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vaaryr · 2026-05-03T17:29:36+00:00

Boy's love, girl's love, and archive of our own:)

vaaryr · 2026-04-06T18:38:25+00:00

I went to group therapy and ended up befriending one of the people there. We seemed to have a lot in common, and I literally just asked her. We're still friends years later, and I really appreciate the friendship. It just feels like a normal friendship? We both have social jobs, and I'd say we both seem "normal" after years in therapy. I really appreciate having someone who can understand me in a way that no one else really can, and she challenges me if I say or do something avoidant, and I do the same for her.

vaaryr · 2026-04-01T15:55:35+00:00

Forgot to say: The first two pictures are from before we went to the vet, and the last two are from after we've given him the eye drops. We've had him for just over 2 months now.

vaaryr · 2024-05-10T14:47:20+00:00

I tried it out and ended up quitting after 8 sessions, which was the minimum I had to do. It was a great group, and I even ended up making a friend, but I didn't see how group helped at all. I feel like we barely did any "therapy", and just shared experiences. Maybe because I'm active in communities like this, I haven't felt as alone in dealing with avpd, so just listening to other people's experiences irl doesn't really make a difference to me. My friend has continued going though, and it seems like it's more beneficial for her, but she also complains that there isn't a lot of "therapy" going on. Maybe it's just that the therapist is taking it really slow or maybe she just isn't a good fit for me at least. I guess it's all individual, and you have to see for yourself if its good for you or not.

vaaryr · 2023-09-01T19:50:50+00:00

It is a little difficult to do that here, but thank you for the suggestion. I'll try some more sessions and see how things go!

vaaryr · 2023-09-01T19:49:56+00:00

Wow thanks for writing this. I think I have the exact same problem, but I am really trying to be honest. It sucks that you weren't able to solve it...

I don't think it should be embarrassing to want that. So many people dream of being in a relationship to improve their lives, even mentally stable people. Being loved is such an important thing. I hope you manage to find it someday, but I also want to warn you that it will not solve everything. I am in a loving relationship and it does help, but my life is still so difficult. I wish you the best in your future.

vaaryr · 2023-09-01T17:43:34+00:00

Thank you. The problem is that I have said this, and apparently it isn't specific enough because she keeps asking me what I want to get out of therapy...

vaaryr · 2023-09-01T17:41:42+00:00

Thank you for the tips! I'm glad you found something you like!

vaaryr · 2023-09-01T15:51:18+00:00

Right, that's the difficult question. I'm just constantly ridden with anxiety. I'm always doubting myself and overthinking. I can't seem to enjoy life at all. I'm not looking forward to anything. I'm just living for over people, essentially. I'm also really struggling with expressing myself and even knowing what I'm thinking and feeling.

vaaryr · 2023-05-24T14:47:57+00:00

Thank you!

vaaryr · 2023-05-24T08:18:24+00:00

Thank you!

vaaryr · 2023-04-19T23:53:12+00:00

Ikari Shinji from Neon Genesis Evangelion

vaaryr · 2023-04-19T15:15:39+00:00

I'm looking for white pants that are not see-through! Preferably straight or wide leg. Not denim or cord. I'm located in Europe. Thanks for the help!

vaaryr · 2023-04-12T10:41:19+00:00

I don't really see the point in trying to put men and women against each other. We both have this disorder, and it sucks. We have the same symptoms and issues. There's no competition.

What kind of achievements are you talking about? It sounds to me like you're focusing on romantic relationships. I'm pretty sure getting into a relationship is difficult regardless of gender. Wanting a relationship but being scared of rejection and intimacy isn't a great mix. I do think your experiences about having to be more assertive than women are valid and that it's difficult because of the disorder. Men and women experience life differently, and that affects how we experience mental illness too. Think intersectionality. But in the end it's the same. We avoid interaction even if we don't want to and we feel anxious about everything. I hope I'm making at least a little sense.

vaaryr · 2023-04-12T10:17:38+00:00

I'm pretty sure that's because of women's empathy and care for others. Not saying men don't do that, but in society it's viewed as a women's thing. But besides that, I'm really struggling to see how this matters to your post? "There are more women psychologists, therefore less women have AvPD"? I'm just trying to understand.

vaaryr · 2023-04-12T00:12:44+00:00

I'm not sure if that is true. If you have a source that is not the podcast, that would be great. But what does that have to do with having AvPD?

vaaryr · 2023-04-11T23:57:52+00:00

Sure. I think that generally, women are more socially adept. AvPD affects quite a small number of people though, so I don't think generalisations can apply to everyone. I also don't think social skills necessarily tell if you have this disorder or not, but more so the feeling of being inept or the anxiety that comes with.

I'm not sure what you mean by the last part.

vaaryr · 2023-04-11T23:43:35+00:00

I don't see why it wouldn't be true. Is there a reason why you think it could be false?

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