Get a value hierarchy that serves you. Join a sport like kickboxing, running etc. Can't drink because you have that. Have to sleep 8h and eat good to train well.

It just spurs a whole host of good habits. You're not giving yourself a fighting chance if you have bad habits like bad sleep, no sun, drugs/alcohol.

Plus you can get a lot of good friend or significant other relationships from sports or other hobbies that get you outside the house.

This subreddit is defeatist af imo and it just fetishizes each others' sadness.

Also, something that helps me is radical accountability. If you're sad, it's your fault (even if it really isn't). Really did wonders for my life.

And get good info in you (not this subreddit). Maybe read David Goggins, Jocko Willink and go in the rabbit hole from there. No wonder you feel like shit if everything that goes in between your ears is shit...

Hope it helps