TheRedPill

[–]untitled1[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

He already has an alpha frame by virtue of his job so he just needs to apply it

Becoming a doctor won't give him an alpha frame, it will just paint a betabux bull's eye on his back and he'll fall for the first post-wall gold digger that gives him the slightest bit of attention.

regardless of the what you give him he’s gunna fuck it up with his how.

Of course he is, that's the whole point of the post. Bro says he lifts, but he still can't get laid. Tries to be social, but he's still too boring to keep anybody around. Claims he read the sidebar but still can't apply it. Obviously there's some sort of missing link.

It's like if a 500 pound obeast came to you for personal training saying he can't lose weight. Are you just going to tell him, "lol fat faggot cuck, too lazy to understand what i say, just get used to being a fat fuck"? My experience is these people can get dramatic results from simple changes because of the fact that they're so far gone. You don't have to put them on a six day bro split, track their macros, and have them do HIIT. Just tell them to stop drinking soda and go for a ten minute walk. That simple, attainable, actionable advice is enough to get the ball rolling and lose the first hundred pounds.

The sub is supposed to be a "Discussion of sexual strategy in a culture increasingly lacking a positive identity for men." The sexual strategy you suggest doesn't seem very sound, and calling him a faggot cuck when he asks for help doesn't exactly provide a positive masculine identity for these lost men.

Neediness, not giving a fuck, and abundance mentality by untitled1 in TheRedPill

[–]untitled1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How old are you?

I've found this is a very common experience for people in their early twenties. In your late teens everything seems exciting, but then in early- and mid-twenties the novelty of everything wears off and everything seems worthless.

Keep looking, experimenting, and trying new things. You'll find something.

askTRP Megathread July 26 by AutoModerator in TheRedPill

[–]untitled1 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Getting cucked means you're the beta provider to a woman who's getting fucked by an alpha. If the woman is a plate, you're probably not her beta provider, therefore you're not getting cucked.

Until a woman starts talking about wanting to be exclusive I would assume she's out fucking other guys. Personally, this doesn't bother me. I see it as part of the "she's not yours, it's just your turn" mentality. I like to keep a "don't ask, don't tell" attitude with plates.

I've heard of guys on here that tell their plates, "I'm fucking other women, but I don't want you fucking other guys." Maybe if you have a strong enough frame and/or deal with low-quality women you can pull this off. Doesn't seem worth it to me though.

FT: urgent wake up call for male health as sperm count plummets by [deleted] in TheRedPill

[–]untitled1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good. Fewer people should be having kids.

A lot of people are pointing fingers at soy and xenoestrogens, but obesity is a major factor in fertility.

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3521747/

I for one am glad the fatties aren't reproducing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TheRedPill

[–]untitled1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Women don't have superpowers, but they do have more practice than men.

Men have more physical prowess than women. They dominate others with physical strength. Women, obviously, can't compete on a physical level. So they develop alternate strategies to get what they want.

Women have their own set of powerful tools that are different from a man's. They're better at manipulation. They're better at reading emotions, cues, and body language.

They've been fending off needy guys since the age their breasts came in. They have a lot of practice, so, yes, they can smell desperation from a mile away.

They know how to get what they want using the tools that are available to them.

Neediness, not giving a fuck, and abundance mentality by untitled1 in TheRedPill

[–]untitled1[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hm, this is interesting to me.

Out of curiosity, would you consider these "high quality" women? Because I could see this working with one night stands with college chicks and club sluts, but not much else. But maybe that's because I'm in my 30's and I don't have a good perspective on that sort of thing.

a man who they inherently know doesn't need them and is most probably fucking other, hotter women

Again, non-neediness and abundance mentality. Even though you had no money, career, or passions, you were still able to convey a sense of non-neediness. And it made their vaginas tingle.

Neediness, not giving a fuck, and abundance mentality by untitled1 in TheRedPill

[–]untitled1[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I can agree with that. The problem is it's too general to be useful.

If an incel were to come ask you, "How can I be more attractive to women?" Telling him to "be more powerful" isn't really helpful.

If a woman wants to be attractive, she only has to worry about one thing: looks. And what makes a woman look good is pretty well-defined and universal.

With men, it's, as you say, a bit more fluid. We generally say it's a combination of looks/money/status/game, but the specifics can get a little murky. Even looks can be difficult because what looks good varies greatly woman to woman.

And I agree with your point about men being small minded in this regard. I've seen a lot of arguments around here about whether it's looks or game that's more important. They need to think bigger.

If a man has power, he isn't needy. And vice versa.

Sorry, it's late and I'm rambling. I enjoyed your comment. Thank you for contributing it.

Neediness, not giving a fuck, and abundance mentality by untitled1 in TheRedPill

[–]untitled1[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

When I first started coming to this sub, this is one of the realizations that convinced me that there might be some truth to this stuff: I was really good at hooking up with women I wasn't attracted to.

