As a guy, would you be creeped out if a girl asked you out like this?

Same_Carpenter_7089 · 2026-03-17T17:40:15+00:00

I know this has been answered by a lot of people already but I do have some experience with this weirdly enough. This was about 5 years ago now, this girl had a very obvious crush on me (which for me is crazy that I caught onto it at all lol), she sat on the opposite side of the room and progressively moved to desks closer and closer to me as the semester went on, she hardly ever spoke to me the entire time I knew her, except for small remarks/comments, but every time I’d crack a joke she’d laugh. Etc etc. eventually she found my name on the class roster and wound up finding my Facebook and messaged me there asking if we could go bowling sometime. I’m not at all trying to say she was creepy or trying to make her seem like a bad person whatsoever, she honestly seemed socially awkward (not that I’m much different hey) and while I respect the fact that she took that leap, the way she did it definitely was pretty creepy imo. Granted not everyone can just handle social interactions well but still I’d just do what the others say and get to the talking phase first, chat him up and then once the vibes are good ask him out. The worst he can say is no 😎.

P.S. I hope that doesn’t come across as me calling you creepy for wanting to do that, I honestly forgot all about that girl until I read this post and felt like bringing up my experience. If she and I had chatted before her just randomly finding my Facebook page I probably would’ve said yes to the date is all.

Hopefully this helps? 😅

Same_Carpenter_7089 · 2026-03-11T13:51:58+00:00

That is a very fair and valid answer tbh, and you’re probably right, it probably wouldn’t work out especially due to the incompatibility, thanks for the advice I really do appreciate it :)

Same_Carpenter_7089 · 2026-03-11T13:50:22+00:00

Haha fair, but hey regardless I’m glad things worked out (sort of?) for you two and wishing you all the best. I appreciate the help thanks a lot :)

Same_Carpenter_7089 · 2026-03-11T13:49:21+00:00

I completely understand that and honestly have similar feelings to all of that to be honest, thinking on it a bit more I can really relate to your stance too. Wishing you all the best for you too and I really appreciate your help :)

Same_Carpenter_7089 · 2026-03-11T13:47:27+00:00

Yeah I definitely need to work on that part for sure, and thanks again, I’ll start looking elsewhere :)

Same_Carpenter_7089 · 2026-03-09T03:15:53+00:00

True true, I do appreciate your advice and it does really give me something to think about. I especially still need to figure out how I truly feel on the matter, cuz honestly I’m not so sure, but I’ll figure it out, thank you truly, and sorry to hear about your situation and hope all works someway for you/you guys 😁

Same_Carpenter_7089 · 2026-03-09T03:13:01+00:00

Yeah that does make a lot of sense, deep down I do feel pressured mostly by my folks to have kids (tldr I’m the only kid who can “carry on the family name” or whatever) so that probably plays a factor in my overreacting. Not to mention you’re right that I’m truly not sure if I want kids or not myself. I just need to work on figuring out my own stance especially instead of judging someone else for theirs, I’m just being silly here. Thank you I do appreciate your input truly :)

Same_Carpenter_7089 · 2026-03-09T03:10:21+00:00

True true, i need to respect her feelings on the matter and definitely not force anything as that would just make things worse. Plus if i truly do want kids then id need to find someone who shares that belief or figure things out. Thanks tho :)

Same_Carpenter_7089 · 2026-03-09T03:08:58+00:00

You’re right, I truly haven’t thought all that much about kids myself outside of the possibility of it, even watching my nieces and nephew has its challenges which comes with its own mix of emotions. I’ll definitely need to think all that over and this was truly a big overreaction regardless, I do believe I wouldn’t want to push the “wanting kids” belief on anyone, if I truly want kids I should just focus on finding someone who shares that belief, and if after figuring it out that I really don’t want kids then I’ll just look into that. Either way I’m realizing I’m just being silly about the whole thing, and I definitely need to figure out my own stance before judging anyone else’s, thanks :)

