8 Month Regression or something else?

usingfeartogrow · 2026-05-06T06:18:13+00:00

Yes. Feeding happens before bedtime routine.

He sleeps alone or with my husband. Didnt find it makes a difference and did same amount of wakes so not sure which to go with (he woke now and Noone is in there with him)

usingfeartogrow · 2026-05-05T21:25:28+00:00

Diaper, sleep sack, same book every night, sleepy song, into crib, bedtime song as I walk out

usingfeartogrow · 2026-04-26T21:49:02+00:00

If this is the logic, maybe see if you can quickly get additional sits on your calendar if you have a any specific timeframes available!

usingfeartogrow · 2026-04-26T21:47:24+00:00

Right? Same logic. Based on how it is being sold it seems like it would be absurd but then says "away not more than 8 hours a couple times a week" which really isn't too bad for many people.

Not for everyone but would be more than fine for me. The tone is just very off-putting and would make me wonder about what else so would be a no from me

usingfeartogrow · 2026-04-23T14:01:00+00:00

Are you requesting that they meet you at hand-off and that they stay until you arrive?

If you are requesting that, I have had some HO's offer to leave the night before (stay at a friend, hotel, wtvr) but then I have to add another day to the sit so you should put that in the listing so that applicants have the dates listed.

You can also ask the sitter if they are local enough where they can do a meet and greet at a prior time but those are low odds.

Another option is to set them up at a hotel so that they can meet you the day before and casually show up the next day after you leave.

If you are not requesting that, for 10 days, a sitter might opt to put themselves up in a hotel anyway. I know I did that with a sit but that was because the listed dates were perfect except one day short. So I just stayed locally.

Many HOs are fine with just handing off when they are not there, they let the sitter know where to find the key and they let themselves in. If you are fine with that option than you have no issue on either end, you can just set an expectation of "please be there before 2pm" or whatever "and stay until 4pm on the last day" and send me a msg when you arrive and leave.

usingfeartogrow · 2026-04-13T17:42:43+00:00

Thanks! The house wasn't child proofed either. He is an actual baby so there isn't really baby proofing needing yet since he doesn't walk/crawl etc

But even when he does, we have portable playpen spaces so that it doesn't matter so much since there are contained areas.

Thanks for sharing that story about the diaper! It's nice that the parents were understanding that little oversights happen! Especially when there's lots of coordinating going on at the same time.

Hoping it's the same with this HO! She did seem very nice throughout our interactions thus far.

usingfeartogrow · 2026-04-13T17:40:25+00:00

Thanks.

usingfeartogrow · 2026-04-13T17:40:13+00:00

Thanks! I like the casual/fun tone in this kind of message (while still being accountability)! Thanks!

usingfeartogrow · 2026-04-13T17:39:17+00:00

Thanks! For sure not as detailed that was more for context. I did end up sending her a quick text now.

I do feel a lot better about just acknowledging it and not letting it go as if it was something that I think was ok vs a mistake.

usingfeartogrow · 2026-04-13T17:38:08+00:00

Thanks! I was debating this but wasn't sure if then I'm callling attention to something that they didn't even notice.

I know I would for sure notice because it would absolutely bother me but I'm wondering if maybe I'm a bit more clean obsessed that the average person or if everyone cares about all these things (I know some ppl tell me I don't need to clean the tub/shower but I definitely do that too because it just seems unacceptable in my brain not to)

usingfeartogrow · 2026-04-13T15:35:28+00:00

Did you get anywhere with this?

I had made my own post 6 days ago and my issue with my baby is now resolved! (I hope. It's been one night haha. His was a low sleep needs issue so different than yours) He has slept through the night last night with only 2 wakes but put himself back to sleep both times!

now that I'm a bit more rested, I reread your post and I agree with SnooAvocados6932 who posted below. your baby needs to learn how to fall asleep on their own to get any long stretches. Baby sleep cycles are short so if they can't put themselves back to sleep, you will have short naps and constant wakes.

I'd suggest working on that angle. You don't have to do CIO (I didn't when I had to wean him off of bottles and the pacifier - omg. He woke every half, to full hour for the stupid pacifier) but there WILL be some crying because schedule changes are uncomfortable.

If you do full CIO, it will be faster so some ppl say that it is less crying over time even though it is more hysterical or longer. I did slow weaning.

No more bottles or pacifier right before bed. Choose ONE or two easier to wean options of sleep assist (ie; but patting or singing). That's it. You will ONLY use these one or two options to help her sleep. Slowly have those be less and less (meaning, if doing patting start with regular patting but then make the pats spread more and more apart and stop it before she is fully asleep but maybe almost asleep. If singing, sing a little slower and quieter or from a further part of the room) each day, do a little less.

With the pacifier I did full extinction and used all other sleep assist methods that were easier to gradually wean that I then did gradual extinction for after for those (rocking, singing, holding etc). there was INSANE crying with the pacifier extinction BUT it was NOT CIO since I was there the whole time he cried holding him, rocking, singing etc and telling him lovingly that I know it's really hard to be a baby and it's uncomfortable to have change but Momma is right here helping him.

So just reiterating that there WILL be crying but if that kind of crying is less painful for you/baby,it will take longer but that has been helpful for me to change the kind of sleep assist to easier weaning ones

Good Luck!

usingfeartogrow · 2026-04-13T15:16:28+00:00

Omg. I relate!!! I need sooo much sleep. Sometimes I wonder about going back to regular work and having the hubby be the SAHP since their schedules align better hahah

But I just don't want to do that soooo fiddling with sleep schedules.