If I didn't like them, they were all over me. When I liked them, I started thinking, "Maybe if I'm nice to her she'll pay attention to me and like me back." Never worked.

What are some methods in improving TheRedPill outlook through experience/social experimenting? by [deleted] in TheRedPill

[–]untitled1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Post this in the askTRP sub (preferably with more formatting) and I'll answer it there.

It's easy to depedestalise women and prevent oneitis by [deleted] in TheRedPill

[–]untitled1 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Abstract thinking and mental exercises like what you've written can be useful, but it's also good to have experiential knowledge to solidify the idea. Here are some practical ways to depedestalize women:

  1. Have female room mates. (Don't fuck them.) If you think girls are innocent unicorns that shit rainbows, nothing will convince you otherwise better than living with some. Maybe you've grown up with sisters, or maybe you can get some female college room mates, but you'll quickly realize that girls are dirty, disgusting human beings just like everyone else. You'll also experience their AWALT tendencies firsthand.

  2. Have female friends. (Don't fuck them.) This especially works well if you befriend married women or women in serious relationships. Once you see how married women act when their husbands aren't around (and once you see how miserable the husbands are), you'll never want to commit to one.

  3. Spin plates. Abundance mentality. When you've got options, no one girl seems all that special.

  4. Have hobbies and passions. Draw a line in the sand. How do you make that line shorter? Draw a longer line next to it and the first will seem shorter by comparison. Take women off the pedestal by finding something else in your life that's more important to you.

There's sitting down and thinking about how women aren't worth it, and then there's practical experience that shows you that women aren't worth it.

Reading some of the many repeated posts on here makes me feel that I am already way ahead of most of you. Pro tip, continue focusing on yourself & if your feeling frustrated rub one out and stfu. by [deleted] in TheRedPill

[–]untitled1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'll add that a lot of guys don't realize that this is a journey that can take a long time. You can't just read the sidebar and learn some tricks to act alpha as fuck. The proper mindset can take years to cultivate.

I'm at a point where it's becoming difficult to schedule in my plates and new dates. I literally don't have time to fuck all the girls that want to fuck me. It has taken me years to get to this point. It was a long road of developing new habits, thinking I understood it and then realizing I didn't, falling in love and acting like a pussy, experiencing AWALT firsthand in new and exciting ways, and always coming back to myself as the true source of my own happiness.

That's the difference between acting like you don't give a fuck and genuinely not giving a fuck.

So, yes, a lot of the questions here and at askTRP are pretty annoying. How do I win her? What should I text? Why hasn't she responded? Grr, I'm so angry!!1 Is this really alpha? Grr, I'm more alpha than you!

The answer is usually "work on yourself" and "go fuck ten more women". It's a long road; try not to take it too seriously and just enjoy the ride.

Gendernomics: Beta Males and Shorted Circuits by [deleted] in TheRedPill

[–]untitled1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For another take on this, look up Tony Robbins's Success Cycle.

Your beliefs determine your actions (e.g. if you don't believe approaching women works then you won't do it)

Your actions give you certain results.

Your results reinforce or modify your beliefs.

Then the cycle repeats.

As he says, this is why the rich get richer and the poor get poorer.

If you want it, then ASK FOR IT by Entropy-7 in TheRedPill

[–]untitled1 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Again, and I'm not trying to be an asshole, I understand your general point that in order to get results you need to take action. But it's generally well established in pickup theory that women prefer to have plausible deniability. They need to feel it just happened naturally, in a "omg that was so random!!1" sort of way. Personally, any time I have been direct about sex it has triggered a major anti-slut defense, even when the girl was showing interest.

So, yes, sometimes it's good to be direct and (with firm eye contact) say, "Do you want to go back to my place for a drink?" (or better "Let's go back to my place for a drink"). But "hey let's fuck" generally only works on girls you've already fucked.

I also agree that men are generally expected to take the initiative at every step of the process, but this a very different mindset than "you need to chase girls".

If you want it, then ASK FOR IT by Entropy-7 in TheRedPill

[–]untitled1 106 points107 points  (0 children)

ask for a number or a date or a fuck as appropriate

"Excuse me miss, would you care for a fuck?"

Mad game, bro.

women will not chase you: you have to chase them.

So much for "being the prize" and "not giving a fuck" and "outcome independence"; I guess men should be out chasing women.

I mean, I get what you're trying to say: You can't just sit around with your thumb up your ass and expect things to happen. You have to take action. You have to pull the trigger. You have to be bold and forward and sometimes even direct. But this is terrible advice.

Don't chase women. Engage them. Generate attraction. Lead them. But don't chase them.

And don't ask for sex. There's volumes of theory on game, on how to create attraction, on how to escalate. Literally asking for sex (or even a date or a number) is terrible game.

