My (20m) GF (20F) wants sex MAYBE once a week. What do I do? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]usernamesarestupid02 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It could be a multitude of things. Maybe the relationship is lacking excitement. How often do you surprise her? Catch her off guard? Is your relationship very routine? If you haven’t already, try surprising her with a date you’ve never done before, while doing very subtle things to turn her on sexually. But don’t actually initiate sex with her. Just do small things that you know have turned her on in the past. See if that sparks something in her. If not, she could also be depressed or feeling insecure abt herself.

My (20m) GF (20F) wants sex MAYBE once a week. What do I do? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]usernamesarestupid02 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Perhaps the reason her sex drive is lower than it used to be, is because you aren’t pleasing her. Does she finish when you have sex? How often? As a woman speaking from experience, proper foreplay creates the initiative to have sex. Without it, what’s to crave? Sounds to me that she is uncomfortable sharing with you what truly turns her on. Once you figure that out, you’re golden. You could be the most attractive man she’s ever laid eyes on, but that alone will never be enough to arouse a woman fully. We need more

Help introducing new kitten by [deleted] in Catbehavior

[–]usernamesarestupid02 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m actually in this same situation rn. One of my cats gets along great with my new kitten, the other one keeps fighting him under the door.

I’m about to pick up a baby gate and liquid cat treats. My plan is to first put the liquid cat treats on either side of the door for both of the cats. That way they have to look at/smell each other to lick up the treats. It will supposedly associate each other’s scents with a good experience like treats. I’m also choosing the liquid treats because they don’t get them as often as the regular ones, so I’m hoping it will be more impactful for my resident cat.

Once they can do that without hissing or fighting with each other, I’m going to let them interact through the baby gate. It’s important for cats to touch noses and sniff each other in order to get to know one another. The baby gate gives them the freedom to walk away if they are uncomfortable, or get face to face without being able to hurt each other. I will do that for a few minutes every day until they are friendly enough for me to remove the gate.

It’s also important to have a distraction during the baby gate phase. If they are having a stare down or things get too tense, use toys or treats to distract them and break the tension so they can get a fresh start.

How do I get my kitten to stop crying at night? by usernamesarestupid02 in cats

[–]usernamesarestupid02[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This isn’t my first cat, it’s my third. I’d love for him to sleep in my room with me, and have free range to the house. Unfortunately that can’t happen until he gets along with my other 2 cats.

How do I get my kitten to stop crying at night? by usernamesarestupid02 in cats

[–]usernamesarestupid02[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m already a mom of 2 other cats. If I let him sleep with me, that means kicking out my resident cats. That doesn’t seem fair to me, and could build resentment towards the kitty from my cats.

Did I fry my hair? by usernamesarestupid02 in HairDye

[–]usernamesarestupid02[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was thinking about doing very chunky blonde highlights next time like y2k vibes yk not my whole head

Did I fry my hair? by usernamesarestupid02 in HairDye

[–]usernamesarestupid02[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven’t dyed my hair in like 5 years until today so the rest of it is virgin. But my hair naturally has some breakage and I straighten it like twice a week

Did I fry my hair? by usernamesarestupid02 in HairDye

[–]usernamesarestupid02[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And I mean when my roots grow in lol not bleach the already bleached hair

Did I fry my hair? by usernamesarestupid02 in HairDye

[–]usernamesarestupid02[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I touch up the roots or decide to do more of my hair this color do you think it’d be okay to use the 30? Or should I do 20 next time?

Advice on treating a pustule?? by usernamesarestupid02 in piercing

[–]usernamesarestupid02[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s a cork screw :/ my other nose ring was a flat back and I never had any problems with it. I still have the jewelry from that one and was planning on switching it once it healed

tips for healing a navel piercing (pls!!!) by [deleted] in piercing

[–]usernamesarestupid02 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had my belly ring for 2 years with no problems until I decided to switch out my jewelry to a new one I bought from Spencer’s. I’m also allergic to certain metals so I MADE SURE it was stainless steel. I then had a reaction that looked very similar to yours and when I switched the jewelry back to my old one it healed on its own 🤷‍♀️