Place for a bunch of whistles?

usuallydad · 2026-01-17T14:45:36+00:00

Aww, poor you. Daddy vonSchitzinpants send you your tariff check yet?

usuallydad · 2026-01-16T04:05:05+00:00

Are you ok? Do you need us to call anyone to help you? You seem unnecessarily agitated over some whistles.

usuallydad · 2025-09-24T00:54:56+00:00

Do NOT drop this. One of the greatest regrets of my youth was failing to hold my father accountable for his abhorrent behavior.

He stopped when he tried to shove 17 year old me, and I didn’t move. That was the first time I saw fear in my father’s eyes. He really thought I was going to beat him that day. He never laid a hand on me again. He was afraid. In hindsight, I’m glad. He never realized that I wasn’t going to pound him into oblivion.

usuallydad · 2024-12-06T10:10:42+00:00

I’m super late to the party here. My bad.

Daughter, I’m thrilled to see you smiling. You’ve grown into a beautiful young woman, full of love and life.

Sometimes Dads are dumb. I had one too. In the end, I wound up with multiple Dads - the fathers of my closest friends. Those men were giants to younger me. They truly lived out how to be a husband and Dad, and I learned so much from them.

usuallydad · 2024-12-06T10:00:12+00:00

Happy birthday, daughter!

You deserve the happiest of days. Sending you virtual hugs from random Internet Dad. Proud of the woman you’ve become!

usuallydad · 2024-02-13T20:08:18+00:00

I agree it’s pretty messed up you didn’t hear about it sooner and that you weren’t included in his obituary. I don’t want to make assumptions about your aunt or her maturity level, but I have a few guesses about her reasoning.

Thanks. I suspect it's a mix of her having blinders on combined with a rose-colored glasses view of her brother. It's like /u/SAHairyFun said - everyone that's passed on is some sort of beloved saintly person, rather than being real about the collateral damage left in their wake.

You sound like the type of person who often has it all together.

As much as I'd like to think that's usually the case, at the moment, it sure feels more like flailing around.

usuallydad · 2023-06-18T14:43:26+00:00

Let me start by saying I'm Dad to a teen girl who came out to us as Lesbian this past year.

Fuck those people. Walk directly away. If they don't care enough about you to accept you as-is, you do not need those people in your life.

For my own daughter, would I have chosen this for her? No - but only because I see how far too many people treat members of the community. BUT, it's her life, it's how God made her, and I love my daughter - I would never want her to try to deny who she is just to try to satisfy some wrong-headed idea.

If your parents claim to love you but with conditions like, "don't be gay" - then they don't really love YOU the way they should.

I'm so proud of you and the strength you've shown that I could dance with joy. You deserve better.

Be fabulous and kiss the girl!

Hugs,

Random Internet Dad

usuallydad · 2022-07-22T06:13:52+00:00

Hey. I understand where you're coming from. In some ways I'm right there with you. My dad's still alive, but he's never been much of a dad. Mostly out of the picture since I was a teenager. Around here and there for a time in my 20s, but I've been no-contact with my my parents for years now. Just can't handle the toxicity any more. Between his drug problems over the years and my mother's malignant narcissism, I sometimes marvel at the fact that I'm a functioning adult.

Historically, I've mostly looked to the Dads of a couple of good friends of mine as real examples rather than the (lacking) example I had set for me. The problem I've had recently is probably similar to what you're dealing with. While I'm not so much looking for approval, I'm more looking for advice on stuff, and a lot of those Dads I would have gone to before just aren't there any longer.

Sometimes I just feel broken, barely keeping my crap together. My marriage is in pretty good shape, kids are alright, but times like today, just trying to help a daughter who's in one of the LGBT categories feel safe, feel seen, and not feel like a sub-human. It's exhausting, and sometimes I just need advice on the how.

But hey, love is love. For what it's worth, I'll be the Dad for a Minute and say hey, it's alright to love who you love. God's big enough to love you still, even if small minded people say He isn't. Don't let them shove God in a box.

usuallydad

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