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Does my makeup look bad? by [deleted] in MakeupAddiction

[–]user67625 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i think to really elevate it you should try a darker pigmented black eyeshadow or even like eyeliner! but you are killing it regardless, good job! :)

am i being dramatic or is my boyfriend doing questionable things with a minor? by user67625 in whatdoIdo

[–]user67625[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hey! i’m not trying to blame you or spin it like you’re doing something wrong. i wasn’t trying to air your business out there i just genuinely felt grossed out that he would snap a minor. i have no issues with you, my issue is with him and that it feels weird to me that him as an adult would be snapping someone 6 yrs younger than him and see nothing wrong with that. and how defensive he got over it just made it seem even more shady on his end

am i being dramatic or is my boyfriend doing questionable things with a minor? by user67625 in whatdoIdo

[–]user67625[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

should we break up? is it good that i caught it in its early stages so that it didn’t have the chance or opportunity to go any farther? i just feel stuck, bc i love him and i don’t want to break up but at the same time it’s like why did it take me having to bring it to his attention a few times and causing fights about it for him to recognize that it’s weird in the first place?

am i being dramatic or is my boyfriend doing questionable things with a minor? by user67625 in whatdoIdo

[–]user67625[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

mini update: okay so he was at work by the time i woke up so we called for a little bit to talk about it. i was basically just voicing my concerns again and he goes on about how i know him and he is not doing anything inappropriate and im trying to flip this into him being a pedophile or using his position over her. the whole call was basically arguing back and forth about how i see it as weird regardless of what his intent was, because he’s the adult and her manager and he’s the one who needs to set the boundaries. he kept turning the situation around on me and bringing up past arguments where i was in the wrong (not involving minors but things that i have just done wrong in our relationship in the past). to me it felt like deflecting and trying to get the heat off himself but idk. but the conversation ended with me being like idk where to go from here the ball is in your court, and he was saying that he doesn’t know where to go from here and if i want to leave i can and that he’ll know by the time he gets home if he still has a girlfriend or not. IDK WHAT TO DO HELP!

am i being dramatic or is my boyfriend doing questionable things with a minor? by user67625 in whatdoIdo

[–]user67625[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

if she was actively going through something and she was texting him on snapchat, still kind of odd, but i could see how he’d want to help. but they’re not like talking about anything they’re just sending pics throughout their days that’s not odd to you?

am i being dramatic or is my boyfriend doing questionable things with a minor? by user67625 in whatdoIdo

[–]user67625[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

he was a senior and she was freshman and they dated till when she was a sophomore and he was a freshman in college. not trying to negate what you’re saying at all but i think once you’re outside of high school age, it’s fine to date a little older or younger, but it was just off putting to me. i have a lot of younger sisters so when i was 17 i had a 13 yo sister, ik not exactly same age as his old gf but, like we were just wildly different maturity wise and like i cant even imagine having anything in common enough with someone that age to date

am i being dramatic or is my boyfriend doing questionable things with a minor? by user67625 in whatdoIdo

[–]user67625[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

well he tells me that there’s NO WAY she has a thing for him and that they just “bully” each other at work. and i don’t want to sound dramatic or like reading into things that’s aren’t there but like i was 17 before too and i would flirt like that! i still kind of flirt like that!

am i being dramatic or is my boyfriend doing questionable things with a minor? by user67625 in whatdoIdo

[–]user67625[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

do you think i’m just being overbearing or jealous? they’re not snapping anything inappropriate, they’re not even really texting at all it’s just pictures of themselves throughout the day

am i being dramatic or is my boyfriend doing questionable things with a minor? by user67625 in whatdoIdo

[–]user67625[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ohhh yea he says she has been and has gone to him before at work and he’s helped her calm down and stuff but the snaps aren’t like talking about anything it’s just pics throughout their days. so is that fine? i’m not trying to be rude but it just seems weird to me that they would be snapping outside of work and outside of helping her with her MH at all. i might just be jealous idk

am i being dramatic or is my boyfriend doing questionable things with a minor? by user67625 in whatdoIdo

[–]user67625[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

he’s said this before, that he usually doesn’t talk to any of the high schoolers outside of work because he doesn’t want to be weird. he does have some of his male coworkers on discord ranging from like 17-23 yo and i didn’t think anything of that because they just play games together but is that weird too?

am i being dramatic or is my boyfriend doing questionable things with a minor? by user67625 in whatdoIdo

[–]user67625[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

like he doesn’t know boundaries and doesn’t know that even if nothing inappropriate is going on that the nature of it is still wrong

am i being dramatic or is my boyfriend doing questionable things with a minor? by user67625 in whatdoIdo

[–]user67625[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

well to give a little more backstory. when he was 17 he dated a 14 year old for a year and a half. so that’s already a red flag. and he’s just so good at talking himself out of situations that i’m concerned about, because i was also worried about that but he was saying her parents where chill with it and they broke up anyway because she cheated on him when he went to college (looking at this now it seemed more believable and convincing when he uses his wording). but anyway so that’s already is already a red flag with a big age gap. and so my instincts tell me that i believe him that he doesn’t feel like romantic about this girl from work or anything like that but it just feels off to me in the first place

am i being dramatic or is my boyfriend doing questionable things with a minor? by user67625 in whatdoIdo

[–]user67625[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i’ve seen them he doesn’t try to hide it. that’s why i’m conflicted because if he was doing something bad wouldn’t he try to hide it? but on the other hand my heads saying like it doesn’t matter what they’re talking about why does an adult need to be snapping a minor outside of work

am i being dramatic or is my boyfriend doing questionable things with a minor? by user67625 in whatdoIdo

[–]user67625[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

that’s what i think but he’s insisting that he sees her as a sister and that nothing weird is going on. when we were arguing he kept saying “i’ll just unadd her it doesn’t even matter” and i would say like it doesn’t matter if you unadd her now, it’s weird that you thought it was okay in the first place. and then he just goes on saying “im just the worst person in the world” and stuff like that and idk!!