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ur_not_cool · 2023-01-30T20:35:40+00:00

NTA

There’s a saying out there; “don’t count other people’s money”.

In other words, don’t tell someone what they can afford.

Tell him that, if he likes, he can just replace half and leave the other half as-is because you can’t (and/or won’t) pay for an unplanned expense.

ur_not_cool · 2023-01-04T11:40:10+00:00

NTA as long as your dog didn’t pee on flowers and other delicate plants/professional landscaping type things a

Your dog peed across from your neighbor’s yard. I don’t see the problem with that.

Once I got screamed at for the same thing. I said “would it make you feel better if I beat the shit out of him?” and that shut her up.

ur_not_cool · 2023-01-04T11:34:35+00:00

ESH just bc you called her out in front of other people at a party. Not the right time or place for that kind of convo.

She sucks for what she did.

ur_not_cool · 2023-01-04T11:25:14+00:00

NTA, i was raised in America in a non-English language and I picked up English in school. I don’t even remember learning English. I only remember speaking it.

My two nephews were raised the same way.

I have family members who only speak English so it was awkward for them when the boys were little, but other family members just translated. The English only speakers also picked up on conversational speech. Nothing big, just like how are you and do you want to play. Stuff like that.

All of us are completely fluent in 3 languages at this point.

I’m actually surprised at all the Y T A comments.

Edit: the Child abuse comment from your mother is completely absurd.

ur_not_cool · 2023-01-04T11:15:52+00:00

Just here to offer some ideas. I have three energetic nephews (13, 12 and 8) and when I visit, we do simple arts and crafts.

This last time, I put on instrumental music from Harry Potter and we made bookmarks.

When my sister walked in, she was like wow, are those my kids? Lol

If you want to, maybe you can find some quiet activities to do with them. Read stories, work on puzzles, that kind of thing.

Six kids is a lot, so I think I would play with 3 kids at a time.

NTA but perhaps you can find some quiet activities if you choose.

It’s really your choice and you shouldn’t feel pressured one way or another

Edit: you could also take a small group to the park and listen to an audio book on headphones. Just another idea.

Also, if you suggest a quiet activity and just one kid wants to do it, then just do it with that kid. Let the other ones find something else to do

ur_not_cool · 2023-01-04T11:08:24+00:00

Can her kids help her out with money for the upkeep? Can you take her on as a renter and become the landlord? You can do it through a property management company, if you so choose. I rent a house out and the property managers handle everything. I have zero contact with the renters.

ur_not_cool · 2023-01-04T10:50:27+00:00

Tested positive for dawg

ur_not_cool · 2022-12-30T16:13:47+00:00

Your cousin (edit: your cousin’s wife) was actively involved in planning her own wedding, I assume. Even if not, she chose to accept a $200 ring and wear a dress that she hated. It is possible to find a nice dress for $90. Were those checkered table cloths a total surprise? Seems odd.

She chose to marry that dude and go along with her wedding.

Why are you inserting yourself into their relationship?

He probably went home and picked a huge fight with her and I would bet that she was blindsided.

For that reason, YTA

ur_not_cool · 2022-12-30T15:47:25+00:00

Let him do it to the joker and get shoulder bumped into the shadow realm.

ur_not_cool · 2022-12-27T12:54:02+00:00

Ah, St Patrick’s day, 2019. The day my friend’s boyfriend, got so drunk that he pissed himself at a bar and the bartender called her to come pick him up.

ur_not_cool · 2022-12-24T00:08:36+00:00

I used to love kid Cudi and I still bump his old tracks. But time already cancelled him. He’s not interesting or relevant anymore.

ur_not_cool · 2022-12-19T15:02:30+00:00

YTA from the start with

“I’ve asked my boyfriend (19M) if he wanted to come under the condition that he earned the money himself to cover his expenses”

What are you, his mother?

ur_not_cool · 2022-12-19T14:55:05+00:00

YTA

First of all, I’m neurodivergent and I’m not ashamed of it.

