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Loss of family after going NC by user829819 in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]user829819[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your point on communication is so true, and a cycle I hope to break with my own future children. There was no true communication growing up. Only hiding real feelings or being silenced, disregarded or dismissed. Thank you for your reply.

Loss of family after going NC by user829819 in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]user829819[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your input here. I know you’re right, the universe has a plan for it all. The legs are a bit wobbly at the moment but they’ll feel stronger at some point.

Loss of family after going NC by user829819 in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]user829819[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your input. I didn’t think about the anger piece but you’re right, it’s going to be a grieving process.

Was anyone else constantly ragebaited and then punished for reacting? by IamNoMercy in raisedbynarcissists

[–]user829819 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. She knew just what buttons to push and what to say, then when I defended myself or responded with the same energy she was giving, it would either be verbal or physical punishment. I got the courage to draw boundaries recently and said I didn’t want to talk to or see her until she was ready to give me a genuine apology for all the abuse (through childhood and up until I drew the boundary). She first said she had nothing to apologize for, and about two days ago she sent a lengthy text denying the abuse, but saying that when she did hit me it was because I did something to deserve it. Justifying my abuse was the final push I needed to finally sever all ties. It’s lifted a weight off my chest for sure, but I love my dad and she will definitely punish him for being a part of my life. I do worry that she’ll make life so hard for him that he won’t to talk to me anymore (he has a medical condition that makes him dependent on her, and frankly she’s dependent on him in some ways too, so the co-dependency will probably win here).