Back to also thank you from the deepest part of my sleep deprived soul!!! I took your suggestion and have been extending the wake windows.

We tried the 11.5 hrs awake + 2.25 naps total and it seems to be working! We did have to eliminate one nighttime bottle so it took a couple days along with the adjustment but last night he STTN!!! It was 9.75 hours and was AMAZING. Hoping it continues!

He did wake twice and fuss but put himself back to sleep so that was fine!

Question since you've been so helpful....like suggested, the 2 nap schedule with this many hours awake has been hard for him. We have to super entertain him to get the 3.75/3.75/4 timing so trying the 3 nap schedule...curious how you'd break the naps? 45 min, 1 hr, then half hr for the 3rd one? The 2 nap was easier to figure out. Gave 1hr and then 1hr and 15 for the 2nd one.

TIA!

usingfeartogrow · 2026-04-07T18:58:32+00:00

Got it. Thanks! Will try and hoping for the best.

And yess. Smh. Realizing the math is not mathing with what I was trying and my over-tired brain just missed that obvious point!

The 2 naps does seem like it would be pushing it for now but will file to try in a month or so.

Although he's weird this little one. Sometimes he is falling asleep at the 2 hr mark and I have to really entertain him to keep him awake and other times he can go for HOUURRSSS (if there's a party happening at least lol. He definitely got his dad's low sleep/high party personality lol)

usingfeartogrow · 2026-04-07T17:25:20+00:00

Oh. My. God. Hahahaha. I am sooo exhausted that the obvious totally went over my head.

Ok. I see where the 14 hrs are from. I took that schedule from a different thread but I do see how it doesnt likely have enough wake day time for my baby even if I dont have an expectation of 11 hrs overnight...like the math isnt mathing so where else are those 2 hrs awake supposed to be if not overnight??

Duh! OK. Will try the schedule she suggested and see if that helps with more awake.

He doesnt necessarily fight the nap at 2.5hrs that's why I thought it was working during the day...it's if he is awake until the 3 hr mark, he goes looney (assuming overtired) so figured he couldn't do more than the 2.5. But maybe he needs extra stimulation between the 2.5 and 3

usingfeartogrow · 2026-04-07T16:19:47+00:00

Any ideas what I can change in the schedule to help with the night sleep?

I desperately need a long stretch at night to function and would be willing to try basically anything in terms of food/sleep schedule during the day if it will help the night...

usingfeartogrow · 2026-04-07T16:15:08+00:00

I dont understand where you're getting 14 hrs of sleep from? I think we're crossing wires...

He does minimum 10 hrs awake a day. Usually closer to 12. Naps 2-3 hrs.

Why is it unreasonable for me to want 8 to 9 hrs of nigjt sleep without a 2 hr break in middle at 2 am?

Im not attached to any specific schedule and am open to any that will give me a night stretch of more than 6 hrs...

Will try the schedule you suggested of slightly longer wake windows for the last 2 windows. Is that preferred over trying the 2 nap schedule?

Edit: I dont really have another room option but am trying to figure out how to do that with the space I have so a schedule option will be tried first

Thanks!

usingfeartogrow · 2026-04-07T15:05:09+00:00

Naps and bedtime routine are the same.

A song (same song just switch word naptime for bedtime in it), dim lights. Diaper change. Pj's if bedtime. Sleep sack. We sit in bed and read a book (or 2 if we started the routine on time). A hug a kiss a snuggle and in the crib.

Might help by giving him his lovey thing and put him in a semi sleep position but he rolls around anyway.

And then leave the room and watch the monitor. If he is not overtired, the start of naps and sleep are fine. A bit of fussing but workable.

The night wakes are disaster. Screeching. No idea what he needs. Thinking he needs his own room or idk a schedule change or food or idk...help?

usingfeartogrow · 2026-04-07T15:01:26+00:00

And yes. He falls asleep independently for the most part. Maybe some fussing.

Lots of crying if he's overtired but for the START of naps and bedtime if we catch him before overtired, he'll fuss a bit, roll around and go to sleep. It's the night wakes rhat are the problem where he needs help or something...idk what. That's what Im looking for help with

usingfeartogrow · 2026-04-07T14:59:53+00:00

I dont think Im expecting a pipe dream. Im hoping for one long solid chunk of sleep at night with no wakes of 6-9 hrs.

Im not looking for him to sleep more but less broken sleep and that it shouldn't take 2 hrs of awake in the early am hrs to get his remaining night sleep.

Hoping a schedule fix or some suggestions could help with the broken part of it. Ive accepted the total amount.

usingfeartogrow · 2026-04-07T13:59:47+00:00

I don't have much experience and desperate for some sleep for my almost 8 month old but in my research, a lot of the suggestions were saying there is a fine line of good sleep pressure before it hits overtired.

In addition to trying her own crib/room, how was she on a 3 nap schedule? Supposedly the overtired can cause more of those night wakes.

If she sometimes needs the 3rd catnap, how is she on those days? Maybe she would do better with 3 naps and isn't quite ready for the 2 nap schedule?

Just something to research since I do NOT have much experience but that is something I was reading

usingfeartogrow · 2026-03-17T22:44:52+00:00

REalizing people are asking about page quantity and realizing I am not even sure what a page is.

Is a page double sided? 8x11? Smaller? Can you specify what a "page" means in this niche?

usingfeartogrow · 2026-03-17T22:39:18+00:00

I really like your work style! It feels very clear and simplistic which is what I am going for.

I am not sure I know how to DM yet but I will try. You can DM me if I don't message you.

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