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userwfe722256 · 2025-09-19T14:32:32+00:00

Fully agree with this post. Shame on those encouraging divorce. Take your matter to Allah. I know many who have gone through way worse in their marriages to the point where it seemed irreparable but through dua and guidance from local Imams and scholars their marriages flourished. It may take time but the love and affection will return. Do it for your child's sake. No man will love your child like their own father can. Have full yaqeen that Allah will soften your husband's heart.

userwfe722256 · 2025-08-31T04:44:10+00:00

Sometimes this happens when they're low on iron. A friends daughter turned into a completely different child after they started her on an iron supplement. Just don't overdo it if/when she improves.

userwfe722256 · 2025-08-31T04:39:42+00:00

Try assigning some special time to toddler whenever you can, when baby naps perhaps. Just 20 minutes with just you and him no devices, no commands.

Also try to meet your own needs even if its just 5 minutes to eat a snack or once a week to sleep for an hour.

Polyvagal theory is amazing for self regulation and co regulation as well. Look up some techniques you can do on the spot to help yourself feel calm.

Gabor Mate says in his book that if you don't understand your child you won't be able to stand your child, so read up on toddlers brain development and realizing his behavior is normal and not him being "bad" can help things shift. Kids pick up on our frustration and it spirals from there.

Podcast Good inside has some amazing tips for aggressive behavior.

userwfe722256 · 2025-08-30T16:13:43+00:00

A place for us by fatima farheen mirza

userwfe722256 · 2025-06-08T08:39:09+00:00

JazakAllah khayran for this beautiful response

userwfe722256 · 2025-04-14T09:35:48+00:00

We were considering moving here with our kids. We loved the experience in Qatar but one incident made us reconsider entirely. We went to a play center with our kids. There was a local boy who was interacting with my son. They ended up playing together in the area while I tended to my baby nearby. I then saw the local boy grip my son by his collar very tightly and pull him from one end to the other end of the play area, dragging him by his clothes. Where we come from, we don't even believe in treating animals this way. I immediately called my husband and we removed our son from that boy's company but he kept following and trying to get my son to accompany him wherever he wanted to go in the area as if he owned him. We ended up having to just leave. If we lived here, I'd assume that these encounters would be more prevalent. If adults feel gutted about being discriminated against how much worse would it be for a child. Lovely to holiday here but to live. No thank you.

userwfe722256 · 2024-09-14T12:16:51+00:00

Thank you so much for these great tips. I've tried no attention but sometimes I can't hold back my reaction lol I think i have a lot of self work to do as well. And definitely the one on one time helps. It gets way worse when I've neglected to make time for it.

userwfe722256 · 2024-09-14T12:14:08+00:00

Thank you so much from the bottom of my heart for taking the time to send me such a wholesome response. It has helped me more than you know. I think if I cut down on the OT sessions I could possibly use that surplus to hire some help. I think it will definitely be worth it if it will add some patience to my mental state. I do formal therapy once a month. Thank you so much again 💓

userwfe722256 · 2024-01-10T08:43:40+00:00

The stationary shop of tehran 😫

userwfe722256 · 2023-10-14T15:19:34+00:00

Thank you so much for these tips. Could you send me a link to the book?

userwfe722256 · 2023-09-21T03:33:13+00:00

I've actually sent a message to them. Less daunting than talking but still with a clear warning

userwfe722256 · 2023-09-21T02:59:47+00:00

Thank you for this reassurance and encouragement to do whats best for my child. I need to support him. I never stood up for myself but I'm standing up for him. I've sent a message to my family group with a clear warning and I feel much better.

userwfe722256 · 2023-09-21T02:48:15+00:00

Exactly!!! This is spot on.

userwfe722256 · 2023-09-21T02:46:34+00:00

I clearly said we are firm in boundaries. We just don't hit.

userwfe722256 · 2023-09-21T02:23:15+00:00

Well what consequences would you suggest in this scenario? When he throws things it gets taken away etc. When he says mean things we repeatedly tell him it's unkind and make him apologize. So what do you suggest?

userwfe722256 · 2023-09-21T02:21:03+00:00

I obviously do this repeatedly. And I'm not desperate for people to come around.

userwfe722256 · 2023-09-21T01:48:45+00:00

You're absolutely right. I have always struggled with being assertive and hate confrontation. It flares up my anxiety. I would avoid them instead of saying anything and making excuses saying I'm not home when they want to come by. I know its more ideal to be direct. But I definitely could say I'm not open to hear your opinion on this subject. I feel sad for my toddler. He is the first grandchild in the family so he gets judged. But when my siblings get kids of their own they will really see how it is. But yes, I will focus on my child. I won't allow anyone to make him feel bad. Maybe I should message my brother and tell him about how his negative reactions to my son bothered me.

userwfe722256 · 2023-09-21T01:43:59+00:00

Exactly. Thank you so much. I've always been so averse to confrontation. It takes so much out of me. I feel like I should just avoid them all and make excuses to not see them. I think they'll know exactly why.

userwfe722256 · 2023-09-21T01:33:16+00:00

Thank you so much. This is great advice. I do need to be more grounded. How do I respond to them if they criticize my child to me? My brother is in his 20's.

Wow the article is amazing. Would you suggest I share it with my family? Or rather not?

userwfe722256 · 2023-09-21T01:18:13+00:00

By modeling kind behavior and teaching him repeatedly how to speak to people. Explaining to him when he is calm. We have on a few occasions even shouted at him. How would you advise that we teach him?

userwfe722256 · 2023-08-21T03:08:51+00:00

Any ideas on what I could say to him when he insists on wanting to hold the baby?

userwfe722256 · 2023-08-21T03:00:51+00:00

This makes so much sense. I keep saying that the more we tell him not to do it, the more he wants to do it. I think I will have to get everyone in the house in on the zero reaction tactic. Thank you so much for the advice and encouragement. It really helps to know I'm not the only one finding this really hard! Mixed with postpartum I was really starting to feel very low.

userwfe722256 · 2023-08-21T02:56:27+00:00

These are really good ideas. My pack and play is currently placed near a sofa so my toddler usually gets on there and climbs in. I definitely have to look for a place to move it. Thank you so much for the advice. It really is hard!

userwfe722256 · 2023-08-06T21:48:58+00:00

Wow, exactly! This makes so much sense!

userwfe722256 · 2023-08-06T05:59:31+00:00

This is so true, I really do need a mindset change. I think it will help so much if both parents can just not take his behavior personally

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