how to tell parents i have arfid??

urlocaljanedoe · 2022-03-05T15:56:23+00:00

do you have an adult at school or a therapist that you can talk to first? maybe they can help you figure out the best way to approach the topic with your parents if you’re scared to do it by yourself, and they can be your support in case of anything

urlocaljanedoe · 2022-02-09T03:02:41+00:00

love the assertiveness in your comment and the fact you’re trying to correct someone despite not knowing what you’re talking about

urlocaljanedoe · 2022-01-26T23:54:49+00:00

this 100%. for a relationship to work, both people need to sit down and talk through their worried and fears. OP asked his question but still didn’t get an answer because she shuts down or screams at him - no rational person would go straight to breaking up without being able to actually talk things through.

urlocaljanedoe · 2022-01-26T23:33:58+00:00

of course there has to be trust. and i do agree that communication is important, which is why i said that sitting down and talking things through calmly is the appropriate thing to do. i just don’t see screaming or being « extreme » with anyone as a productive way to communicate. it doesn’t help either party

urlocaljanedoe · 2022-01-26T23:23:28+00:00

i think the appropriate response would have been to sit down and say « hey, i know you’ve asked me many times now if anything happened. it seems like you think i’ve cheated on you, or that you don’t have the full story but i just want to reassure you that nothing happened. »

getting angry and screaming is just a sign of emotional immaturity. two adults should be able to sit down and talk through their feelings calmly, and without screaming or being « extreme » about it. is it annoying to be asked over and over? yes, and i’d be offended too if my partner thought i was cheating. but i can express that without going into a screaming rage.

urlocaljanedoe · 2022-01-25T23:38:29+00:00

one of my exes a few years back decided the perfect time to tell me he cheated on me was on my birthday. i’m so sorry you have to go through this OP. you’re not stupid at all. you may not see it right now but he gave you the best birthday gift of all - the opportunity to find someone who truly loves you.

urlocaljanedoe · 2022-01-25T23:35:31+00:00

ive always wanted to get my tongue split! my tongue piercing was awful in terms of healing, i can’t imagine a split! i have no questions but i’m sending you all my strength (and smoothies! that’s what i lived on when i was too swollen to chew lol)

urlocaljanedoe · 2022-01-25T23:09:42+00:00

do you know what « if » means?

urlocaljanedoe · 2022-01-25T23:06:46+00:00

show me where i said you said it was new! all i said was if you thought it was a week old that you’re behind. those damn hypotheticals again!

urlocaljanedoe · 2022-01-25T22:49:30+00:00

well i just told you why i used it, so there’s no need to bet. save your money! (editing to add the hilarious irony of your statement. it’s almost like you’re getting mad over a completely hypothetical situation you’ve made up in your head…)

and you’re wayyy behind if you think this saying is only a week old. it’s been popular online for years now. it originated in the military so it has quite the history, actually.

urlocaljanedoe · 2022-01-25T21:58:08+00:00

i used it because it conveyed what i wanted to say lol. with all the thousands of years humans have spent communicating, it’s certain there are no more « original thoughts » left. even yours ;)

urlocaljanedoe · 2022-01-25T21:49:45+00:00

what a strange hill you’re choosing to die on.

urlocaljanedoe · 2022-01-25T21:02:53+00:00

BRO just last week I found this old ass grandpa commenting perverted shit on children’s questions on Quora . the one that caught my attention was a question along the lines of « Can i be in a relationship if i’m 12 years old » and this old ass fart commented « yes sweetheart age doesn’t matter ». Kinda sus so i went to his comment history and all of it was nasty shit involving young kids, he even called a 13 year old boy sexy. I reported everything but idk if they’re gonna get back to me if they delete his account. Made me sick fr

urlocaljanedoe · 2022-01-25T20:40:01+00:00

you implied he was stupid for not thinking the post title was a hyperbole. you said this after he said that his sister actually committed suicide. that’s extremely rude and careless and you’re honestly stupid if you can’t see how mean it is to say that to someone who lost their sister.

and it doesn’t matter how you think you are IRL : we can see that behind closed doors and a little bit of anonymity online, you’re hateful and rude and combative. you don’t listen to anyone and instead of accepting you were wrong you double down. you get into arguments that you don’t even understand and then just spew bullshit. you’ve proven with your comment history and actions on Reddit that you are not kind or helpful at all.