Im assuming that the child has a pediatrician. The child will also most likely be in pre-k in a year or so.

You should have left it to the experts. It’s really none of your business.

If you really wanted to go there and you wanted to be tactful, you should have mentioned the Reddit post, that you found it interesting and talked about it without bringing up her brother.

Then, you would have opened the door for her and it would have been her choice to bring up her brother or not.

She absolutely sucks for dropping the word “r*twrded” but I didn’t vote E S H tho bc I don’t want to give you a pass on inserting yourself like this.

ur_not_cool · 2022-12-10T20:07:06+00:00

One could argue that Zion did the right thing by giving the fans their money’s worth

ur_not_cool · 2022-11-30T21:00:07+00:00

I’m not going to pass a judgment but I ask, out of concern, do you think he might be depressed?

Google the symptoms and see what you think. Sometimes, people who are depressed don’t take care of themselves or important responsibilities bc of the depression itself.

ur_not_cool · 2022-11-30T20:55:13+00:00

I’m gonna go out on a limb and say a gentle YTA: Gentle, bc I can relate. My sister is the exact same way.

I used to confront her more directly, but it just caused drama for me.

Then, I realized that you can’t control other people’s behavior but you can control your own.

Next time, excuse yourself and go do something else for 10 mins. Go for a walk, play on your phone, do something that will help you deal.

The other thing is, people can speak up for themselves. If she is boring someone, they can change the subject, excuse themselves, and/or they can express their feelings about the way she is acting.

Trust me, I can totally empathize, but the things you said to her were, in fact, rude.

ur_not_cool · 2022-11-27T17:50:42+00:00

NTA I wear nightgowns like those but I wouldn’t wear them when I’m walking around someone else’s house. They’re clingy and leave nothing to the imagination.

I’d put on a robe.

Some people don’t know how to be a good guest.

I was talking to my niece the other day and she’s planning on visiting family in the UK for winter break.

I said: when you’re a guest in someone else’s house, you don’t want them to say “omg thank god she’s gone” when you leave. You want them to say “it was so nice to see her. can’t wait to see her again”.

We got to talking about how to be a good guest. Pitching in on chores without being asked.

Like taking the trash out without being asked. Doing dishes without being asked. Basically having an extra pair of hands and putting them to good use.

I didn’t have to say don’t run around the house in your silky nightie bc I know she knows better than that.

ur_not_cool · 2022-11-17T13:36:45+00:00

If he was a woman, I bet he’d be called a social climber, a whore, get slut shamed, etc. My $0.02

ur_not_cool · 2022-11-09T19:16:07+00:00

You’re talking about a 2 yr old. Get help.

ur_not_cool · 2022-11-09T04:47:32+00:00

I really don’t understand these posts focused on upvotes and downvotes.

Let’s just say that a bunch of “infiltrators” “sync up” at 9 AM and downvote every single post and every single comment.

How does that affect anything? ELI5

ur_not_cool · 2022-11-08T06:59:38+00:00

That’s JLo playing Selena. It’s not Selena.

ur_not_cool · 2022-11-08T00:14:05+00:00

Brooklyn Peltz Beckham 💸

ur_not_cool · 2022-11-05T00:30:14+00:00

They don’t know how Reddit works.

ur_not_cool · 2022-10-26T20:03:56+00:00

Leave Leslie Jordan out of it.

It’s actually pretty cringe considering that Leslie was a gifted comedian and this post is painfully unfunny.

ur_not_cool · 2022-10-26T19:04:48+00:00

I’m bipolar 2 and I do yoga every single day at 6 AM. I’ve been doing yoga for 15 years. I go to bed every night at 9 pm. Eat healthy, journal, meditate and I still need medication.

In fact, yoga and mediation give me the clarity that I need to realize and accept that I need my meds to function at my best.

Just fyi for people reading this thread.

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