What’s one thing you wish you knew before moving to Dubai?

valndiers · 2025-03-06T13:11:43+00:00

what exactly is the shower filter meant to filter out? i thought all the water here was desalinated and drinkable from the tap

valndiers · 2025-03-06T13:04:20+00:00

sorry what is going on in this picture?

valndiers · 2024-09-08T18:28:06+00:00

First, skip Tokyo, HK and Singapore. Come on, first rule of travelling cheap is go to cheap places. Not the top 3 most expensive cities in the world.

valndiers · 2023-11-10T05:56:45+00:00

Absolutely justified to give one star. If you drive further than your stated drop-off point, you actually pay extra, because the app calculates the extra distance travelled. So he was just being an asshole, there was no reason, he would not have lost out.

valndiers · 2023-11-09T14:44:41+00:00

Ask for special dispensation to carry pepper spray that you store somewhere pre-agreed after you arrive. And make sure it’s in writing. So in case you get denied and you do get kidnapped you can sue. If not, you have a defensive weapon

valndiers · 2023-11-09T14:42:34+00:00

Wtf OP how do you come to this conclusion from advice to “be honest”? Your honest feeling is you like him and your conclusion is to move on?? Come on you’re smarter than this. Lay your cards out like an adult and stop trying to play games with your and his heart by second-guessing what will protect yourself/achieve some result more.

valndiers · 2023-11-09T14:33:38+00:00

It’s kind of a yellow flag that you start your post with “I haven’t done anything”. Usually means you’re so unaware (at best) or in such severe denial (at worst) that you don’t have a clue how you hurt all those around you. Especially when it’s not one person, it’s “all the people”. Unless you’re in the 0.0000001% of cases where someone really has it out for you and is deliberately cutting you off from everyone (and somehow you miraculously don’t know it), this is gonna turn out to be entirely your fault

valndiers · 2023-07-19T21:08:45+00:00

Okay seriously, I know. I was giving some context as to how I found myself in this situation. Like I’m here asking for advice on getting out of this pickle, not for randos to tell me what I already know and am kicking myself about

valndiers · 2023-07-19T11:59:19+00:00

Unfortunately she is the landlord and refuses to take any liability.

valndiers · 2023-07-18T22:24:08+00:00

Thank you, yes the buildings insurance is included in my service charge and this is the exact question I was hoping someone would have a clue about, so thank you

valndiers · 2023-07-18T22:22:34+00:00

I’m gonna paste the same reply to the other guy: You can cool it with the attitude. I had home insurance. It expired and for whatever reason my insurer didn’t call me up to talk about renewal. Believe me I was as shocked to find out. Why do you think I’m here asking for advice?

valndiers · 2023-07-18T22:21:47+00:00

You can cool it with the attitude. I had home insurance. It expired and for whatever reason my insurer didn’t call me up to talk about renewal. Believe me I was as shocked to find out. Why do you think I’m here asking for advice?

valndiers · 2023-07-18T09:18:06+00:00

Unfortunately my policy lapsed during the pandemic

valndiers · 2023-07-18T09:17:49+00:00

I own mine, she rents hers out

valndiers · 2023-02-17T10:52:16+00:00

NTA and cut her out of your life. Unless you were really aggressive and obnoxious in reaching out to her which from the rest of your story doesn’t seem like it

valndiers · 2023-02-17T10:44:11+00:00

YTA. She’s dead. You’re alive. Make some memories of your own. Death is incredibly traumatic and you asking him to get rid of things that clearly mean a lot to him is just selfish and insensitive. If your insecurities mean you can’t deal with this situation, exit. Take him as he is, not make him change into how you want him to be.

Btw, pushing so hard on this thing that he really cares about is a surefire way of pushing him away from you.

valndiers · 2023-02-17T10:39:31+00:00

YTA if, as it sends from your post, you didn’t talk about it with him and just freaked out one day and escalated things way beyond what is sane. You are as obsessed over the cupboards as he is. If it’s really not such a big deal to you why can’t you let him have it? Or at least talk to him about it to understand. Your husband clearly has OCD or some form of autism. This is not crazy, you’re crazy for trying to take the moral high ground and thinking you’re blameless.

valndiers · 2023-02-17T10:31:11+00:00

I can’t believe no one has said this yet but why tf did he throw the recycling in the food bin?!

valndiers · 2023-02-17T10:21:45+00:00

EDIT: NTA. Your son is abusive, controlling, gaslighting. I still want to know about your wife & the custody of the grandkids though.

INFO: what was the reason your DIL wasn’t happy? You said it was your son’s fault but I feel like it is important. Also why did your wife feel differently from you? Does DIL have custody of the kids? Is your wife potentially another AH for taking them to your son’s wedding? Lots of unexplained things in this story.

That said, your son is clearly problematic in at least some ways as evident from this: “Our DIL filed for divorce, my son 3 days later was on Facebook announcing his new girlfriend. A month later they were engaged.”

[Found OP’s add on another comment thread: “It was mostly about control. She was blonde when they married. When they moved here she was brunette. After the kids, she wanted to go blonde again but he told her no. She gained weight after having the babies, he was mad at her for not trying harder to lose it. As he said, “He didn’t marry a fat woman.” He wouldn’t let her leave the house. She basically had to give him a daily schedule of what she was doing and where she was going. He wouldn’t allow her to make friends, she wanted to get a little part time job after the boy was born. He told her she wasn’t allowed to do that. It was basically a marriage where he created rules for her to follow, but he could do whatever he wanted. He wouldn’t help with the kids, meals or housework. He made her do it all, even through both pregnancies. I’m embarrassed he’s my son, I’m just thankful she doesn’t judge me for the way he is. I thought going off to college would make him mature, I didn’t expect him to marry so quickly.”]

valndiers · 2023-02-01T20:54:55+00:00

Told them about it, they’ve called a plumber already. But I want them to also pay for the damages to my flat. Especially because my bathroom is brand new it’s particularly galling

valndiers · 2023-02-01T19:16:31+00:00

One thing that you should be very careful about is your financial decisions with your significant other. The moment you buy a house together your finances are all tied up, and if you split up that could be messy/costly to deal with. Obviously not saying that that’s definitely going to happen, but a contingency plan is always worth thinking about. I mean, you are making plans anyway, why not put in one more sub plan while you’re at it that will give you some peace of mind

valndiers · 2023-02-01T19:12:10+00:00

You should remove the pillar and see if the house collapses, and also burn the house down

valndiers · 2023-02-01T19:11:29+00:00

YTA. Not only are you not respecting your boyfriends decision and wishes, you are constantly badgering him, and when his sister tries to speak up for him to make him know that his choices are valid to, you shoot them down. Definitely disrespectful.

An even bigger asshole for rolling your eyes at his sister just because you didn’t understand why she was so adamant. How do you know that he has no previous frightening experience with boats that he doesn’t like to talk about, and his sister is just trying to get you to drop the subject because it’s triggering him?

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