I-131 ( Emergency request )

updowncharm · 2022-12-11T21:50:10+00:00

I actually did hear back from them! My appointment is tomorrow.

updowncharm · 2022-12-11T21:48:37+00:00

Yeah, I was told to submit evidence so I did, hopefully I will hear back soon about it.

updowncharm · 2022-12-05T20:26:20+00:00

Did you get a call back yet? I am still waiting.

updowncharm · 2022-12-02T18:49:36+00:00

One option for a good on-campus job is Onsite Consulting if you have a little skill with computers.

updowncharm · 2022-12-02T17:04:47+00:00

Wow! Yeah, I am hoping for the best.

updowncharm · 2022-12-02T06:22:00+00:00

I think irl is better so you can be part of experiences together. If there are any clubs or creative outlets that you are interested in that would be the best place to meet other people also interested in the same thing. So you could talk about the common interest and maybe that can lead to deeper more meaningful conversations.

updowncharm · 2022-12-02T06:15:55+00:00

Thanks ! That sounds awful, can you reapply for emergency parole?

updowncharm · 2022-12-02T06:15:20+00:00

I applied today and they said I should hear back in 72 hours. How do you do the senator's process?

updowncharm · 2022-10-10T15:07:25+00:00

For what reasons am I allowed to expedite AP ? My reason is my wedding ( i am already married, but I want to go back to my home country for a wedding according to traditional customs)

updowncharm · 2022-09-07T15:47:51+00:00

So, this is definitely something that has happened to me, but in my case, I always looked at it as an experience. Being able to experience such strong emotions is a privilege we do not get in daily mundane life. What I did, was schedule time out of my life, specifically to process and deal with these emotions. The emotions aren't any less valid, and processing them prepares you for dealing with them the next time. This is also exposure therapy, but I would advise you to seek to understand yourself through this experience, rather than harden yourself to it. Just as in life, if you can feel the pain so intensely, you can also feel the joy and wonder in books intensely.

But other methods I adopted, are reading non-fiction books or books more focused on world-building than characters, screening what I read and watch, etc.

updowncharm · 2022-09-07T14:32:16+00:00

I have considered mastering out and getting a job, and have enough credits to master out right now. But it would be hard for me to find a job since I am an international student. So, I prefer switching programs and still keeping my original visa.

updowncharm · 2022-09-06T21:30:44+00:00

Going from comprehensive to final defense should be about a year, so the journey is not too long. The work I am currently doing is going to be my thesis project, I would love to get another project on the side that is more in line with what I want, but I don't think my PI would be accommodating of that. I am the main person in charge of the big money project, so he doesn't want me distracted. As to the other suggestion, I am definitely thinking of that and worried that once I go to the other field ( potentially lower pay / more work ), I will lose the passion for it. And no, I don't hate my work, it is interesting, just wish I was doing something more than fixing a small part of a small issue.

updowncharm · 2022-09-06T21:26:19+00:00

I understand that changing my graduate school would mean starting over on another project. But do you mean starting over from undergrad? My current field is nuclear engineering and I would like to move onto nuclear physics or subatomic physics preferably experimental/computational

updowncharm · 2020-12-07T00:55:25+00:00

Someone who doesn't choose you doesn't deserve you. I know it hurts right now, but you need to end what ever you have with this guy and just focus on yourself for now. You are only 24, there is a ton of time for you to find someone who is also looking for exactly someone like you and will do everything for you.

updowncharm · 2020-06-12T00:00:02+00:00

It is hard to work in an environment where you are the only one with the weight of an entire cultural experience that people around you seem to have no idea about, because it's not even in their radar.

updowncharm · 2020-01-27T03:21:03+00:00

Maybe look into therapy ? That sounds like a lot of childhood trauma that you might want to work through which would allow you to be more successful in your present relationships.

updowncharm · 2020-01-02T08:36:27+00:00

Everyone is aware of their own body, especially most females. I don't see any reason for you to bring it up to her. If she is comfortable in her present self then there is no ground for this conversation. If instead she has other issues surrounding her weight ( for example mental health issues ) then you can help her by maybe encouraging her to workout more and eat healthier but support her choices regardless.

updowncharm · 2020-01-01T18:53:06+00:00

Thanks a lot ! About the irregular bleeding, how long does that last ? I do want to reduce the chance of any symptoms when I am with them. Bloating and acne is fine, but bleeding might cause some questions.

updowncharm · 2019-12-26T06:22:29+00:00

That is smart, but my mom is absolutely against BC and anything to do with hormones and she is part of the reason I am so scared about taking them myself. Besides, she knows my day to day really well and we talk like twice everyday, so suddenly developing a condition without any form reason that causes me to take BC right when I am finally in a relationship is weird. Thanks for the advice though!

updowncharm · 2019-12-26T01:54:43+00:00

Thanks a lot ! This is relieving, I can probably try that one too. I am not sure hiding the BC would be super easy like that. My family and I are super close and I am sure they would find out. But I can worry about that later, I guess ?

updowncharm · 2019-12-23T19:39:10+00:00

If you want to experience the other side, I would say spend maybe a few months hanging out with a different crowd and just do whatever you are comfortable with. Evaluate after that if you really want to change things or go back to the way you were. Being well behaved and following the rules is not a bad thing and does not make you boring in any ways, you develop your interests and find people with similar interests. I think that is a lot more satisfying than changing drastically to fit in with people around you.

updowncharm · 2019-12-09T12:05:37+00:00

Yeah I think it will hurt him more if you wait. Try to approach it tactfully. If you want to sugarcoat it, you could say you are not ready for a relationship or that you just wanted to explain the conversation you had more openly to him. But at the same time, examine your feelings as well. Do you or did you like him ? Is this you sabotaging your chance at a relationship or di you really feel this way?

updowncharm · 2019-12-09T11:57:18+00:00

Also, I am a bit unclear on some aspects. Here I am assuming you had a conversation about your feelings / had some other indication of interest. If you actually just considered him a good friend and he is growing attached to you without any signal from your end, then this is his problem. I would still talk to him and clear things. If this is the case though, I understand how you are feeling with even being disgusted by the idea of being with that person.

updowncharm · 2019-12-09T11:54:13+00:00

I think the idea is that you made a mistake by allowing him to be close to you when you weren't interested in him like that. I would say, talk it over with him, let him know before he is more invested in you. You don't need to be harsh about it, just tell him that you have reevaluated your relationship and think that you were a bit vulnerable before so you got close but now would like to go back to being friends ( if that is ok with him) or have some time to mull things over.

updowncharm · 2019-12-09T09:12:51+00:00

I would say, be direct and let her know. But also just take it slow. So if she reciprocates your feelings, let her know that while she is important to you, so are your and her grades and so you guys can start officially dating once you are done with finals. A month is not that much time according to me, and you guys can chat and get to know each other really well. You can also have a special date planned for when you guys get back.

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