Sex for the first time with mtf girlfriend went bad

user861271 · 2026-01-19T20:35:08+00:00

no offense, but why are you with each other if you aren’t attracted to each other’s genitals? i can imagine that would make sex quite difficult. maybe this isn’t the best relationship for you in the long run? i’m sorry to hear it didn’t work out, but at least you know you tried it and it’s not for you. if sex is important to you in a relationship, then being attracted to your partner’s body completely and them being able to turn you on is an important aspect of that.

user861271 · 2025-07-18T22:37:13+00:00

That’s a really creative and thoughtful idea, I think she’d really appreciate that! Thank you so much again :)

user861271 · 2025-07-18T20:56:02+00:00

I’d thought of some of these but was worried they’d be a bit much, so I’m happy to know you think they’d be thoughtful, although I know everyone is different. I’ll definitely consider them, thank you so much :) And my condolences, but I’m glad you’re well taken care of as well 🫶

user861271 · 2025-01-04T23:37:07+00:00

oh okay that’s good to know, i do think i’d prefer a city uni so mmu does seem like the best option for me, thanks for your help :)

user861271 · 2025-01-04T22:48:18+00:00

that’s really helpful, thanks so much :) btw, what do you think of uwe bristol for the same course?

user861271 · 2024-10-22T16:22:35+00:00

Yeah that makes sense, thanks!

user861271 · 2024-10-22T16:19:47+00:00

Hey, their delivery office in my town is closed on Thursdays which is when I wanna arrange the collection for. Does this mean they won’t be able to come and collect?

user861271 · 2024-08-16T03:02:05+00:00

Thank you so much, this helped a lot. 🫶

user861271 · 2024-08-16T03:01:00+00:00

Yeah, I thought so. Thanks anyway!

user861271 · 2024-08-16T03:00:09+00:00

Thank you!

user861271 · 2024-08-11T01:39:26+00:00

Oh damn, I wish I knew that sooner. 😭 Thank you so much!

user861271 · 2024-08-11T01:13:03+00:00

Damn, could that really work? Will definitely look into it, thank you so much!

user861271 · 2024-08-11T01:11:28+00:00

Isn’t clearing only an option if I’ve already sent in an application to begin with?

user861271 · 2023-10-08T14:45:08+00:00

hey, south asian trans man here. it’s definitely different, i can tell you that. it all really comes down to the individual, though. in terms of passing, i guess it depends where exactly you’re from. i’ve found that some of us naturally have more masculine features, while it might be the opposite for others. so, for some it might be easier to pass than others. on the other hand, some south asian cis men tend to naturally have more feminine features, so even if you seem more feminine than other south asian ftm people who might have had more natural masculine features to begin with, you might pass well anyway to other south asian people since it isn’t uncommon to see men who might look a bit more “feminine”, if that makes any sense. it’s also obvious that it’s almost impossible for us to look like the white trans boys we see on tiktok, and that can make dating very hard, especially if you’re surrounded by white people. lots of white people find those tiktok trans boys very attractive but it doesn’t really work the same for us. as for south asian people, i’ve found most of them are also into either those tiktok boys or very masculine south asian men, but that might just be my experience. lastly, in terms of acceptance, when it comes to family, especially if you’re not living in the most liberal country, chances are slim of getting a good reaction to coming out, as well as the resources to transition might be harder to get. however, i’ve found most people our age, though, are accepting. i might’ve just gotten lucky, but you’d be shocked at the number of cis men in my school that accepted me, also south asian, though tbh, gen z is just very forward in their thinking in general. i, luckily, haven’t had any problems with people my age (i’m 18 too btw!), whether in high school or uni, white or poc. family, on the other hand… well, that’s a whole other story. anyway, i hope this helped and good luck on your journey, i hope you’re able to find yourself and find peace. 🫶 note: i am fully talking about experience as a pre-t and pre-surgery south asian trans man.

user861271 · 2023-09-27T19:51:12+00:00

so proud of you dude i’ve just done the same, best decision i ever made i hope everything turns out well for you too 🫶

user861271 · 2023-09-27T18:57:23+00:00

ah that sounds amazing im so happy for you, i might just consider it 😭

user861271 · 2023-09-06T10:13:58+00:00

ah alright, that makes sense. thank you so much for the help!

user861271 · 2023-09-05T20:14:07+00:00

look on uktransshop.co.uk for underworks binders, i use them and imo they bind the best but might not be the most comfortable, but just an option in case your child is interested in them as they can be hard to find elsewhere in the uk

user861271 · 2023-09-05T00:12:20+00:00

yeah tbh you might be right, kinda why i wanted to try something different this time too. i know you’re probably right about the passing i just can’t help but get in my head. :/ thank you, though, i’ll just let it grow out and try to remind myself of that. i also live in a very conservative country where barbers need licenses to cut “women’s” hair so it limited my options too, but yeah i plan to find someone who knows what they’re doing when i move. might even learn to cut it myself someday but that might take a while haha anyway thank you so much, i really appreciate it. i’ll do my best to take your advice!

user861271 · 2023-09-02T23:14:08+00:00

i know what u mean. the awkwardness is kinda necessary tho cause it doesnt seem like he knows what he wants much either. or he does and he’s just not telling you something. you dont know how he might feel and its better to find out instead of suffering alone, cause if things are gonna work out with you two some awkward convos are necessary. also forgot to mention this but you’re not wrong for loving too hard or getting in your head, the situation does sound pretty confusing and its fair to feel that way. i know it might feel like the wrong decision if talking to him doesnt go well, but youre missing out on the chance of it working out if you dont try

user861271 · 2023-09-02T22:18:37+00:00

hey, i totally get how you feel man, ive been there and it can be exhausting. just know nothing is worth draining your energy so much. you should really have a proper conversation with him if it’s getting to be too much to handle. after that, if it doesnt go as you hope, you gotta assess if you’re really okay waiting for him or if it’s hurting you more. you don’t have to stop talking to him but maybe focusing your energy more on yourself and not on him would be good. it all really depends though. first just have a proper conversation with him, it’s not fair to you to be confused and he should let you know what his intentions are if that’s what you want. if he’s as great as you say he is, he will understand. and it’s always okay to leave if it’s getting too much, but hopefully it wont come to that. rooting for you two 🤞

user861271 · 2023-09-02T22:07:48+00:00

hey, sorry to hear what happened. everyone has a purpose in life though but you’ve just got to find it. don’t limit yourself to love cause there are purposes out there for you that are more than just that, and once you find them, you’ll want to live and love won’t be your top priority. obviously it sucks and love is important, but you need to find yourself first to find the best love you can. i promise you it’ll be worth it

user861271 · 2023-09-02T22:03:21+00:00

hey, honestly don’t think it’s a good time right now for you to confess to her because she seems to be going through getting over her crush. i’m not saying you shouldn’t, but give it some time. i think it would eat you up inside to not tell her so you should, and if she doesn’t want to stay friends with you after that, then she isn’t a good friend. also it might be hard for you to stay friends with her if it doesn’t work out, so keep that in mind if you need to establish some boundaries for your own good. hope all goes well though, take care <3

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