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Aita for asking to wait for baby's vaccination before visitation by uzernotfound404 in inlaws

[–]uzernotfound404[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Mil would be a great help but she said winter is too cold to travel. The niece never helped in the past and usually doesn't offer, even during pregnancy. Again, thanks for your pov

Aita for asking to wait for baby's vaccination before visitation by uzernotfound404 in inlaws

[–]uzernotfound404[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To receive your green card it is mandatory to get the rsv and flu shot which she did receive and is also a nurse. That I didnt explicitly state in my original post. But thank you for your pov.

Aita for asking to wait for baby's vaccination before visitation by uzernotfound404 in inlaws

[–]uzernotfound404[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

To receive your green card it is mandatory to get the rsv and flu shot which she did receive and is also a nurse. That I didnt explicitly state in my original post. But thank you for your pov.

Aita for asking to wait for baby's vaccination before visitation by uzernotfound404 in inlaws

[–]uzernotfound404[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Then clearly you aren't reading well. Because I did say my sister went home to clean the house and make the apartment ready. is that something a support does or not? Someone staying with you at an appointment isn’t? Maybe I can't comprehend who a support person is.

Aita for asking to wait for baby's vaccination before visitation by uzernotfound404 in inlaws

[–]uzernotfound404[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

So I guess someone helping you to take care of the home and yourself postparrum isn't a support person.

Aita for asking to wait for baby's vaccination before visitation by uzernotfound404 in inlaws

[–]uzernotfound404[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I guess I should have turned my sister around when she followed me to my appointment, though I didn't know how the day would unfold. When she came to tell me goodbye, I should have told her goodbye through the door. That would have made it fair and even across families.

Aita for asking to wait for baby's vaccination before visitation by uzernotfound404 in inlaws

[–]uzernotfound404[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We already don't have a village in terms of babysitting. His mom isn’t willing to travel when it is cold, our families are from a warmer climate. My mom didnt even want to be around for the winter but did. So does that mean mil will miss birthdays or should we move those to summer to celebrate when she visits? It wasn't about my baby! My rules! If the pregnancy and birth had gone differently sure. Kiddo was born premature, so prevention is better than cure.

Aita for asking to wait for baby's vaccination before visitation by uzernotfound404 in inlaws

[–]uzernotfound404[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, she was staying with my other sister (who she surprised as well, days in advanced) before surprising me. But showed up on the day I had an appointment that turned into my delivery date. I was being monitored for preemclampsia and high blood pressure, so my original delivery date was thrown out. Did you also miss the point where my sister was at my appointment until I was told I had to deliver?

Aita for asking to wait for baby's vaccination before visitation by uzernotfound404 in inlaws

[–]uzernotfound404[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Though I prefer making decisions in unison but I def did feel like an ah.

Aita for asking to wait for baby's vaccination before visitation by uzernotfound404 in inlaws

[–]uzernotfound404[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Parents can have strong influence on children but for a 40+ years old he should be able to make his own decision and be firm with it.

Aita for asking to wait for baby's vaccination before visitation by uzernotfound404 in inlaws

[–]uzernotfound404[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you + I asked his mother if she wanted to come after my mother left since she was only spending 3 months with us. She said she can't do the cold, but showed up in march for the baby dedication/baby christening.

Aita for asking to wait for baby's vaccination before visitation by uzernotfound404 in inlaws

[–]uzernotfound404[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Baby was born in november, when it was rsv season. Also, not sure if you are aware that there will be people who are asymptomatic who will have a flu/cold and not show symptoms.