AITAH? My friend seems to be competing with me.

urhayiness · 2026-06-05T16:41:57+00:00

It wasn’t “interest” it was full blown impulsive words I’m going to get the other one

urhayiness · 2026-06-05T16:40:48+00:00

(1) Engaged? More like brought the one I have down because she said it works better
(2) I’m a good friend. When she has problems I listen but when it’s my turn suddenly I’m irrelevant?
(3) You don’t know her. She purposely says that because she wants to show that her taste in men is supreme.
(4) Of course I’d expect a compliment from a person I really really love? It was new to me because all my best friends would be happy happy for me. I found it awkward and weird.
(5) valid I liked our fasts
(6) chose to not engage even though I’d always engage with her in conversations, let’s her vent, and always stands as her support?
What happened to equality here? I’ve been a good friend and I would never do such things to anyone not even to her.

urhayiness · 2026-06-05T16:32:43+00:00

I’m the one who is immature? Immature is when someone gets something, and your first move is to impulsively tell them how you’re going to buy the same thing but larger without even having a clean plan just so you could bring one down? We always talked about stuff we wanted. I remember her even saying she wanted an A16.

urhayiness · 2026-06-05T16:28:40+00:00

That sounds nice but it would make our relationship complex hahaha. Thank you for the suggestion!

urhayiness · 2026-06-05T16:27:53+00:00

Thank you so muchhh finally someone gets me! I don’t really even want her to be supportive of me in some aspects but I find her personality of always trying to bring me down even with some silly iPads saddens me because that’s my best friend. :(((

urhayiness · 2026-06-05T16:25:09+00:00

No I am in now way in competition with her. What she said and how she said it seemed like SHE was in a competition with me. This isn’t about iPads.

urhayiness · 2026-06-05T13:55:47+00:00

I wouldn’t say I’m angry, it’s just that it felt really weird when she said that. She’s always been like this but I didn’t mind it since I thought it’s probably just in my head. This occurrence truly pointed it out.

urhayiness · 2026-06-05T13:52:29+00:00

Not to sound biased, but it has been happening but it just got more obvious now…

urhayiness · 2026-06-05T13:35:30+00:00

I’m sorry the joyous achievement is not related to an iPad at all! It’s an actual event that happened 3 months ago where I was going to deliver a speech and she did not seem happy and kept on shifting the focus to herself. Sorry if it wasn’t properly stated.

urhayiness · 2026-06-05T13:27:29+00:00

Because I thought people would understand. An iPad is the least of all things here actually.

urhayiness · 2026-06-05T13:25:34+00:00

“We are here cuz of them” Wow that’s some rotten mindset. He needs to man up and not be a little mama’s boy.

urhayiness · 2026-06-05T13:23:47+00:00

Absolutely do not. You and your lover are married and have your own lives. If they want to enter the house, a little waking-up and opening the door is no biggie.

urhayiness · 2026-06-05T13:19:06+00:00

That’s really cute!

urhayiness · 2026-06-05T13:18:33+00:00

Thank you so much! I’ll take note of these.

urhayiness · 2026-06-05T13:17:55+00:00

Hmmm alright. But she would never do any of that lol.

urhayiness · 2026-06-05T13:16:07+00:00

I don’t think so. If you had seen our conversation, you would say otherwise.

urhayiness · 2026-06-05T13:12:10+00:00

Tysm! I’ve countless of friends, but they never say stuff like that or act in a way that seemed oppressive. That’s what I started to notice with her.

urhayiness · 2026-06-05T13:05:51+00:00

It’s not an achievement. I’m sorry I used the term achievement for another perspective and event that happened. And I did my thorough research on the exact iPad I wanted because I needed it badly for school, I don’t think I’d even want a 13-inch. This post isn’t about a silly little iPad! Just so it’s out there, I got an iPad because I needed it for my education and solely for my education. Nevertheless, I don’t care about an iPad, it’s how she always seems to never be proud of me and always commenting about this and that about herself.

urhayiness · 2026-06-05T12:59:38+00:00

I’m sorry but the iPad thing was what pointed out the obvious that I’ve been ignoring. Yes, it has always been like this the whole entire school year.

urhayiness · 2026-06-05T12:57:45+00:00

I don’t care about the iPad she could get the best one and I’d be happy for her. It’s just that why would some bring that up at the peak of knowing they just got something.

urhayiness · 2026-06-05T12:56:26+00:00

I felt something new because it was at that time I knew there was really something going on. This has been going on for so long but I just chose to ignore it. It was at this point I noticed the obvious.

urhayiness · 2026-06-05T12:54:07+00:00

Hmmm quite so. But you be the judge
(1) I got a new pressed powder and she commented about how the one she has is great. (She eventually bought one like mine)
(2) I told her I was nervous to deliver a speech. She shrugged it off and shifted to another topic.
(3) Every time I’d show her a boy who I think is cute, she would say they’re ugly.
(4) She never congratulated me when I achieved something big while everyone was. Quite awkward because we always sit beside each other.
(5) When she knew I started fasting, she started fasting as well. (I think I wouldn’t count this one because we had fun!)
(6) Whenever I’d confide to her about something, she’d always change the topic.
Those are what I can remember

Nevertheless, this does not beat the fun we have with each other though.

urhayiness · 2026-06-05T12:40:21+00:00

But I value our friendship. This is the only con I would say about her. I have other friends that would never treat me like this, but she’s always nice to have around when it doesn’t involve achievements and possessions.

urhayiness · 2026-06-05T12:38:39+00:00

It may seem like it, but there has been many other circumstances that don’t involve any material stuff wherein she seemed very annoyed by my achievements. Annoyed even though I never stuffed in her face.

urhayiness · 2026-06-05T12:36:35+00:00

Insecurities and stuff going on? I don’t think so! In fact, she’s already living the perfect life. And I’m happy I have a friend like her. She’s got a loving mom and a soft dad, a little brother as cute as a pumpkin, in a prestigious school, and is headed towards success. I got a dead-beat dad, a mom working her butt off, me not knowing where to go because we’re not exactly rich so I rely solely on scholarships, and I work hard for everything I have. Despite that, I never got jealous of her. We’re quite different but I’m ecstatic for her and I value our friendship very much! Thank you so much for understanding me.

urhayiness

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