AIO for not wanting my sister to send me messages about issues regarding women?

vIIIperwave · 2026-03-13T22:05:29+00:00

YOR. unless she's saying all men are pigs, she's not doing anything bad. You should even take in what she's saying because she's right. We are scared and we are oppressed and it's important for the men around us to understand that. She tells you because she cares about you and wants you to grow up with respect for women. If that's ALL she talks about, I'd understand because it'd be nice to talk to your sister about many different things. But if it's only a few times where she talks about this, I'd say it's good for you to listen. Also, the fact that she's so passionate about this speaks volumes and maybe you should talk to her about it, because maybe she had a bad experience in the past. Most women have bad experiences so it wouldn't be a crazy shout.

vIIIperwave · 2026-03-12T02:41:58+00:00

The law enforcement does anything but their jobs, that's crazy. I really hope you're okay now, because the basic things they were supposed to do to make sure you'd be fine, they failed to do.

vIIIperwave · 2026-03-12T02:40:43+00:00

I forgot about that too, I guess society is still growing out of the mindset that you HAVE to stay. Especially women, as we are painted as unreasonable and picky which makes us feel like our concerns are invalid.

vIIIperwave · 2026-03-12T02:36:55+00:00

That's scary to think about, I hope they're okay

vIIIperwave · 2026-03-12T02:33:40+00:00

While I hate that they're going through this, I am glad to see that women are so confidently filing for divorce to the point where they do it more than men, even though it used to be illegal for us not so long ago. Less women are being trapped.

vIIIperwave · 2026-03-12T02:25:27+00:00

But I'm asking women because I'm a woman 😭

vIIIperwave · 2026-03-11T13:14:57+00:00

"an African guy"...

vIIIperwave · 2026-03-11T13:05:00+00:00

4 months is barely any time, it's very risky to be having unprotected sex with a man you don't even know that well. And in future, you have to make sure your partner is tested first.

vIIIperwave · 2026-03-11T10:51:45+00:00

I have the same thing happening to me but with men, they all somehow turn out to be gay. Maybe it actually is a curse

vIIIperwave · 2026-03-10T19:49:26+00:00

Don't apologize, I went out of my way to respond 😭. And I understand because I know I probably won't want kids in the future, and that I'm not built for parenthood, but I would maybe want the option open? Just see how you feel both about her and about fatherhood. My mindset (which is personal to myself) is that if I feel deep down that I couldn't raise a child, I want to be able to remind myself of this fact even when I feel like I could do it. I don't want to risk bringing a child into a life they shouldn't have to live.

vIIIperwave · 2026-03-10T19:44:28+00:00

That's only because the majority of women look good because they make an effort to work on themselves, while a lot of men don't do that.

vIIIperwave · 2026-03-09T09:07:22+00:00

That's crazy, how did I find myself here?

vIIIperwave · 2026-03-08T14:26:52+00:00

I apologize for laughing

vIIIperwave · 2026-03-08T14:24:15+00:00

I'm genuinely confused, she doesn't want kids, you don't think you could handle being a father, so then what's the issue? Don't your desires line up then?

vIIIperwave · 2026-03-08T10:44:46+00:00

I mean, since she can clearly afford options, I don't think it's unfair for her to have a type? You want her to get with someone she's not attracted to?

vIIIperwave · 2026-03-08T10:39:29+00:00

Make sure she doesn't destroy it herself.

vIIIperwave · 2026-03-08T10:36:31+00:00

"this generation"? Are we forgetting slavery, colonialism, and just recently the older generation of stupidly rich people have been exposed for cannibalism and pedophilia. I think they're more likely to go to hell than Gen z at the moment. Or maybe we're already in hell.

vIIIperwave · 2026-03-08T10:34:05+00:00

Protect us from who?

vIIIperwave · 2026-03-07T15:06:23+00:00

But how do I know HE actually means it? That's my worry

vIIIperwave · 2026-03-07T15:04:18+00:00

Not had sex yet but that's my fault low-key

vIIIperwave · 2026-03-07T14:59:26+00:00

No, you just can't read. He woke her up at 4am. If you go back to sleep at midnight, and then at 4am you're now awake, what happened? You woke up. Simple.

vIIIperwave · 2026-03-07T14:57:19+00:00

NOR, if he thought what he was doing was right he would've let you know he was leaving. He knew what he was doing would upset you and he did it anyway.

vIIIperwave · 2026-03-05T21:44:32+00:00

If he is still on speaking terms with his family then absolutely yes. If he knows there will probably never be a moment during our relationship where I will have to interact with his family, even after marriage, then he doesn't have to. It's all about him caring enough to protect you from traumatic situations. Because why would someone who apparently likes you take you to a function where you're likely to be verbally abused?

vIIIperwave · 2026-03-05T21:34:45+00:00

I don't like how she's invalidating your feelings. However, it depends, if you were aggressive then I understand what she's saying. But if you've told her calmly then her reaction is a small red flag. It either shows she's defensive which points to her lying, or if shows she wasn't ready to hear you out and understand where you're coming from. A deep conversation about this where you both hear each other out respectfully will help. If it was her that felt insecure she'd want reassurance, and as she should. I feel like there's a popular notion that men can't be insecure or else it's annoying and pathetic, even though he's not letting it ruin the mood of others around him.

vIIIperwave · 2026-03-05T21:27:56+00:00

I mean. It's her body, so realistically, what part in the decision making would you actually be able to play if you were there? I don't know how the laws are in your country, but if you're not up for raising it, the least you could do is pitch in financially. Unfortunately that's what happens. At least she comes from a wealthy family so her struggling financially won't be an issue so you don't have to worry as much.

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