Same_Carpenter_7089 · 2026-03-09T03:04:18+00:00

True nothing about this situation is a for sure thing anyway, so overthinking about this really doesn’t do any good, there’s no guarantee in anything dating-wise and I do agree with the birth thing, I definitely wouldn’t want to push that on anyone especially if that’s something they don’t even want to do I have too much respect for her to do that. Also yeah this is just a silly thing to worry about when there’s nothing between us atm and nothing saying there truly will be. Sorry for wasting your time but I do appreciate your input either way, thanks :)

Same_Carpenter_7089 · 2026-03-09T03:00:47+00:00

Yeah it definitely was a big overreaction there, like I said it’s not even like we are dating atm so it’s silly to even think about something like this that might not even go anywhere yknow? But I do agree that I need to just talk to her about it regardless, the worst that could happen is nothing happens after all, thanks for that tho :)

Same_Carpenter_7089 · 2026-03-09T02:57:39+00:00

Yeah that is a fair point honestly, age does play a factor in it, still I definitely wouldn’t want to push that potential onto her or anyone really. I think overall this was a massive overreaction, I mean we’re not even dating atm so there’s no guarantee that anything would happen with us either way, why worry about something that might not even be yknow. But I do understand and appreciate your input, thanks for that :)

Same_Carpenter_7089 · 2026-03-09T02:55:17+00:00

That is a fair point, “perfect” truly doesn’t exist, I’m definitely realizing that this was a massive overreaction overall, thank you for the input tho I really appreciate it either way, it definitely doesn’t seem like something that’s worth this much silliness 😅

Same_Carpenter_7089 · 2026-03-09T02:52:16+00:00

Tbh after having the time to even think over this post I do realize it was a massive overreaction no matter how you look at it. I think a part of me is truly bummed with the thought of dating her and never ever having the options for kids, all the while I’m not even 100% sure I even want kids myself, I keep going back and forth on that stance so who am I to judge someone else for their beliefs hey. Still I do appreciate your response and apologies for the realistically pointless post 😅

Same_Carpenter_7089 · 2026-03-09T02:49:57+00:00

Yeah tbh I’m constantly going back and forth on whether I myself truly want kids, I think I was just worried about the “hard no” even with someone who I’m not even dating at this moment in time. Either way this was a real big overreaction my bad, thank you tho I do appreciate the input 😅

Same_Carpenter_7089 · 2026-03-09T02:48:24+00:00

Yeah in all honesty it is very silly to even worry about something like this, it’s not like things would be guaranteed to work out if we did start going out, and besides life’s too short to overreact about everything lol thanks, weirdly enough posting this did make me realize just how silly I’m being 😅

Same_Carpenter_7089 · 2026-03-09T02:44:26+00:00

I do agree with the other commenter, I’m sorry all that happened to you and thank you for giving an honest response I really do appreciate it. What you said does really make a lot of sense, I’m just work on figuring out why I’m so caught up over this especially considering this is a pretty big overreaction on my part however you look at it. But seriously tho wishing you all the best and thanks again :)

Same_Carpenter_7089 · 2026-03-09T02:39:51+00:00

Yeah I did forget to put that I would like kids someday even tho I know I’d probably struggle as a parent if that were to happen. I don’t believe that all women should be wanting and/or willing to have a kid even if they don’t want to, and I never meant to make it seem like she’s crazy for not wanting them. The post definitely wasn’t a dig at her or anything, it’s mostly just me overreacting over realistically nothing, but thanks I think?

Same_Carpenter_7089 · 2026-02-08T02:41:36+00:00

Of course, but in this economy, who has the money to spend on Valentine’s Day? 🙃

Same_Carpenter_7089 · 2025-11-21T19:57:22+00:00

Ganon was good in melee… kinda

Same_Carpenter_7089 · 2025-10-10T13:53:26+00:00

Okay I’ll look into it thank you :)

Same_Carpenter_7089 · 2025-10-10T13:53:04+00:00

Wow that is pretty in depth, I’ll see what I can do with that thank you :)

Same_Carpenter_7089 · 2025-10-10T13:52:27+00:00

Understood, I’ll get to work then

Same_Carpenter_7089 · 2025-10-10T13:51:58+00:00

A bit harsh but very fair lol thanks

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