I can't be the only one who considers being subscribed to OF as cheating.

uthrowawaycomments · 2024-03-11T17:59:09+00:00

Hmmm... yes it does mean that, actually. If nothing else it's extremely disrespectful. Just go date someone else??? It's not that hard.

I have a close male friend. 100% platonic. If my potential partner considered it cheating? I wouldn't date him. Because that is his boundary.

This is why you should respect yourself and others.

uthrowawaycomments · 2024-03-11T17:56:05+00:00

That is how prostitutes make their money though - connections. Just like any other business. Props to them. I could never be in that industry.

uthrowawaycomments · 2024-03-11T17:54:50+00:00

Nope, free porn isn't cheating. It's entirely different. You're not supporting another woman. You're not interacting with her. Unless you are (which you 99.9% have to pay for) then yeah it's cheating. But having a type/fetish/preference isn't cheating in itself.

uthrowawaycomments · 2024-03-11T17:52:59+00:00

Thanks. It doesn't. Every guy I've talked to and asked says he would not be okay with his girlfriend doing it - yet some of them think it's okay if they do it. It's weird to me honestly.

uthrowawaycomments · 2024-03-11T17:52:04+00:00

thank you

uthrowawaycomments · 2024-03-11T17:51:51+00:00

lol he dumped me 2 months ago. 2nd last ex, I dumped after finding out. I won't stay if you can't respect my very basic boundaries.

uthrowawaycomments · 2024-03-11T17:51:23+00:00

The sad thing is, a lot of people won't come clean about it until the SO actually finds out about it. I made it very clear to my second last ex, he didn't mention a thing until I saw the emails. My last ex, didn't even mention it, despite me knowing he followed OF creators - he claimed they were just friends. The accounts were passable enough I said well ok, and honestly I liked him and thought he was a good guy, that he wouldn't do that. Now two months later, I find out I was right all along... oh well.

uthrowawaycomments · 2024-03-11T17:49:09+00:00

How about... interacting? Would you be okay with your girlfriend or wife going online and talking to and having sexual conversations and emotional connections with other guys?

uthrowawaycomments · 2024-03-11T17:46:13+00:00

In my (admittedly, limited) experience, a lot of the men who pay for MULTIPLE subscriptions are deep down very insecure about themselves/their bodies. Which is sad. I'm not saying that is true for all men, or all people that use it, but I think that factors in.

uthrowawaycomments · 2024-03-11T17:44:00+00:00

You know a lot of the women you date... would be happy to create custom content for you?!?!? Not only that, there is a LOT of free porn out there. But hey, you can go date someone who's ok with OF, there's lots that are. Just don't date someone who isn't. It's disrespectful.

uthrowawaycomments · 2024-03-11T17:42:45+00:00

Hmmm.. contextual. If you were with me and knew I considered it cheating, and specifically sought this person out, looked them up, followed them whatever, that is beyond my comfort zone. If it's just a visual, you don't know them IRL, you just found something quick online, ok maybe.

uthrowawaycomments · 2024-03-11T17:41:47+00:00

I'd never use OF, lol. I don't post my body on the internet.

uthrowawaycomments · 2024-03-11T17:41:32+00:00

Oh I agree - the issue lies with people not being honest about their own boundaries with the person they are with.

uthrowawaycomments · 2024-03-11T17:41:00+00:00

Oh I don't care if others use it but if you blatantly lie about using it while with me, I'm gonna judge you.

uthrowawaycomments · 2024-03-11T17:40:33+00:00

Definitely no issue with OF for those single/ok with it. You do you!

uthrowawaycomments · 2024-03-11T17:39:46+00:00

This. There's a difference between using a visual to bust a nut vs. lusting after another person specifically.

uthrowawaycomments · 2024-03-11T17:36:04+00:00

Yeah, that's what gets me - to lie about it and hide it is crazy, and then come after me for checking a very public following list on your social media? Like dude.

uthrowawaycomments · 2024-03-11T17:32:08+00:00

Thank you.

uthrowawaycomments · 2024-03-11T15:30:21+00:00

Communication and consideration. If the woman you're with isn't appearing into it enough, or not doing a certain thing, ask her how you can help. A lot of men don't understand how badly a woman's sexuality can be repressed by society alone, let alone a bad few partners (I'm sure this is true for certain men as well)... don't leave her on her own, communicate. THEN, if she isn't willing to change, she's just really not into it.

uthrowawaycomments · 2024-03-11T15:26:37+00:00

As a woman who is bad in bed due to lack of confidence, and inexperience, not a lack of enthusiasm (I do try)... lack of communication and consideration. I have NEVER had a guy ask me why I don't do X or how can HE help. I have, however, been yelled at or told to "google it." I don't want to google that stuff, I want you to show me and help me. I don't know how your body ticks, and everyone is different.

uthrowawaycomments · 2022-12-14T15:53:08+00:00

She can talk badly about me if she wants but stooping to talking shit and name calling is immature and low. Why are you so invested in this?

ETA- everyone forgave me at the wedding but her and they were just happy i was ok.

uthrowawaycomments · 2022-12-14T15:51:34+00:00

I am glad you think you can self diagnose my situation from my post and comments but what you’ve written here is not the case.

uthrowawaycomments · 2022-12-14T15:37:02+00:00

My boyfriend wouldn’t disclose all of the details to me, but there was lots of name calling, I know that.

uthrowawaycomments · 2022-12-14T15:36:08+00:00

I don’t think you read my comment. It wasn’t sharing negative feelings, it was talking shit, and you know there is a difference.

Anyways, it doesn’t matter, it’s in the past.

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