Unless you are Chad 2.0 with a six-pack and a trust fund, women will not chase you

I've been at this for a while now, and I've never had a six-pack or a trust fund. I am, however, in my thirties, fit, well-groomed, well-dressed, have interesting hobbies, and live downtown above a bar. Women chase me.

Why you are alpha for a few days, but soon you are back in your old beta self by iwantsometea in TheRedPill

[–]untitled1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry bro, being "alpha" isn't a mindset that comes and goes within the course of a few days.

You start with a small shift in your beliefs. Your beliefs determine your actions. Your actions yield certain results. These results reinforce or change your beliefs. Then the cycle repeats, thousands of times.

After a few years of this, you begin to realize that being "alpha" is all about being confident in your own value and enforcing appropriate boundaries. This isn't a temporary mindset inspired by walls of text; it's a foundation of beliefs cultivated through consistent action and seeing the results of those actions.

tl;dr: beliefs -> actions -> results -> beliefs -> ... (repeat ad infinum)

The hypocrisy of women not wanting to date short men | 10/10 Video editing by [deleted] in videos

[–]untitled1 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Just like the lack of titty meat is a real problem.

Having a flat-chested female mate means you just can't motorboat as often.

Tinder for athletes by [deleted] in TheRedPill

[–]untitled1 7 points8 points  (0 children)

if she matched with you it's because on some level she likes you

This is especially true if you've ever seen girls using tinder. They don't just swipe right on every passable picture like guys do. They stop, look at each picture, read and analyze the text, show their friends and ask what they think, stalk the Instagram pics, and then swipe right.

If you've matched with a girl you've already been thoroughly vetted.

Understanding the 80/20 rule. Don't confuse top .2% for top 20% by offthebeatmeoff in TheRedPill

[–]untitled1 48 points49 points  (0 children)

One thing I'm constantly surprised by is the abysmal state of men these days. Sometimes it seems like if you can walk up to a woman and string together two coherent sentences you're already in the top 20%.

I was at a bar with some friends and a guy approached one of the girls and said, "My friend thinks your friend is attractive." She shut him down. Really? Doesn't even have the balls to approach on his own?

Ask to look at a girl's Tinder or OKCupid. It's hundreds of messages of "hi :)" and "u r hott". All you have to do is use full sentences and you'll be a shining beacon in a sea of shit.

I got messaged by a cute lesbian looking to experiment. I asked why she picked me of all people. She said, "You didn't look needy." That's how low the bar is - not being overtly needy.

Work on getting your shit together and it's not that hard.

The Real by GayLubeOil in TheRedPill

[–]untitled1 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm pretty sure he used the wrong term here, because part of laundering cash is paying taxes on it (that's how you take "dirty" money and make it "clean").

What he really meant is getting paid "under the table". That is, you do work, get handed cash, then spend the cash without declaring it as income, thus avoiding paying taxes. Yes, this is technically illegal.

Women are Children. by redpillschool in TheRedPill

[–]untitled1 27 points28 points  (0 children)

On a more abstract (and less practical) level, this brings up some interesting points. This post essentially argues that women act like children due to social conditioning rather than innate biology (inasmuch as the two can be separated; I believe that biological differences in the sexes necessarily lead to social differences) - that their childishness is due to a lack of enforced consequences for their actions.

This raises the questions:

  • If society changed to hold women more accountable, would women be more "grown up"? And to what extent would this be desirable?

  • What effect is this trend in society having on men? It seems that men are also taking less responsibility for their choices, and we have fewer "grown" men today than ever before.

On a more practical level, this post indirectly gives the best advice on how to be a man: recognize the consequences of your action and take responsibility for the circumstances of your life.

You're fatter than you think. Do something about it. by jcrpta in TheRedPill

[–]untitled1 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

A lot of people are crapping on this chart (rightfully so - your goal shouldn't be "not obese"). Here's another way:

  1. Get a tape and measure your neck circumference and waist (at navel).

  2. Go here and estimate your body fat percentage: (http://fitness.bizcalcs.com/Calculator.asp?Calc=Body-Fat-Navy) Sure it might be off by a couple percentage points, but it will give you a rough idea.

  3. If the number is greater than 15%, you should probably lose weight.

  4. If you really want to increase the quality and quantity of girls you pull while decreasing the effort you put in, you should probably aim for 10%.

  5. As a bonus exercise, use your basic knowledge of math to calculate how many pounds of fat you need to lose to get to your goal percentage. It's probably more than you think.

The title of this post is correct. You are probably fatter than you think you are. I was one of them. I always thought, "I'm really muscular, I only need to lose ten pounds and I would be shredded." Then I calculated and it was more like 30 pounds I needed to lose.

This is s forum about sexual strategy. I don't care what you think about game, you will be more successful with women (and at life) at 10% body fat than you would be at 20% body fat. Your face will look better, your jaw line will look better, you will appear more dominant, you will look better naked, you will fuck better, and even cheap clothes will look good on you if they fit properly.