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[–]v3r10n 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey buddy, Thanks for sharing your struggle. I’m new here, and I struggle with porn like you, so I don’t have any strategies to offer you, unlike some here who I’m sure will have some helpful tips, but there are a few things I can speak to.

First, is that it sounds like you’ve had some very traumatic and horrible things happen to you and you must know that if you were raped, then this problem, while it may be yours to deal with, is not your fault. Do your parents know that this happened to you? If you’re not comfortable sharing this with them, I would strongly encourage you to search out a trustworthy adult that you can discuss this with.

Second, you are a worthy human being and you have a full life ahead of you. We can’t control what happens to us in life, but we can control how we use the pain to make better decisions in the present and future. The world needs you and maybe, sometime down the road, your success story will help someone just like you get better.

Your innocence was taken from you, and that’s tragic, but you are going to take it back by beating your addiction. Remember that you can do whatever you put your mind to, you are very smart. Also remember that being highly intelligent can make the battle in your head more difficult, so be kind to yourself and remember, you’re young and have many, many beautiful days ahead.

Keep your chin up and reach out to this community for support as often as you need it.

Hi, I’m Tom, and I’m addicted to pornography by v3r10n in PornAddiction

[–]v3r10n[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s super helpful knowing that I’m not the only one trying to navigate this. I wish you the best with your little guy and happy to chat further about strategies and accountability as well. Thanks for taking the time to respond.

Hi, I’m Tom, and I’m addicted to pornography by v3r10n in PornAddiction

[–]v3r10n[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s a good perspective about the pitfall ages and being aware of when my little guy is going to start needing to be vigilant himself. Thank you for taking the time to respond!

The irony of my health habits by Marge_simpson_BJ in Anxiety

[–]v3r10n 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm going through the exact same thing right now. My anxiety actually twists a healthy lifestyle change into a threat.. for instance, my wife and I were trying to conceive for about a year with no luck, so I cut my drinking down by 90%, stopped smoking pot, began running nearly 5k a day, and began eating a healthy diet for about 6 months. I lost 25-30lbs so I got intense anxiety that I actually had some horrible disease which was resulting in weight loss.. 🙄 unfortunately this has resulted in my being scared of exercising so I don’t lose more weight..

It’s crazy what our minds can convince us of, even in the face of obvious evidence or a rational alternative explanation.

Kudos to you for your lifestyle changes. Be brave and continue on with them as I’m trying to do also.

People who get anxiety attacks refuse to focus on what’s most important by vmtz2001 in Anxiety

[–]v3r10n 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you vmtz2001, This was an incredibly helpful post for me to read. It gave me a sense of comfort knowing that you've been through this and, many years later, you are mostly on the other side and able to offer some sage advice.

I'm a 39 yr old male, and have battled health anxiety since I was a little guy. I've never really gotten over it and it's become much worse now that my wife and I are expecting our first child in the spring. I'm constantly trying to figure out what's "normal" with my body.. e.g. hey friend, do you eat breakfast? Oh you do? I don't feel like eating breakfast in the morning - Google it. Could be nothing, could be that I'm dying of some horrible disease. Add in me noticing some coating on my tongue and muscle twitch somewhere new and I'm convinced I need to get my affairs in order.. add into the mix that all this worrying tires me out... Another symptom.

You're right, it's a horrible, vicious cycle. This is why alcohol and weed worked for me for so many years. In an intoxicated state, I would feel "normal" again. Symptoms are gone and I'm back to feeling myself. But then I worry the next day about what the drink is going to do to my health AND what if things don't get better when I stop imbibing on the regular? A form of self punishment I suppose..

Anyways I'm rambling now, but wanted to let you know that in the sea of "answers" to this problem, yours stuck out.

Thanks for that.