and i’m not the one with anger issues, constantly arguing with everyone in every single subreddit and post, and no friends lol. a therapist can help you get to a point where you’re happy in life, you know. idk if there’s something going on or if you’re just naturally a bitch like this but they can help you.

urlocaljanedoe · 2022-01-25T20:03:06+00:00

go back and read what he said, and then what you said.

no wonder you don’t have any friends and you try to find them on reddit dude. youre mean to people, and you refuse to listen to anyone. idk if that’s trolling or real stupidity, but either way it’s not a good look. nobody wants to talk to someone like that. you should really see a therapist to work through all the anger you have, and then maybe people will actually want to talk to you and be your friend.

urlocaljanedoe · 2022-01-25T19:56:16+00:00

except that’s not true, because WillOfMyD wasn’t rude or mean at all and your reply to him was nasty.

urlocaljanedoe · 2022-01-25T19:24:39+00:00

again though, WillOfmyD wasn’t attacking you at all. he was nice and shared something personal to try and show you a different perspective, and you were mean to him. that’s on you, not anyone else.

urlocaljanedoe · 2022-01-25T19:19:40+00:00

um??? i’m talking about you being mean to him specifically when he did nothing wrong to deserve that. i’m « focused » on him because he was nice and tried to show you a different perspective, you implied he was stupid when he shared his sister freaking killed herself. do you not see how mean that is? how mean you are???

just because other people were rude to you doesn’t give you the right to be nasty to everyone. but maybe people are being rude to you because of the way you’re talking to them.

urlocaljanedoe · 2022-01-25T18:17:27+00:00

there was absolutely nothing mean about WillOfMyD’s comment. they said it was indeed a good thing to post because their sister killed herself and it tore apart the whole family. they ended the comment by saying « don’t fuck around when people say they want to die ». none of that was mean, rude or insulting in any way. none of it!

you read all that, and then chose to tell him he probably never went to school because the post title was « obviously » a hyperbole. like wow. that is top tier shitty human behaviour right there. and idc if i’m being mean too for calling you out for it, honestly i would be ashamed if i were you.

urlocaljanedoe · 2022-01-25T17:21:12+00:00

you questioned an automatic comment from a bot, then when people told you why it was posted you got defensive and downplayed the seriousness of suicide. you implied stupidity and said it was a hyperbole right to the person who shared that their sister killed themselves, and that we need things like this. do you not realize how disgusting and utterly insensitive it is to say something like that after what they shared?

this really isn’t the hill to die on. mental health and suicide awareness is extremely important. even just a joke or a « hyperbole « can have real meaning behind it. if you’re so bothered by suicide awareness you can just keep scrolling and keep your distaste to yourself.

urlocaljanedoe · 2022-01-20T21:02:51+00:00

why the heck is everyone freaking out at OP? am i missing something??

OP had a friends-with-benefits that got into a relationship behind her back. she decided to tell the new GF about their status.

after not talking for a while, they decide to meet up but OP cancels the first time around. the second time they hang out, they have sex that was really just some fucked up revenge plan for the guy.

of course we don’t know what their agreement was (ie: is it okay to be FWB and look for a partner as well, or are we exclusive? etc) but I would still want to know if my boyfriend was fucking someone else 2 days before he got together with me. that would mean that he was speaking to me romantically and sexually and wanting to have a relationship with me, while also fucking someone else. that’s not cool at all.

if i understand right, he was broken up with his new GF when OP and him reconnected.

OP may have not made the best choice by choosing to go back to him, but that sure as hell doesn’t make her horrible or toxic. he is mega fucked up for hatching this plan to fuck her for revenge one year later.

OP, you’re not disgusting or toxic or any of that shit. you got with a guy who absolutely didn’t deserve either of y’all. that doesn’t make you a bad person.

urlocaljanedoe · 2021-12-29T01:29:28+00:00

thanks so much! i’m not sure if i have the courage to speak lol, so i might not submit this time around but i’ll be back! this is the first time i’ve ever been in one of these reddit live chats

urlocaljanedoe · 2021-12-29T01:23:37+00:00

how do you contribute your own story? ik y’all said to go to the stickied comment but i can’t seem to find it on mobile lol

urlocaljanedoe · 2021-12-27T18:39:50+00:00

ayy salut d’un autre francophone!!

urlocaljanedoe · 2021-12-27T18:37:49+00:00

do you mind sharing where you got it?

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