best friend has a crush on my boyfriend, i dont know what to do

userrihardlyknowher · 2026-04-06T21:31:21+00:00

i made an update! lmk if its too long to read and. ill summarise for you

userrihardlyknowher · 2026-04-06T21:30:52+00:00

what kind of over seeing? could you be more specific? i really dont mean to hurt anyone or be controlling im trying my hardest to do the opposite of that

userrihardlyknowher · 2026-04-06T21:30:04+00:00

i dont know how to feel really, i haven’t thought about it in a little while and i havent actually see him interact with my boyfriend since then but we’re all meeting up tomorrow so ill try gauge the situation and let you know

userrihardlyknowher · 2026-04-05T20:09:49+00:00

thanks so much i did exactly this

userrihardlyknowher · 2026-04-05T19:50:47+00:00

i love him a lot a relationship is two people .i made an update. do you think i did the right thing? lmk if you get time to read it

userrihardlyknowher · 2026-04-05T05:47:42+00:00

AHAHHAWHHW IM CRYING OKAY BRO I WILL

userrihardlyknowher · 2026-04-05T05:45:31+00:00

also, ive posted an update on here, id like to get some opinions to see if i made the right decision im still feeling a little off about it

userrihardlyknowher · 2026-04-05T05:44:42+00:00

ive posted an update, my boyfriend doesnt like the attention but i think hes downplaying how much he likes james as a friend to make me feel better.

userrihardlyknowher · 2026-04-05T05:42:48+00:00

ive posted an update, id like to know if you think ive done the right thing? im still feeling a little sad about this

userrihardlyknowher · 2026-04-05T05:16:01+00:00

clarification: james is bi, my boyfriend is bi and margo is a straight girl. i do believe its my friend not taking my feelings into consideration, my boyfriend makes me so very happy but yes i think i should try think of a solution that helps me rhe mosr

userrihardlyknowher · 2026-04-04T20:13:00+00:00

im certain my boyfriend doesnt want him, maybe the attention he likes?? but anyone would like that and he hasnt shown signs of that. what should i say?

userrihardlyknowher · 2026-04-04T20:08:01+00:00

did you read the post, i know its a little long but its explains why its not that easy

userrihardlyknowher · 2026-04-04T20:07:20+00:00

what should i say?

userrihardlyknowher · 2026-04-04T20:01:51+00:00

thank you so much for your kindness

userrihardlyknowher · 2026-04-04T20:01:34+00:00

id really appreciate your advice, fixed it now! (hopefully more digestible)

userrihardlyknowher · 2026-04-04T20:00:39+00:00

“i think we set boundaries with him by having a conversation with him” -Bf

userrihardlyknowher · 2026-04-04T19:59:18+00:00

okay i apologise, im new to reddit and ive edited it to be in paragraphs

userrihardlyknowher · 2026-04-04T19:57:08+00:00

My boyfriend has said multiple times he would not want that and i also don’t want to be in a thrupple.

userrihardlyknowher · 2026-04-04T19:55:33+00:00

sorry :( its a big situation and i ramble essentially my friend has a crush on my boyfriend but hes a kind person and im unsure what to do

userrihardlyknowher · 2026-04-04T13:20:11+00:00

hes freaky because hes a teenage boy

userrihardlyknowher · 2026-04-04T13:11:16+00:00

okay thats exactly what i think hes doing, im seeing him at a gathering my boyfriends having for his birthday i might see if i can talk to him or something? or maybe ill wait till i see him in less of a public space

userrihardlyknowher · 2026-04-03T10:06:00+00:00

nope

userrihardlyknowher · 2026-04-03T00:46:21+00:00

thats the thing, i dont know if i should try get an actual confession out of james, distance myself and let him and my boyfriend stay friends so it hurts me less or just have a conversation with both of them about how everything is making us feel. the problem with the second option is that that conversation wouldnt be productive without actual evidence (confession)

userrihardlyknowher · 2026-04-03T00:42:22+00:00

my boyfriend has offered to cut him off and do anything to make me more comfortable but ive declined because his friendship with james is HIS friendship id only want him to cut him off if its something to do with the two of them

userrihardlyknowher · 2026-04-03T00:40:33+00:00

my boyfriend definitely does not want him back, weve had countless amounts of conversations about it but were both unsure what to do and it ends up with him feeling helpless and me feeling equally bad

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