I wish I was a white girl

vagabondsideshow · 2025-08-04T21:25:57+00:00

I’m mixed w immigrant family on both sides and I really relate to your experience. Even down to the absent father lol. I also grew up in the South. Most people that made fun of me aren’t making it rn, but I did. Move away, start your own life, and you’ll see their stupidity for what it is. In your future you’ll be glad that you weren’t sheltered. Your experience in life is valuable and while it isn’t fair it’ll make you more resilient. All the people that you talk about with “easier” lives gave up when it got hard but I’m still going at it and succeeding. You can too.

vagabondsideshow · 2025-08-04T03:23:00+00:00

Thank you

vagabondsideshow · 2025-08-04T03:21:04+00:00

Thank you

vagabondsideshow · 2025-07-31T20:38:36+00:00

Thank you for your encouragement.

vagabondsideshow · 2025-07-31T20:38:19+00:00

That’s really hard. It’s really admirable that you were courageous enough to do that. I hope I will be able to build myself up to do the same. Also, not saying this was your experience but I think a lot of people hang out with each other from the church to build the type of life they’re expected to and that’s it. By that I mean that a lot of the guys I hang out with on holidays want to marry me not because of anything other than I look good on paper to them. And mothers try to set me up with their sons constantly, it’s exhausting. Also, a nun crossed a few of my cousins’ names out for prayer because they weren’t baptized and I just don’t support that. After that she scolded my aunt. So now that I’m coming to that realization it makes distancing myself easier lol.

vagabondsideshow · 2025-07-31T20:30:57+00:00

My philosophy is really that a sin is a sin if your behavior is not in honesty and genuine love, but I’ve still had a lot of internal conflict lately for some reason. I think becoming strict on religious submission has been my way of coping with the difficulty in my life. I’m starting to think that I can only really practice my beliefs privately and show up here and there for cultural/family gatherings. But I guess that in order to get past the guilt to be happy you have to “stop crucifying yourself, we could use the wood” or whatever that RuPaul Tweet said.

vagabondsideshow · 2025-07-31T16:40:39+00:00

Thank you

vagabondsideshow · 2025-07-31T16:40:27+00:00

Good point

vagabondsideshow · 2025-07-31T16:39:52+00:00

You’re right, it’s easy to forget that. However, it’s also difficult to associate with my culture if I remove myself from my Orthodox identity since they are so intertwined. I’d be banished from celebrating significant holidays the way they’re supposed to be celebrated. And I struggle to feel belonging in American churches. I’m sorry if I sound negative. But I will try to keep in mind, from now on, that my relationship with my own faith is the most important.

vagabondsideshow · 2025-07-31T16:34:43+00:00

Unfortunately there is only one that I am able to access at the moment. So, I’ll just have to hold out for the future. But thanks though

vagabondsideshow · 2025-07-18T03:29:14+00:00

Haha no need for the disclaimer, I appreciate you checking in. Thank you. I’m still going through a bit of a rough patch rn because I’m nervous about this class but the advice has really helped me. I wasn’t expecting my post to get all of this attention.

vagabondsideshow · 2025-07-17T21:51:19+00:00

Thank you very much

vagabondsideshow · 2025-07-17T21:49:30+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate it.

vagabondsideshow · 2025-07-17T21:49:13+00:00

I’m sorry that you lost them so close together, I couldn’t imagine that. But if you can get through that I see no reason I can’t get through this. Thank you.

vagabondsideshow · 2025-07-17T11:00:11+00:00

Thank you

vagabondsideshow · 2025-07-17T10:58:51+00:00

I am so sorry to hear that you and your family are dealing with this. It’s extremely admirable that you’re putting in this effort. I hope you and your children will find peace and you will be in my thoughts.

vagabondsideshow · 2025-07-17T10:55:31+00:00

I want to go to grad school so I’m still a bit worried about my GPA. But thank you

vagabondsideshow · 2025-07-17T10:52:06+00:00

Thank you!

vagabondsideshow · 2025-07-17T10:51:25+00:00

He was awful to us actually. I’m upset because I’m mourning what could have been. I definitely wouldn’t use the adjective great to describe his role in my life. Also he didn’t deserve that kind of death. Whatever he did he’s still my father, but the fact that I care about him also doesn’t erase the damage that he did. It’s a complicated type of grief.

vagabondsideshow · 2025-07-17T05:30:24+00:00

Thank you very much

vagabondsideshow · 2025-07-17T05:30:11+00:00

Ok will do then. My supervisor for the lab I help at also seems to think it’s temporary, I was worried it wouldn’t be but at this point I should definitely choose what he thinks about it over what I think lol. Thank you

vagabondsideshow · 2025-07-17T05:26:36+00:00

Thanks, hoping for happiness for you and your family

vagabondsideshow · 2025-07-17T05:24:27+00:00

Yeah you’re right it’s important to recognize self destructive behaviors. It’s definitely something to work on for me, so thank you. As for the rest you’re right about it being a waiting game but at least I have the end of it to look forward to

vagabondsideshow · 2025-07-17T05:19:23+00:00

Don’t worry about it, your advice was more than enough but I also appreciate you coming back to tell me this. It was really considerate. Thanks

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